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How do I tell my parents I think I'm depressed?

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For the past 2 months I've had a strong feeling I'm depressed. I've tried bringing it up to my parents but I don't know how to do it. I feel as though they might shrug it off and forget about it or either overreact. I was thinking about going straigh... View more

For the past 2 months I've had a strong feeling I'm depressed. I've tried bringing it up to my parents but I don't know how to do it. I feel as though they might shrug it off and forget about it or either overreact. I was thinking about going straight to my GP but I strongly feel I need to tell my parents. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

How to find friends

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I've noticed a growing trend on this forum with new members having difficulty finding friends. Let's look at the history of how people found friends in the past, then we will look at today. In the 1800's before cars, telephone and planes there were t... View more

I've noticed a growing trend on this forum with new members having difficulty finding friends. Let's look at the history of how people found friends in the past, then we will look at today. In the 1800's before cars, telephone and planes there were trains but by and large travelling wasn't done in great distances. People relied only on the immediate town/s for friends and partners. This limited peoples ability to find friends or members of the opposite sex in large numbers, which meant people often married the best available which likely wasn't so compatible in the long run. It didn't matter though as marriage was forever...like it or not. How times have changed but up until the 1980's the most common way to meet was at dancing. That most common way to meet a future partner was really popular from ballroom to disco. Then dancing became old fashioned...the best way to meet up with someone vanished. Suddenly we relied on computer dating. In fact imo it is far more efficient than dancing. you can place your profile online, search for similar profiles and sometimes it works- like my daughter and her husband did and what a match it turned out to be. So I'd recommend that method, what about plain friendships? Friendships need key ingredients. The glue that binds the friendship is the common factor like a hobby, vintage cars, model airplanes, sewing groups, voluntary work and so on. In fact my ex BIL had no friends and so he took my advice and he joined StJohns first aid organization. For years he has walked the footy grounds among crowds to render first aid, most of his friends are his colleagues now. No different than joining the armed forces (but they have a contract) where you will make friends in fact, some of my friends were in the RAAF like me some 45 years ago. Not everyone wants to join the ADF even though there are many reasons why I'd recommend it like good pay, adventure, cheap meals and mates. But in general you need that "glue" to meet others or you are guessing on the compatibility. Do some deep thinking about this "glue". Seek out your interests and pursue that field to meet others. Don't expect to fit in immediately, take your time to suss out the people, to trust some but beware the unsavory and take your time entering into committee membership. Many of us that do have mental illness issues cannot cope with the squabbling and criticism. Good luck TonyWK

I have very pale skin that is destroying my self esteem

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I get called "albino" and "ghost" at school by random people and even my friends. I just want to look like everyone else but I feel like I'm just known as the white kid. I probably get a comment every single day and they're all nasty. I don't know wh... View more

I get called "albino" and "ghost" at school by random people and even my friends. I just want to look like everyone else but I feel like I'm just known as the white kid. I probably get a comment every single day and they're all nasty. I don't know what to do and I feel like I'm trapped in my own body for the rest of my life.

Newbie here---Would like some advice on how to balance work and studies...

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I work in a hotel, housekeeping department, and at the same time studying too. I have a hard time balancing both since I need to keep the job too to pay for my tuition. Any tips on how to manage both without having panic attacks? thanks

Fight with boyfriend

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Why would your boyfriend text you the next morning “missing you heaps” after a big argument the night before and it made him in tears. I’m confused.

always scared my boyfriend is going to get hurt

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Hi everyone, i have been with my boyfriend for little over a year. i have always been an incredibly anxious person and i often worry about both myself and my loved ones getting hurt or something bad happening to us. more recently, i have become extre... View more

Hi everyone, i have been with my boyfriend for little over a year. i have always been an incredibly anxious person and i often worry about both myself and my loved ones getting hurt or something bad happening to us. more recently, i have become extremely anxious regarding my boyfriend and his wellbeing. i feel the need to call him every couple of hours despite us still being busy at work or school. if i haven’t spoken to him or kept in contact with him much that day i begin to cry and worry and repeatedly call him in a panic just to make sure he’s okay. he’s the only thing i think about and it’s stopping me from doing simple things like work, homework, etc. he knows i have anxiety and says he will try his best to answer all my calls but when he doesn’t it makes me so much more scared and panicked. i honestly don’t know what to do. if i don’t know where he is or what he’s doing i cry and panic instantly, and i physically can’t stop until he calls back or i can see he’s active online. since “online activity” indications aren’t always accurate, i constantly check up to see if he’s active and i can’t tell if it’s accurate or not which makes me more and more anxious. i just want help on how to manage this anxiety. i love my boyfriend and i know he loves me just as much. i know that the logical way of thinking is that there is a very slim chance that he is ever in danger or hurt, but even the simplicity of him being busy and not answering my calls really upsets me. i just want to stop being so scared and anxious and start living my own life. any suggestions ?

