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Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies

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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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hi new and shy - How to cope with feeling anxious?

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i do not have any real friends i have some online friends and i am in 6th grade this year and i think i have anxiety and sometimes i would like support and help to be social because i do not have many people to talk to about it

i think my friend is a lesbian and has a crush on me

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one of my best friends i have known for a long time is very close to me all of a sudden and texts me a lot of hearts and she says "i love you" a lot and texts "kiss" a lot too but im not sure if its friendly or if she has a crush on me. i really think she is and i want to ask her but im not sure how to ask if shes a lesbian without upsetting her or embarrassing myself because what if she isnt and she thinks im a lesbian because i asked i really have to ask her because it makes me a little uncomfortable with the strange things she's been saying recently... please help if you know what to do

The battle in my head, from me to you

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Hey all, (brief talk about being suicidal and getting admitted to a psychiatric hospital, I won't go into detail) This post is about the journey of my struggles of what goes on in my head. I have suffered from multiple illnesses, BPD, Pure O OCD, Social and general anxiety disorder, and an unspecified eating disorder. I have been struggling with various forms of these since I can remember. This year I am turning 23. I have no clue what I want to do with life, I was scared not knowing what I want to do. However, now I have accepted that fact and am now okay with where I am even if I don't like it. That is okay. I have struggled with depression shame and guilt since I can recall. I constantly told myself I wasn't worth it. It wasn't worth trying and there was no point. I didn't get out of bed. I never said yes to anything as I didn't want to use any effort. Didn't want to get out of bed, shower, eat or even socialize. I changed this slowly, step by step. But not before I got to my lowest point, I was suicidal. I needed help. I got admitted to hospital, multiple times. I was safe. I learned ways to manage, to cope, to get along with life. I made friends, I learned skills, I got better. This wouldn't have been possible without my friends, family, the staff that worked with me and my determination to help myself. I have been to multiple psychologists for the past 7 years once a week. I was a mess. I have improved, I have gained confidence, I can talk about my story, I can seek help when I need it, I can live and I can love. This is only a brief story and I might go into more detail in more subforums. In my own eyes, I thought it wasn't possible to improve my attitude, to improve my health. I was wrong. I am at a more comfortable weight, I have less intrusive thoughts, I can manage my anxiety and can get out of bed each day and be productive. I am human, I have flaws but that is who we are, I can't dwell on that. If I can do this, so can you. All it takes is starting with one thing at a time if you struggle to get out of bed just start with getting out of your bed and touching your door and go back to bed. That is an improvement, not as much as you hoped but it gets better, it gets easier. You got this! One step at a time and you can conquer the world, you can conquer your mind, you can conquer the battle in your head. I believe in myself but I believe in you too. You tried your best, but you can do better next time. From me to you, best of luck!

Breakup due to depression

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My boyfriend had been suffering from depression for about 2 months. He said he didn’t know why he felt the way that he did that he was empty and lost feelings for everything including me. When he broke up he seemed to have no hope of getting better. We were madly in love and before this had no issues in our relationship. We’re still close but it’s hard when I’m still in love with him. He’s my best friend and i want nothing more than to see him better so my focus right now is just to support him but I wonder if I’m silly to hold onto hope that he might get the feelings back that he used to have and that we could have the future we were planning together.

partner in the army and when he leaves i get so depressed. someone help me please.

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My partner is constantly away for his job and the minimum duration is usually 3 weeks but most of them are 2 months. Every time he leaves me I try to stay occupied but it never lasts. He is currently away atm and I feel like I'm dying inside. I haven't been able to text or call him for about 2 weeks. I'm so lonely inside and my normal home life doesn't continue when he is away. I can't sleep at night, I don't leave my house unless it's work. I'm so exhausted by feeling this way all the time but I don't want to ask him to ruin his future career for me to stay back in our home town. I love him so so much but the pain is unbearable and I don't know if I can spend the rest of my life with him feeling this way all the time when he leaves. What should I do? How do I stop this feeling? someone, please help me im so desperate for some help.

Replapse

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hello, I am 18 years old, female and currently experiencing a relapse in depression. I experienced severe depression from the ages 12-16, but after several therapy sessions and support groups I found myself again and I grew, out growing depressed and becoming the better me. Around August 2018, personal issues came into my life and started to really dig at me, I’ve been trying and trying, using strategies again but the past 3 months it’s relapsed and now I’m in a hole and don’t know what to do. I’m hurting my relationships and taking my anger and sadness on everyone else and loosing everyone slowly again. I just want some friends, support or anyone to talk to and relate with, make friends and bond and grow together with

Depressed Please Help

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Hi im 14, A few months ago i went on a holiday with my cousins. I was only there for 3days and as soon as i got in the plane to go back from where i came from i felt depressed and nevee cried in front of anyone. I would secretly cry in my room. I dont to talk aboit it to any family members or friends. Everyday I now dont wanna stay home but go out with family more and when there is a day my parents have work i feel depressed and alone not (including my brother) .Few months past by and it was announced that they were coming over to my house for 6days i was so happy until they left. I now feel even more depressed and want to go out with family more. Any suggestions? Please dont say talk to someone or a gp I will never do that due to how embarrased i would be. I feel lonely so suggestions will make me happy and get over cousin depression. Thanks

struggling to feel happy in my own body

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i was never really insecure untill around the age of 9-10 when i started to notice how skinny and pretty my friends were. ive tried to tell myself that im happy with my body and that im beutiful in my own skin but i just cant believe it, evreyday i consider trying new diets or just starving myself. everyday ill struggle to get out of bed knowing ill never be important to anyone, when i do get up i walk past the mirror and see how ugly and disgusting i look so ill just stand there and cry. please if you know anyway of coping with this please tell me im to scared to talk to my parents about it wondering what they will think of me.

I’m moving schools soon and I’m really stressed

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I don’t know anybody who goes there and it’s really different compared to my old school. I keep having visions and dreams about going there and people saying things to me like they did in my old school. I’m just really scared and worried about going there. Theres also one more problem, my tutoring. It’s really stressing me out. They give us so much homework, I can’t do it. I’ve asked my parents if I could stop tutoring, but they always say no. And I when I go to my new school I don’t think I’ll get time to do my tutoring work or anything and I’m just super stressed.

Anxiety and emotional abuse

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My entire family, (mum and 2 sisters) constantly emotionally abused me every damn day of my life and it's getting so hard to deal with. Example 1 - last night my mum stole my bank card to use for herself, this morning I asked for it back and she threatened to kill me and swang at me with a bat. When I try to stick up for myself by saying all I wanted was my stuff back, she will call my sisters and proceed to tell them a huge concoction of lies, to the point where my entire family is telling me they're gonna call the cops on me ect. This is just one example. This happens every single stupid day. No matter the situation I'm always wrong and my sisters hate me because of the constant lies they're being told by my mum.( my sisters dont live at home). I really cant take it anymore I dont do anything to annoy or piss anyone off. I spend all my time in my room alone, I don't have friends cause they won't come over to my house because of my family. Or they've already been threatened not to come back to see me. There is so much to say I can put it into words I just dont know what to do. My entire family hates me because of the constant lies my mum tells everyone. (She has a habit of jumping on her phone and calling my sisters to back her up whenever I try to stick up for myself which just makes it worse).

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partner in the army and when he leaves i get so depressed. someone help me please. replies: 5

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