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Aaronsis HELP..Am I posting in the right section?
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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried th... View more

Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

Chris_B Introducing...the community champions
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Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are v... View more

Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are volunteers within the forums who: Have the time, skills and empathy to support other members Make an effort to welcome new members Are regularly and actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community as a place of hope and recovery. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! As this is a peer support community that includes members under the age of 18, it is important that we ensure our peer support community leaders have a current 'working with children' check as part of due diligence. In an online environment with anonymous posters, it also provides Beyond Blue (and the community) with some security as to the identity of who is posting as a community champion. We ask our community champions to spend at least 2-3 hours a week posting and responding in the forums, but in reality they go far above and beyond this. Like me, they’re not psychologists or counsellors, just regular folk like yourselves who have experience with anxiety and depression. I’ll leave it to our champion volunteers to reply below and let you know a bit about themselves. PS. If this is your first time on the forums and you'd like to introduce yourself, please start a new thread rather than replying in here.

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Ultimate_Worrier Hi, I'm the Ultimate Worrier
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Just introducing myself. 43 year old man and have suffered my whole like from Generalised Anxiety Disorder. I don't have any great issue in my life to attribute this to. (I suppose it wouldn't be a disorder if I did.) No abuse as a child. No addictio... View more

Just introducing myself. 43 year old man and have suffered my whole like from Generalised Anxiety Disorder. I don't have any great issue in my life to attribute this to. (I suppose it wouldn't be a disorder if I did.) No abuse as a child. No addiction problems. Financially secure, good job, and in a loving relationship with two kids. Perfect health. And yet once every six months to a year, I will have a bad episode of anxiety. Impending doom. Tight chest. Obsessive thoughts. The awful sense that this time it will never go away, or that I'll go crazy. It's like a tedious re-run that I have to sit through every year. I'm on standard SSRI medication, and have been for twenty years. I occasionally see a counsellor, which always helps. When I'm not having bad episodes, I oscillate between feeling positive, and just on edge. Travel, especially airplanes bothers me, and I'll be stressed for at least a week beforehand if I have to give a presentation. But otherwise, I am often in good spirits. A lot of people are very surprised to hear about my issues when I tell them. As far as I can tell my annual/semi-annual episodes are triggered by some combination of physical tiredness and mental stress. Over-doing exercise, colds, hay-fever, lack of sleep, plus work deadlines, family issues, kids being kids and sometimes variation in medication. Some combination usually triggers me. Then I'll go through a cycle that usually follows: - initial sense of being over-whelmed - tight chest, cortisol burning through my arms and legs, trouble getting a full breath - the "I'm going crazy" thoughts - I'll end up in an asylum, I'll do something really dangerous (I hasten to add I've learnt to recognise these thoughts in particular as irrational fears; they are not impulses, and I've never come close to acting on them) - then a few days of feeling like I'm about to have a panic attack, or I'm about to snap, along with just not being able to put the thoughts out of my head. On top of that, there's a sense of altered consciousness. A feeling that this is the real reality - life is awful - and I will never go back to the other reality. - Finally, a lot of walking and talking and after a few weeks I start to feel better. Will be a few months before I truly get back to normal. I wanted to join BB to try and share a bit of my story, and also to give some hope to young people in particular. Despite all the above, I am a good news story. I've mostly had a normal life. Thanks for being here,

jays1989 Hi Everybody
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Hi everybody, I'm new here, like really new here ( just signed up ). So I'm pretty overwhelmed at the moment because for the last month I've enrolled into uni and I've been doing quite well but the only problem I seem to have is finding that right ba... View more

Hi everybody, I'm new here, like really new here ( just signed up ). So I'm pretty overwhelmed at the moment because for the last month I've enrolled into uni and I've been doing quite well but the only problem I seem to have is finding that right balance where study life and everyday life can meet in the middle because most of my days are filled with studying and assessments and proof reading and... and now I'm rambling argh stop it. Sorry about that I just got a bit ahead of myself there. So yeah I have anxiety and depression and I tend to overthink everything to the point where I feel ill... not really sure how to get around all of that because I try to stay out of my head as much as possible and before i realize it I'm worse off than where I started.

