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Aaronsis HELP..Am I posting in the right section?
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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried th... View more

Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

Chris_B Introducing...the community champions
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Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are v... View more

Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are volunteers within the forums who: Have the time, skills and empathy to support other members Make an effort to welcome new members Are regularly and actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community as a place of hope and recovery. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! As this is a peer support community that includes members under the age of 18, it is important that we ensure our peer support community leaders have a current 'working with children' check as part of due diligence. In an online environment with anonymous posters, it also provides Beyond Blue (and the community) with some security as to the identity of who is posting as a community champion. We ask our community champions to spend at least 2-3 hours a week posting and responding in the forums, but in reality they go far above and beyond this. Like me, they’re not psychologists or counsellors, just regular folk like yourselves who have experience with anxiety and depression. I’ll leave it to our champion volunteers to reply below and let you know a bit about themselves. PS. If this is your first time on the forums and you'd like to introduce yourself, please start a new thread rather than replying in here.

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Sophie_M Reflecting Back on October
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Hi Everyone, Welcome to all new members who have joined over the last month and thank you for everyone stepping in to support others who have reached out within the forums community. We hope everyone continues to be gentle with themselves as we appro... View more

Hi Everyone, Welcome to all new members who have joined over the last month and thank you for everyone stepping in to support others who have reached out within the forums community. We hope everyone continues to be gentle with themselves as we approach the end of the year which we recognise can be a stressful time for many. Community Voices: What are people talking about? Loneliness Even though I am married with kids I feel so empty and lonely. I have never been great at making friends or keeping them, as a child/teenager I was always to scared to bring friends home because you never knew when my dad was in a good or bad mood and he is the type of person that thought everyone should think and believe in what he did and looked down on those who didn’t. - Lonely Cookie (Read more here) I've recently dropped a whole lot of toxic friends and friends who just never put in any effort. One of the big things for my depression is that I'm really lonely. Does anyone have any good suggestions on good places or hobbies to make new friends for people in their late 20s? - Lolue (Read more here) Recently I’ve been feeling really sad and lonely when I’m alone. I feel sad about how few friends I have, how that there must be something wrong with me because I can’t make more friends and can’t find a healthy, reciprocal relationship/boyfriend. I compare myself to every other girl seeing them as really fun to be around and interesting, and that I have no personality and no fun traits. - Von is lost (Read more here) Understanding physical symptoms related to anxiety Hello, I am a 22 year old male. Recently after a tough time in life, I was diagnosed with GAD. Been getting headaches for a few weeks already, went to get a CT scan done and a full physical examination with the results being negative for anything serious. I am aware that anxiety can cause headaches, but is it normal to feel them even on days that you don't feel anxious? - artiste9909 (Read more here) some mornings i wake up, i feel as though someone has been sitting on my chest the whole night. I occasionally wake up with muscular pains in my chest/ chest area. A wrong movement and i am in pain. The pain goes away but seems to come back after a couple of weeks and so on. - Larks98 (Read more here) This is the first time I’ve ever logged on to one of these pages before and it’s cool to find people going through the same thing. I find that my symptoms are often hard to differentiate from just a head cold. I regularly experience, headaches and it feels as if there’s pressure between my eyebrows and forehead. I also get that typical churned stomach feeling and IBS like symptoms and my long sighted vision isn’t clear when I’m anxious. I often get hot flushes as well, which triggers a stream of thoughts that I’m unwell which causes me more anxiety. - User260990 (Read more here) Self-care strategies anxiety and depression for me only comes from a few sources. Unfortunately they are essential, so learning to cope with the source was a must. sometimes i have to remove myself, sometimes i have to write in my journal. This got me thinking, What is a trigger for you, and how do you overcome it? - Not_Batman (Read more here) We can do it BBers, we can do self-care. Sleepy21 pointed out research that shows self-care REALLY helps! Please share what you do for self-care so we can get inspiration, ideas and motivation to do it too. – ecomama (Read more here) Ever feel like everything happens to you? Feel like something wrong is just bound to happen in any given experience? Instead, think ‘Things are happening for me.’ The key element here is seeing things as an opportunity. A chance to change, grow, become a better person by picking that path which is true to yourself. - Jolly Chaplin (Read more here) Valued Contributor Award Our Valued Contributor for the month of October is sunnyl20! sunnyl20 has been nominated for always ensuring they enter a conversation on the forums with empathy and often responds in a way that is friendly, respectful and in a way that demonstrates a genuine concern for another’s wellbeing. Thank you for all your contributions sunnyl20! To read more about what a Valued Contributor is and how you can nominate a fellow community member, please refer to our thread Nominate a Valued Contributor here: https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support BB Resources New content continues to be published weekly on Beyond Blue’s Coronavirus Mental Wellbeing Support Service webpage. Feel free to sign up to receive regular email updates on a range of free support options: https://beyondblue.secure.force.com/c19signup/ You may wish to also check out some of the most recent content below: "I just felt so empty" – the break from AFL football Lin Jong knew he needed Living with physical disability during COVID-19: William’s story How the pandemic has impacted children with disability and their families Living in an aged care home: Desmond and Carol’s stories Focus on forums: Tips on getting a good night’s sleep

