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Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies

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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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Young people interested in a career/studies in mental health

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Hi, I'm Gabby. I am about to begin my first year in a Bachelor of Psychology. I am interested in doing volunteer work in mental health, that is what lead me to this website. I thought it might be meaningful to join the forum while I'm here, in the hopes of making like-minded friends. A bit of background about me: I am a christian, I battle with anxiety and episodes of depression, but I am passionate about making a difference in other people's lives and making our world a bit brighter. I feel very strongly about mental health, travelling on the road to recovery and reducing the stigma around it. If anyone is similar to me, lets chat!

i need help.

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idk what to do at the moment, my family expects me to be perfect and I can’t be, I try help mom out as much as I can she works all the time and I just wish we could spend more time with us but we need the money dad doesn’t do anything but sit on he’s butt, school is hard for me so much drama everyone does drugs and it’s all in my face 24/7, everyone expects me to be there for them I lisen to there shit but they act like they don’t give a , I just wanna be a little girl again that was easy.

Hey im 13 and I cry secretly in my room or the toilet!

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Hey im 13! I moved to this school last year for 2018 and im not excited for school starting this 2019 (2 more weeks untill school). I have selective mutism whenever my teachers around (its getting better). My grades are bad I never gotten an a in a report card and only get b's or c's. Ive gotten 3D's, All the d's i got, i felt crushed. I would cry in my room pretending im playing but I wasnt, I was crying. Whenever my mum gets mad at me she would try relating to my grades. She would say something like "JUST LIKE YOUR GRADES!!!". Now everytime my mum gets mad at me no matter what i do, even tho she doesnt mention my grades, i still think about my grades and i just cry in my room pretending im not. Last year was very depressing for me. That is why i feel depressed about school next year, i feel like it will be the same, i feel like im going to get bad grades, i feel like im still going to get teased because im short. My grandparents came over to Australia and i was so excited, i counted each day when they will arrive but they only stayed for 6days. All the 6 days spent with them i felt i was supported with them. My grandparent went back to America yesterday and i felt crush, i felt lonely again. I went to the toilet excusing myself pretending to take a dump, but in reality i was crying about feeling beyond blue going to school and depressed about my grandparents leaving. I feel lonely now and each day that gets closer to school i feel sad. Anyone have suggestions please. I dont want to talk to anyone about it and thats why my username is not a name. Please dont say see a gp or talk to skmeone. Thanks

Loneliness and Depression. Am I doomed to be forever alone?

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For the past year and a half I've struggled with depression and the most intense feeling I've felt throughout the whole thing is loneliness. My family knows I am depressed and they know that I seek help from at a Headspace centre. Despite this, I sometimes feel I do not have their support in this. My brother and sister promised me five months ago that they would constantly check on me, and my brother has only done so a handful of times (he is overseas) and my sister has not even checked up on me and asked how I am doing. My parents tell me that I can come to them with anything, but I feel so uncomfortable talking to them about mental health, because my parents are quite old-fashioned and do not have a real understanding of it. Also in the past when I open up to them, I feel my dad turns it on me and makes me feel like all that is happening is my fault, making me feel worse. Furthermore, when they say to me 'Strummer, you can come to us with anything' I know they are lying. My brother once told my parents something concerning his sexuality, and a few months later, they kicked him out of the house. I have similar secret I hide from my religious parents (I have become a non-believer) and I know if I told them that, something similar would happen. None of my friends know I have depression. I wanted to tell one of them for so long, but like my parents, I feel uncomfortable talking about mental health with them. The other day though, I tried talking to one of my friends about a sadness I felt, but he completely ignored it and talked about what he was doing instead. That hurt me bad, because it made me feel like no one on this planet wants to hear my issues. My loneliness mainly stems from my interests and thoughts. During this struggle, I have become a more introspective person, able to see society from an outsider's perspective. All these thoughts and ideas buzz inside of me, and I have no one to share them with. Also, my interests do not resonate with any of my friends and family, especially my passion for music and my taste in musical genres. All this has made me fear that in life, I will never connect with someone deeply and intimately. I will never have someone to pour my heart out to, or have my interests resonated with. I feel that I will never form a fathomless relationship with someone, and I am forever going to be exiled behind the invisible brick wall that cuts me off from everyone else. How do I fight all these feelings?

My fiance works nightshift and I'm struggling with feeling alone all the time.

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Hi, I need help dealing with my partner never being home at night. I've always struggled being by myself as I tend to replay trauma from my childhood and now having to be alone all the time has really made it hard. I'm not sure if I can continue with... View more

I inherited depression and life sucks

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I inherited depression and anxiety from my parents and it just sucks. I went to counsellors, psychologists, tried therapy and coping techniques, but its like a prison and I just want to get out or start life again... I think its because I inherited it, it doesn't have a cause, it just started, that its so hard to treat and get rid of. I started taking medications which have helped with some symptoms, like stomach pain but in some ways it's still so bad. I can't go out with friends anymore, because of severe panic attacks, so I'm really lonely and feel like I'm missing out on the college life I was so looking forward to. I can't even get dressed in the morning. I kinda gave up on psychologists because it doesn't seem to help... Do I just have to wait until it recovers? What if it doesn't recover... Why did my parents have me if they knew I could inherit it... :'(

Lonely

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I have never ever felt this lonely in my life. There have been moments where I have felt alone but never this much. I don’t know how to dig myself out of a home this deep.

my teacher touched me at class after i got in trouble and i am really scared

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i am in 6th grade and i was talking to my friends i was doing my work but i got in trouble for talking but it wasnt that bad and i had to sit in class at lunch and then noone was there only my teacher and me and he kept coming over to me and was really close and he made me go to his office to give him my work that i did and he said to go because the bell went and i had to go back because other people were coming and when i turned around he put his arm under me and grabbed the front of me and i am really scared and i do not want to tell my parents but i know it is bad to get touched but i do not want to get any one in trouble please help

Inability to connect with peers

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Hi all, I'm a university student going into my second year this year, and I've spent some time reflecting on my life over the summer holidays. I've found a summer job to work for a few months during the break, and am really enjoying it. I feel completely at ease with my colleagues even though they're much older than me, and I feel like I enjoy spending time with them more than I do with my friends of my same age. As I thought about this, I realised that even in school I felt closer to people that were older than me, some even four years older! I just feel more interested in them, I like to ask questions about them, ask for their wisdom, etc. Whenever I talk to people around my age, it's always about games, sports, tv shows, and seemingly senseless topics. As a result, I feel like I'm unable to find a meaningful connection with people in my age group. Is this an unusual behaviour? I enjoy spending more time with older people than I do with those my age. Is anyone else like me?

Another newbie saying hi - Confused about what do to with myself

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Hello! pretty nervous about posting but here I go. I'm nearly 18, questionable school performance, parents split up, body image and eating issues. And just general sadness over the years. Looking around here for any advice/help, I'm not sure what I'm... View more

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Hey im 13 and I cry secretly in my room or the toilet! replies: 3

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My fiance works nightshift and I'm struggling with feeling alone all the time. replies: 2

I inherited depression and life sucks replies: 2

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my teacher touched me at class after i got in trouble and i am really scared replies: 3

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