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Within the last two months I met a girl who I got along with quite well. We talked abit and even hung out two or three times. I started to get feelings for this girl but it seemed like in the span of a few days she lost interest. Which is fine on her... View more

Within the last two months I met a girl who I got along with quite well. We talked abit and even hung out two or three times. I started to get feelings for this girl but it seemed like in the span of a few days she lost interest. Which is fine on her behalf because she didn’t really owe me anything and all, I did feel abit betrayed just because it happened at the snap of a finger and there was no warning. For the next 3-4 weeks I was feeling real down in ways I had never felt before, I thought I had known what it was like to feel sad/depressed before but for some reason this one really hit me hard and I was quite taken back from it just because I really hadn’t known her that long. I told a few friends that I was feeling down but not the extent of how I was really feeling, they helped and all as much as they could but it was still those times when I was alone in my own thoughts which tourtured me. Anyways In those weeks I had deleted this girl off a few social media just cause I was sick of seeing here but a few weeks later she added me back and started talking to me again. I thought she was just trying to be nice so I went along with it Aswell with the hope that she wanted me again. This talking progresses for about two weeks where she even asked to set up a day where me and my friends could see her and her friends. It was all going well until that same thing happened where she went cold on me in the matter of a day or so. This really had me down In the dumps again. From prior knowledge I know she had a guy that she used to see but they didn’t anymore but I feel as if she still wants and every time she feels as if she is not getting attention from him or whatever she comes to me for some validation and when he does come back around she gives me the flick, that’s what I think would explain how she goes so cold on me. I was just wondering for some outside perspective on what you believe this situation may be and what steps I should take into further helping my mental health. I’ve been really grey lately about the whole situation and it has started to affect my social life

I'm so confused right now, and i want other peoples thoughts.

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So basically i am 17 and i am still in high school, it all started off at the starting off 2018 where i done a bunch of weed with one of my friends.. from that day forward i never felt like the same person ever again, i started to have chest issues a... View more

So basically i am 17 and i am still in high school, it all started off at the starting off 2018 where i done a bunch of weed with one of my friends.. from that day forward i never felt like the same person ever again, i started to have chest issues and i was stressing more than usual and i was experiencing extreme anxiety, to the point where i was scared to go watch a movie with my friends because i thought i would have a heart attack because of the loud sounds (i know sounds stupid), everything was adding up to my stress, i was doing bad in school due my head being a constant fog and my concentration was terrible as well, my own family played an enormous part in my stress, not because they weren't supportive (i do love my mother, she tries really hard to support us) but me and my older brother would always fight and every time he was around me i would just crumble into a dark pit of misery, I just could never EVER get close with my brother, for some reason i just want to be as far away from him as possible, to the point where i don't want to ever see his face again, and i am not feeling this way because of hatred but because of the absolute fear that i will end up like him... sad, depressed, and miserable. I thought my life would never be the same. So around the mid 2018 mark i started to notice something, nothing around me felt real, i started to get paranoid over the fact that everything around me was a either a simulation or I entered an alternate universe or something (paranoia is a scary thing), but after i while i was told that because of the massive amount of stress i was under my brain wanted a way out, so the only way it could do that was by locking itself in a cage, basically i was feeling this way because my brain had enough and wanted to escape. So this took a long time to recover on but we now reach the starting of 2019 when i finally think my life is coming back together again and I'm at the point where i am finally at peace with myself and my thoughts. That's until me and family found out that my brother is now suffering with cancer, this is so hard for me to handle because he thinks I am the only rational person he could talk to (because of the chemo he has suffered some manic episodes), the weird thing is, is the fact that i feel as though i feel nothing anymore, just yesterday my brother sad on his bed and cried in agony and i didn't even know what to feel. I wasn't angry, i wasn't happy, i wasn't sad....I just don't know anymore.

Need advise .I am really stress due to this.

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I am in love with a man.While working together at work place we both started liking each other but hardly talked to each other.Initially I was totally unaware of this but I gradually I started noticing that he likes me and I started liking him and it... View more

I am in love with a man.While working together at work place we both started liking each other but hardly talked to each other.Initially I was totally unaware of this but I gradually I started noticing that he likes me and I started liking him and it got intense by the time while seeing each other everyday but we hardly talked to each other once or twice.It sounds weired but this is the fact.There was always a lack of communication from his side.While doing bit of enquiry about him I found out he is a gay and was in relationship with someone for 15 years but no one at work know it.His behavior was bit different than others like lack of communication and bit quite side in his behavior .We have each other 's mobile numbers but never talked to each other .I messages him first time at his mobile and he blocked me and then unblock me and still checking my times on WhatsApp and following me during those times.I messaged him 2 more times to wish on New year but no reply from his sides but his behavior was same which shows he likes me but don't reply my messages.Now because I have left my previous company and joined an another company.The situation and bond between us is still same I can feel it but its really hard to communicate with him.I have tried couple of times.I can change my number but this is the only connection between us at this stage .And I am afraid t to loose this connection but it is hurtful and painful when he doesn't respond the messages but still shows he likes me . I am assuming it just his backound life stopping him to send me a message because according to him I don't know anything.And he doesn't know that I know everything and still feel the same about him but I can't tell him because he doesn't communicate with me.I want to talk to him or catch for coffee but how ?This is so hurtful.I don't know what to do ?