Jacks101 Panic disorder natural remedies
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Hi all as the title says I’m looking for something natural I’m so sick n tired of the strong side affects from heavy SSRIs, I’ve heard of redicalm but heard no real reviews, has anyone else had any luck with something natural. Looking forward to any ... View more

Hi all as the title says I’m looking for something natural I’m so sick n tired of the strong side affects from heavy SSRIs, I’ve heard of redicalm but heard no real reviews, has anyone else had any luck with something natural. Looking forward to any comments thankyou

NatMeerkat My mind is getting bad again and its getting too hard to stop it
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Hey, So I just found out my boyfriend of 3 years had a relationship with another woman for 3 months and when i confronted him about it he cried and cried begging me not to leave him (caught him talking to other girls before too and also hides his pho... View more

Hey, So I just found out my boyfriend of 3 years had a relationship with another woman for 3 months and when i confronted him about it he cried and cried begging me not to leave him (caught him talking to other girls before too and also hides his phone from me and gets angry when i touch it) I have no other friends than him and he's also living with me I can't and don't want to leave him but I'm just so hurt. We planned to move out together the middle of next year but I don't know if i can anymore because i just feel so betrayed but i love him... i just can't bloody figure it out. 3 years ago I started to have panic attacks and get really sad all the time that i stopped eating, slept all the time and all my friends left me because i wasn't fun to be around anymore, so after talking with the school councillor she thinks I have anxiety and depression. I went home and told my mum that i would like to go talk to someone because i'm wasn't able to deal with my thoughts and its getting really hard and she said its a waste of money to go talk to someone. So 2020 happened and its a bit too much now. Going to work i second guess myself over everything and i can't serve customers cause talking makes me panic and my heart races just walking up to them. I want to go see someone now that I'm 18 but i can't call someone to make an appointment because i end up giving myself a panic attack stressing about them asking me questions i haven't already thought of answers to and i just can't. I have a history of self harm and i'm trying so hard not to go back there but everyday it gets harder and harder not to chose that. I'm just very lost at the moment and stuck in a rut that i can't seem to get out of.

Mama_Y Hello I’m a newbie here!
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Hi to all. I have only now joined, whilst searching for some peace of mind. I struggle asking for help, due to feeling more guilt for feeling so low. I do suffer from PTSD, and feel guilty for that as well. Gosh, I’m just a walking guilt party at pre... View more

Hi to all. I have only now joined, whilst searching for some peace of mind. I struggle asking for help, due to feeling more guilt for feeling so low. I do suffer from PTSD, and feel guilty for that as well. Gosh, I’m just a walking guilt party at present.

Wrailith I am Wrailith
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Soo I read on another page that u should introduce yourself on a thread. So hi. I’m wrailith. my nickname came from me being the quite kid. The one that will stand behind listening to conversation and u wound notice her till the end. I’m not trying t... View more

Soo I read on another page that u should introduce yourself on a thread. So hi. I’m wrailith. my nickname came from me being the quite kid. The one that will stand behind listening to conversation and u wound notice her till the end. I’m not trying to be creepy I just want to be included. (Which is hard when say 10 words a day to just a few people) I’m in high school btw. well people started calling me the ghost girl and I an avid reader decide no that is bad name and changed it to wraith (similar to a ghost just cooler in the books I read). And Wrailith is just a slight spin on that. (Pronounced Rae-lith) Anyway u now know who I am. Yay for u. U can introduce yourself too now if u like (: Wrailith

lochness46 My name is Vanessa & I live a with Mental Illness
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Hi All, Im new here & trying to learn how to navigate online forums lol Im a single parent of a teenage son and we live in Victoria.