I'm a little bit lost.

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I can't motivate myself anymore I can't seem to think positively. I practice unhealthy relationships with my friends. I am in a long term relationship and I'm not sure if I even want to be in it. I'm stuck in a town I absolutely can't stand with a de... View more

I can't motivate myself anymore I can't seem to think positively. I practice unhealthy relationships with my friends. I am in a long term relationship and I'm not sure if I even want to be in it. I'm stuck in a town I absolutely can't stand with a desire for more that I can't seem to actually motivate myself for. My parents had a bad outlook on mental health and medication and so for what feels like my whole life I've been telling myself it's not that bad. But I'm starting to realize it is. I've tried therapies but the talking alone doesn't seem to help. I know and understand the what they're saying and I definately try to apply it. But it seems like I'm pouring a teaspoon into the ocean trying to tackle my issues with mindfulness and whatnot. I've been to three different doctors about trying to get on medication but they've all prescribed me different things. Being a free clinic (can't afford anything else) I get less than 10 minutes talking and they shove me out the door with very little information on whatever they've prescribed me. So far I've been to scared to take anything. I can see the steps I have to take in my life to get better. I just can't seem to make them. I feel like my passions and dreams slip away more and more everyday and I feel less and less like myself everyday. I know I have a boatload of problems. But I'm scared I guess. To admit to them, own up to them. I want a doctor to actually listen and explain to me what I need to do to get better or something. I feel like I'm spiralling downward. My whole life I've never truly believed I had potential for anything. I can honestly say that. But I know I can be something better and live a better life I am just so lost as to how. What steps do I take how do I make myself get the help I need with such s**t family support. I don't know why I'm even posting this I just needed to say that I look at people younger than me and they are doing so well and I wonder why the hell I'm so useless.

Where to from here?

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My life is a mess.. Over the summer holidays my boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me, it was sudden and I really didn't see it coming. Everyone said it was "good timing" because a week later I was headed to Europe to complete an internship for my cu... View more

My life is a mess.. Over the summer holidays my boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me, it was sudden and I really didn't see it coming. Everyone said it was "good timing" because a week later I was headed to Europe to complete an internship for my current bachelors degree. To be honest, it did feel like a good thing at the time, I had a great time whilst I was away and met so many great new people and formed new friendships. I've been back home now for 3 weeks and all I can think about is being away again, it's been hard to come back to uni and face everything that happened before I went away. I feel like I'm just trying to live as if I am still away and have made some pretty concrete plans to go back to Europe and rekindle my friendships once I graduate. I feel like I might be in denial about how I'm feeling but I don't really know how to address it. For now I'm just feeling really down and without purpose, the end of the year feels like a lifetime away and I find I'm just wishing away my time - I don't like it. I'm coping by stress eating and going out on the weekends, but this is making me feel worse because I'm gaining weight and feeling negative about my body image. Also, I'm spending too much money trying to make myself feel better when I need to be saving if I want to go away again. I'm just in such a negative place right now and I don't know how to deal with it. I feel so lost, can someone help?

Anxiety at school!

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I have been finding it really hard coping with my anxiety at school! I've been having to leave class and just go to the toilets and breathe because I cant cope! At the moment in my health class, we are talking about mental health even just thinking a... View more

I have been finding it really hard coping with my anxiety at school! I've been having to leave class and just go to the toilets and breathe because I cant cope! At the moment in my health class, we are talking about mental health even just thinking about it makes me wanna be sick. every time we start talking about it i have to leave and go to the toilet because i start having anxiety/panic attack! please help i don't want people to know i have anxiety! i feel like whenever my teacher starts describing someone with anxiety everyone starts looking at me and notices that i am doing everything she says! i just want to be normal.

Friends are confusing!

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I don't know if my friends are really my friends anymore? My other friend's ar saying that there talking smack about me, ki don't know y they would do that was so close were besties! there hurting my feeling left to right and centre i don't know what... View more

I don't know if my friends are really my friends anymore? My other friend's ar saying that there talking smack about me, ki don't know y they would do that was so close were besties! there hurting my feeling left to right and centre i don't know what to do?

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