What happens when you don’t know?

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I’m getting pretty sick of things, not gonna lie. I just don’t know how to feel, how to act anymore. School started up, which brang some new drama, and issues. (Y’know, all the good stuff) Its just making me feel more and more sick of everything, lik... View more

I’m getting pretty sick of things, not gonna lie. I just don’t know how to feel, how to act anymore. School started up, which brang some new drama, and issues. (Y’know, all the good stuff) Its just making me feel more and more sick of everything, like, I’m ok, but, am I? Im just really confused, i want it be ok, I want to be positive like the other girls, I want to be happy like the other girls, but, I can’t. I wanna be different, I want to change, but I can’t, and that’s getting to me. I want to be like the other kids, and, for the most part, I’m not. Why does that get to me? The other kids can be happy, feel happy, and I can too, but, theres something different, I feel fake Does anyone know how to handle school, and kids, things like that? (I don’t really know anymore, taking things in your stride stops working after you start to realise it. Getting through the school day is getting harder to manage, and, considering I’ve barely started, is gonna be difficult to keep up with.) Would be much appreciated, Sam

Giving up on finding work.

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Hey guys, it's been way too long since I've posted here (5-6 months give or take) While my schooling problems have subsided (I did very well in conquering them if anyone was wondering!), a new problem has arisen. Ever since I graduated in November 20... View more

Hey guys, it's been way too long since I've posted here (5-6 months give or take) While my schooling problems have subsided (I did very well in conquering them if anyone was wondering!), a new problem has arisen. Ever since I graduated in November 2018, I have been struggling to find part-time/casual work. Given how long the holidays have been, I thought it would give me something to do and will also serve as a stepping stone for finding a job after University. Unfortunately, I have never had a job up until this point and because I live in Adelaide; a city known for its inadequate job opportunities, things are looking even worse on my end. I have checked Seek and Indeed daily for the last few months and, whenever I apply for a job, I will more than likely get an email saying that I have not progressed to an interview (It would probably be 100+ times now that I've received these emails). The only type of work that I feel is best for me is retail as I have a multitude of reasons why working in fast food is terrible. I got some help from one of my teachers on how to write an effective resume but even then, it probably doesn't look as good as say, someone who has worked in a casual position for a few years. I could go on about how much of a joke it is to find a job these days, but frankly I don't want to bore any of you with my sob story. I think really all I have to ask is, what am I doing wrong?

Anxiety about Relationship

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I have been with my boyfriend for almost nine months now. The first seven months were completely blissful, we fell very deeply in love and we still are deeply in love. However, just before the new year I had a panic attack while talking to him. Since... View more

I have been with my boyfriend for almost nine months now. The first seven months were completely blissful, we fell very deeply in love and we still are deeply in love. However, just before the new year I had a panic attack while talking to him. Since then, I’ve been filled with fear about the future of our relationship. he was the first guy I’ve ever been with, and was my first for everything from holding hands to kissing to sex. He is completely wonderful and amazing, and although our opinions differ somewhat, it’s nothing major and doesn’t put a strain on our relationship at all. These thoughts started as ‘do I really love him’. that lasted for about three weeks. I realised I did love him, so very very very much. He is an incredible man and he is incredible to me. He does have flaws, but so do I and we communicate through the minor frustrations very easily. Now my thoughts have turned to ‘it’s either we stay together forever or we break up’. I see a future with him very clearly, but I’m still scared. Mostly of myself. I know how strong his love and commitment and loyalty is. I think it’s me I’m concerned about; do I love him enough, will I ever fall out of love, am I falling out of love by worrying about this all the time? Is this worrying a sign it’s not meant to be? Will I waste my time? Am I wasting his time? when we are together everything is fine and normal and wonderful and loving 99% of the time. The other 1% is when I’m reminded briefly of my thoughts and feel incredibly guilty about ever having them. It makes me feel like I don’t deserve him, he deserves much more than me and it must not be meant to be if I had them at all at the same time I am very aware love is both a feeling and a choice. I choose to love him, and I will choose him over and over and over despite the anxiety telling me to break up with him to rid him of me or rid me of this turmoil. My gut feeling is that despite anything we will end up back with each other. My intuition tells me this is something to hold on to and never let go of. When I’m not constantly overthinking or ruminating I feel very content and at peace with him and I love him very intensely. I just want what’s best for him, I want to make him the happiest guy in the world because he makes me so incredibly happy and feel so loved and cherished. these constant thoughts of ‘what if he isn’t the one’ constantly plague me and make me feel guilty. I want to choose love over fear, I believe he’s my happy ending

my gf says she loves me, but she doesn't..