Hi All, Im new here & trying to learn how to navigate online forums lol Im a single parent of a teenage son and we live in Victoria.

Chick75 New girl posting, hoping to feel safe
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Hi I’m new to these forums and to admitting I’m struggling. I have no one in my life I can talk to about mental health mainly because I don’t want to be ridiculed which my family would do, I only have 1 friend and she’s a drinking buddy who is more f... View more

Hi I’m new to these forums and to admitting I’m struggling. I have no one in my life I can talk to about mental health mainly because I don’t want to be ridiculed which my family would do, I only have 1 friend and she’s a drinking buddy who is more friendly with my husband ( her husband and mine worked together long before I was on the scene). If I’m honest I’ve struggled with my self worth all of my life or as long as I can remember but I’ve hidden it behind bravado, aggression and pretending. On the inside I’m so scared someone will find out it’s all an act and out me to the world as not coping. I tried a psychologist earlier this year but found her condescending and she really only wanted to frame my feelings as “menopause “ which hasn’t really helped. I’ve always felt that I just don’t understand people & they don’t understand me, I’m always pretending to fit in and wondering when someone will notice. It’s nice to have the opportunity to be honest and not told I’m crazy, stupid or ridiculous for feelings I can’t help but feel. Nice to meet you

Buildmeashrubbery Small cafe owner & going back to hospitality.... the phone keeps ringing but I’m not ready.
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I’ve really enjoyed having this time to rediscover myself. I hadn’t realised I worked myself into burnout and slept most of the first couple of COVID months. Then I spent time outside just sitting and wandering around. Still not 100% and the old pals... View more

I’ve really enjoyed having this time to rediscover myself. I hadn’t realised I worked myself into burnout and slept most of the first couple of COVID months. Then I spent time outside just sitting and wandering around. Still not 100% and the old pals ptsd/depression/anxiety are still hanging around as usual. The phone and email is getting a beating with people wanting to come to dine at my cafe which is nice but I’m not ready... I haven’t been in that kitchen for 6 months and I still don’t feel like cooking more than my own porridge! I need more time to begin the plan to re open and reshape that space into the new format which I have only just decided on. No money to pay others to do the work it’s just 3 of us. Do I tell the public the truth or keep saying nothing and not answering the phone? One caller I spoke to yesterday said " oh I suppose you’re just going to stay closed until jobkeeper stops" WTH I’m not even on jobkeeper! That sent me into anxiety/anger/wanting to vent ( I didn’t I just ate pizza till I fell asleep).

manonthemoon OMG where do I start????
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How do you put 51 years of confusion in a thread? How about never feel good enough at the things your not good at, the things you are good at you want better. Class clown only lasts so long. The lying only protects you for shorter and shorter periods... View more

How do you put 51 years of confusion in a thread? How about never feel good enough at the things your not good at, the things you are good at you want better. Class clown only lasts so long. The lying only protects you for shorter and shorter periods of time. Untill you are here, looking at a screen hoping that somebody might even give a rats. But really thinking I dont care anyway, cos even if someone did i would probably f it up anyway. 1 marriage, 4 kids (beautiful Kids) Divorce, 1 x 8 year relationship (bust), stuffed up financial future, good at my job but no one will listen. Again now typing on an online forum. where do i go, what to do, who m I??? booked in for a mental health plan 6weeks ago - seeing a psych in 2 more weeks. How can i have soooooooo many different thoughts in one day, I have no-one to pretend to now. (lucky it wasnt a broken leg hey) Sorry for the rant but at least it is out of my head for the moment. Thanks for reading

Baran Immigratin, Isolation, new Mum, loneliness
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Hi, I moves to Australia 8 years ago and am new Mum now, I always feel alone even when I’m with my partner. I’m trying to find friends and I criticise myself and others. My husband is doing that too. He doesn’t like socialisin and he always have stre... View more

Hi, I moves to Australia 8 years ago and am new Mum now, I always feel alone even when I’m with my partner. I’m trying to find friends and I criticise myself and others. My husband is doing that too. He doesn’t like socialisin and he always have stress from work. I really love to chat with someone and talk about my feelings. happy to find this forum.