Hi there. If I was to draw when I'm angry/depressed it would be pitch black. My husband visited his family today. I always feel angry and invalidated when he visits them because of how they treated me. My husband blames me entirely for a heated row I had with them over a year ago. I know I was in the right, but because they're his parents, he couldn't go against them. I won't go into details, but every time he visits, I get angry/resentful. It doesn't help when people make excuses i.e they're his parents. So what, that doesn't give them the right to treat anyone the way they treated me. My fil said the most inappropriate things to me, my husband laughed and said it's good the father feels comfortable enough to say what he said. Wrong, my own father would not have said those things. I did nothing wrong, yet because my husband is unable to take a stand this situation continues. I've thought about leaving him, but why give them that satisfaction. They're in their late 80's, he's actually the same age as the Queen. They've not got dementia, they're Narcissistic. I've made a life of my own. I feel if he wants to waste his time bothering with that sort of person, on his head be it. Do other people have this sort of situation? I don't actually say much when he comes home. I've found least said, the better. He says he loves me and I believe him, but they are very, very strong. They use guilt as a weapon, and it works.
One day, hopefully, the situation will change.
