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Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies

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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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Financial Anxiety

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Hi all, I’m a 19 y/o apprentice chef. I struggle often with depression and anxiety but mostly handle it fairly well. I have never missed a day of work for the near 5 months I’ve been there. However recently due to some events that are taking place with my Dad, who I live with, I’m growing increasingly anxious about my future. He has been unemployed for nearly two and a half years for little to no reason after being made redundant from his last job. He often drinks too much which can lead to him being aggressive and all that. He has never been violent towards me, and I feel safe around him and being in the house, but I would prefer to move out and into my own rental property. I’m paid very little for heaps of hours a week for being a full time apprentice, and I have absolutely no idea what things cost or how much I should be spending a week on groceries, rent and bill etc. I guess I just need someone with a bit of expertise to help me out, or just some tips or tricks everyone has to save money or tell if they’re being ripped off. My main concern is I’m not earning enough to be able to support myself and I don’t want to go into this blind and either end up back here or homeless because I’m bad at budgeting. Cheers

I am new and would like advice on anxiety, and possibly depression.

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I am new to this community and this is my first thread. I would like some help dealing with anxiety and possibly depression. The rundown is that, I have a lot of daily anxiety, and possibly depression, though I am not sure about it. It feels like every single day I can't stop moving, and I worry about things that happened days, months and years ago. I will lie to avoid conflict and do everything to not get attention. I am heavily addicted to screens due to wanting to escape reality. Everything I do, I second-guess, an example being this post - with every sentence I think "Am I just being edgy? God, I don't really have a problem. I just want attention. Stop writing, nobody will care." Even though every post I have seen on this website is responded to kindly. The other day I could not find a drawing book (I am trying to take up drawing), and I could not. I ended up on the ground in a ball crying. A few minutes later I got up and just acted like nothing happened. I spend every day in my room on my laptop, which is (daily) around 14 hours since It is summer break for school. What I need is ways to not get rid of anxiety, but to prevent it from making be unable to do things that most people would. I need to be able to focus on things, and not just my sadness. I would also like to know IF I have depression, or if I am just feeling depressed. Thank you. -B

Over the Counter Nutrients

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For the last 6months i have non stop shaky hands, muscles which seriously concerns me as i believe it is something much worse (nerve damage etc.) Especially after i go to the gym it is much worse and i shake uncontrollably. I also have like pressure feelings in the top of my nose and eyes all the time. I have been reccommended getting 5-Htp and N-ACETYL CYSTEINE from health supplement shops. Just wondering if anyone has had any experience with these substances and has helped with similiar issues?? cheers

Trying to pick myself up

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Im currently 28, i met my ex 4 years ago and was in a 3 year relationship, for a good year it was perfect. She would communicate with me, be proud of who i am and love showing me off. But as time changed, so did her temper. I understand everyone has there days but it felt more constant to be walking on egg shells to avoid upsetting her. I cared deeply for this girl and did so much to keep her happy. Even when i was struggling with hard days, it was her before me, but it was getting to much, she would tell me if i couldnt lift her up shed find someone who could. When we began to argue, i always tried to resolve things as soon as possible, i wanted to communicate with her. But she wasn't interested, she would have her say, express how she felt and would tell me she would talk to me when she was ready. So she would block me on all forms of communication so i couldn't attempt to talk. This hurt me more so as i felt that communication is crucial for a happy relationship. I'm not perfect myself but i never hurt her or verbally put her down. But in time she became more and more aggressive. She insulted me and questioned my manhood. As time progressed she would tell me she didn't love me But would stalk my social media pages and would constantly msg me telling me im someone im not. When i finally had enough, i walked away only to have her come back into my life 3 weeks later telling me she was pregnant. We never kept the child. She wanted to but after a discussion with her parents she told me she was ashamed of me, i worked to much, i didn't have a career, i wasnt fit to be a father and I wasn't a man. This has stuck with me since. I forgave her and was there with her through the abortion. She told me she still loved me but was talking to guys behind my back. She was un aware I knew. It became to much for me, especially as on several occasions she told me she kissed another guy and even as much as slept with another person. She then told me it was to push me away but i began to have trust issues more so then before, she refused to spend new years eve with me but instead told me she wanted to drink with her female friends. I know it wasn't a healthy relationship but its been over a year and I'm still struggling to find happiness. Recently I felt as if ive fallen into depression. My passions have faded and I wake up with anxiety. Does anyone have any strategies to help because its effecting my quality of life

Health anxiety

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I suffer from health anxiety it all started after my Aunty had a stroke suddenly and that was it! I get the left sided chest stabbing pain towards my back, headaches etc! I have had an ecg as I called the ambulance a month ago during an attack! The ecg and heart was fine and all my blood tests have come back clear also! My chest pain went away for a couple of weeks and now returned again after I had a really bad migraine and started worrying about aneurysms as my uncle died from one last year! How do u all deal with this pain and worrying

This past year my personal hygiene has declined dramatically to where I will go up to two weeks without bathing....