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Me and my girlfriend have been together now for over a year and I think she's losing interest in me, that hurts me and makes me depressed a lot she started by ignoring me in texts and doesn't respond when I tell her that I love her, she instead says ... View more

Me and my girlfriend have been together now for over a year and I think she's losing interest in me, that hurts me and makes me depressed a lot she started by ignoring me in texts and doesn't respond when I tell her that I love her, she instead says ( thank you ) which it brings me down.. I feel like she's talking to a friend, not her boyfriend.. what do I do to make her love me again?

Relationship OCD ?

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Hi, I am 24 years old and i have been with my boyfriend for 10 months now. He is my first serious relationship. He lives in Australia and I come from France. My visa to stay here is expiring in a week. We were planning on leaving the country together... View more

Hi, I am 24 years old and i have been with my boyfriend for 10 months now. He is my first serious relationship. He lives in Australia and I come from France. My visa to stay here is expiring in a week. We were planning on leaving the country together and then coming back to start the process for a partnership visa. We’ve had 10 months of pure happiness. He is the best person I have ever met. Our relationship was so simple and sincere. Since about a week ago, I started to be very anxious and emotional. I cried every time i looked at him. I was feeling very down. And now I question everything. I have so many doubts about my love for him, even if I was sure he was the one. I wonder if he is the right one, if I really love him, I look at him and ask myself why am I with him. And then I think that if I ever leave him, it will hurt him so much, and I don’t want that. I am just so scared to heart him. I am even scared to make love with him, in case I would think that during this time. I feel like I am avoiding contact, physical contact with him, because I am so scared of what I think. I feel anxious every time I look at him. I have moments of clarity when i know I love him, but then my thoughts just catch up and bring me down again. I also don’t have any more joy in life now. Every new day is a struggle. I can’t see my future and it freaks me out a bit. I feel like my thoughts are irrational. Nothing makes sense as I was so sure about everything before. My boyfriend is very understanding with my issues and tries his best but I heart him when I tell him I want to leave and leave him behind. Now I have thoughts that I will stay with him so I don’t heart him. It is a vicious circle.

What else can I do to help?

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For as long as I’ve known my friends quite a few of them have struggled a bit with their mental health. I tended to help them get help but since then I’ve moved far away and it’s a lot harder to support them. One of my my closest friends isn’t going ... View more

For as long as I’ve known my friends quite a few of them have struggled a bit with their mental health. I tended to help them get help but since then I’ve moved far away and it’s a lot harder to support them. One of my my closest friends isn’t going very well again and I was hoping I could get advice on how to help her out. She says she’s been breaking down, feels sad all the time and sometimes just starts crying for no reason. She also mentioned that the world feels fake. Like everything looks slightly blurry and strange, like she’s watching from a strangers eyes. I know I can’t know for sure but that last part sounds an awful lot like derealisation/depersonalisation. I felt a similar way a couple years back, I know how awful it feels and it really upsets me to know that she’s going through it too. Her mum was trying organise for her to see someone, but that was a couple weeks ago and my friend knows that its likely to not actually end up happening. I’ve told her to talk to someone at school or use one of the online services but she finds it difficult to ask others for help. I contacted her school and asked if they could help her, now I’m just waiting for a response. Is there anything else I can be doing to support her?

Intrusive thoughts

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I get intrusive thoughts very frequently and as anyone else who experiences this knows, it can be very stressful. I have schizophrenia (diagnosed), and i often believe people are reading my mind, so its a mad panic when i have these thoughts. I'm con... View more

I get intrusive thoughts very frequently and as anyone else who experiences this knows, it can be very stressful. I have schizophrenia (diagnosed), and i often believe people are reading my mind, so its a mad panic when i have these thoughts. I'm constantly trying to spam my thoughts to cover up the bad ones with repeated words like "stop" or "no" and other things. this also happens with mental images. These unwanted thoughts can range from me thinking bad things that i don't believe about people, like calling them ugly, to homicidal intrusive thoughts to even unwanted sexual ones. It's like my thoughts are sabotaging me. So yeah, i just wanted to vent about this frustration since i'm not fully comfortable talking about my intrusive thoughts with my psychologist or psychiatrist or family members. Does anyone else have something similar going on?

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I'm so confused right now, and i want other peoples thoughts.

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Need advise .I am really stress due to this.

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