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I've been depressed for as long as I could remember, but it's never been this bad. I don't feel the need to shower, wash my hair, brush my hair or teeth, I barely leave my room, and I've become pale. I usually don't eat food, but when I do, It's junk food. I've lost a lot of weight (Which I am not complaining about) But I'm losing it to fast. I usually get told I smell and I get super defensive and sad to the point where I have a complete meltdown, I just can't work up the energy to allow my personal hygiene to be accepted.... I feel ugly, and there's nothing I can do... Why is this happening? I know it's disgusting and rather inhuman... But I can't change this, I barely wash my clothes.... Help.

Have no friends

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I'm a 19 year old male and ever since I was diagnosed with depression, every single one of my friends have left me. I don't have anyone anymore and I feel so alone. Everyday, sometimes multiple times a day I just end up crying for long stretches of a... View more

My daughter has very low self esteem and depression

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Hi my daughter is 24 years old, she has very low self esteem, she’s beautiful, loving, generous, she got a degree, she works, she has what most would think is a good like. But she has severe low self esteem when it comes to friends and relationships. She performs very well at work, she thinks people won’t and don’t like her, don’t want to be her friend, won’t want to get to know her, she thinks they will think she’s boring, has nothing interesting to say, she doesn’t want to try and be friends with anyone because they won’t like her, will let her down. She has 3 friends from school but states that if she doesn’t imitate contact with them they will never see her, she does not have a partner and never has for this exact same reason. She states that she doesn’t like herself, she thinks she boring and has nothing to contribute so why would anyone else like her. I have dried to reason this with her which makes it only worse, I cannot get her to join anything or try and meet or make new friends, be cause she is so scared of the rejection. I have no idea how to help her, she is so clever yet she cannot see that this is only what she sees. When she is with people she turns the attention onto them all the time and wants to give nothing of herself as NO one will be interested. As her mother I’m having a real problem working through this in my own head and helping her without saying things that will only make it worse. can anyone help me?

I'm new and I'd like to talk

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Hi I'm new here and new to this website I have been experiencing feelings of sadness and disappointed because my Father was cheating on my Mum online with multiple women, it made me angry, sad and confused. I struggle to relate to him anymore. I wish to have a relationship with him which I have tried many times but gave up as he repeatedly broke my trust on many occasions. I have seen the messages he'd send to the girls and left me crying saying he didn't know as to what I was talking about. I don't know what to do if I either want a relationship with him or for him to stay out of my life. It's been hard to cope with the fact that my Father has changed alot and its very hard to accept the fact that he'll never be the same. Any advice as to what I should do?

Severe GAD or a physical Disorder?!?

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I am 19 years old and 5 Months ago i travelled to europe and had a massive couple of nights in amsterdam where i did mdma and coke (regret every bit of it trust me). 5 months later i am obviously much better but i still have alot of physical symptons that extremely concern me. I have never had anxiety but for the last 5 months, all i can think about is how i have done some awful neurodegenerative disease (als, ms and the list goes on in my motor neurones). - This is due to the fact that i now have a slight tremor (most noticeable in thumbs) almost all the time and my muscle movements feel different (clockwise when move). After exercise i also shake vigorously for about 25mins after. - My muscles also feel weak after moderate walks which would never used to happen. - I think alot about my jaw chattering when my bottom and top teeth are together which creates strain and stopping me from closing my jaw. - I have a high pressure feeling in my nose/eyes (sinus). - Also i get the occasional muscle twitch every day. I have visited a neurologist once for about 20mins and he did a spine tap and said "all is well you might have a slight essential tremor". But this seriously has not convinced me one bit for all the other symptons that allign perfectly with other Nerve Disorders. I was just wondering if my gut feeling is right about an actual physical effect i have done to myself or this is severe GAD of some sort??!! Any response would be much appreciated cheers

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Financial Anxiety replies: 2

I am new and would like advice on anxiety, and possibly depression. replies: 15

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Health anxiety replies: 1

This past year my personal hygiene has declined dramatically to where I will go up to two weeks without bathing.... replies: 15

Have no friends replies: 5

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I'm new and I'd like to talk replies: 2

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