BlueIvy Hi
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Hi, new here. Often feel anxious especially re: marriage. Maybe I think too much. Hard to know really.

Hi, new here. Often feel anxious especially re: marriage. Maybe I think too much. Hard to know really.

Ataloss72 Don’t know what I’m doing here
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Well hey. I’m don’t really know why I’m here and why I signed up to this. I’m 48 dad of 6 kids. Married twice divorced twice. I guess it’s been a hard decade for me. Had a lost of loss in my family and a divorce too. I have put a lot to the side and ... View more

Well hey. I’m don’t really know why I’m here and why I signed up to this. I’m 48 dad of 6 kids. Married twice divorced twice. I guess it’s been a hard decade for me. Had a lost of loss in my family and a divorce too. I have put a lot to the side and yer I’m that guy that’s always happy at footy club or at work like not a worry in the world. But I have struggled the last year I guess. I really don’t know what I’m doing here and hate to waste everyone’s time. This maybe just somewhere I can put what’s in my head down not sure. But thanks for reading anyway ok

EveC I Need People
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Hi Everybody, I joined the forum last night. I've been getting severe anxiety/panic for decades. Seven years ago my brother passed away. He was my only sibling. My parents are still alive, but elderly and divorced. I'm in my late 40s, live alone and ... View more

Hi Everybody, I joined the forum last night. I've been getting severe anxiety/panic for decades. Seven years ago my brother passed away. He was my only sibling. My parents are still alive, but elderly and divorced. I'm in my late 40s, live alone and the social isolation is just terrible. I've had to admit to myself recently that I need people. So I am just looking for some people to talk to. I am crying as I write this. Admitting I need people has been hard for me. Eve x

Laurie_M My husband went to a brothel
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Hi all. Yesterday my husband told me that he visited a brothel just before we met. He didn't have penetration sex but he received oral sex. He told me that he felt nothing and stopped. He went there only because he was drunk with his friend and this ... View more

Hi all. Yesterday my husband told me that he visited a brothel just before we met. He didn't have penetration sex but he received oral sex. He told me that he felt nothing and stopped. He went there only because he was drunk with his friend and this specific friend loves visiting brothels. It was a huge disappointment to learn this even though it happened before me. However, he admitted that he went to brothels three more times during our relationship before we got married. He only went there for oral sex but couldn't do it. So nothing actually physically happened. He gets influenced easily. It is just the way he was raised by his parents. Some of his friends are really weird. I believe him that nothing happened because I am good at detecting his lies. I was suspicious that he visited a brothel before but couldn't get the confession until yesterday. We've been together for 5 years and married almost for 2 years. I don't know what to think. I find it disgusting but on the other hand, nothing happened. Nevertheless, it upsets me and I don't know whether I can trust him. He says he is loyal. He registered on some forums since 2017 and talked to others to seek help. He wants to see a psychologist too. I don't know whether I should give him a chance. I don't even know how I can get intimate with him anymore knowing this. Do you have any suggestions for me?

R_J_H Dealing with anxiety/depression thoughts
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Hi Everyone, this is my first time reaching out to anyone while I’ve been dealing with some anxiety, depression and bad thoughts. I haven’t truly felt like anyone is able to understand what I’ve been going through so I’d thought I would try here. I f... View more

Hi Everyone, this is my first time reaching out to anyone while I’ve been dealing with some anxiety, depression and bad thoughts. I haven’t truly felt like anyone is able to understand what I’ve been going through so I’d thought I would try here. I feel like friends and family won’t truly take it serious or understand my thoughts. I don’t feel comfortable sharing too much right now but this is what I feel is necessary at this time. For a couple months now I’ve been battling with the feelings of loneliness, no one truly caring for me, the lack of interest in my life and the inability to have someone there for me when I need someone. I’ve been having troubles sleeping and having bad dreams due to my anxieties even though I’ve tried meditating at night and the headspace app, however this does not truly help me. I do have good days but for the last week or so I’ve been having more bad days than good. Just wanting to reach out to anyone who has been through/going through the same things and if they have any advice to try and deal with these issues. thank you to anyone who can help and for listening/reading as well. R.

D5N New member
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Hi all I am new here and not sure if this is what I need. My 23 years employment with a local government employer was terminated in late 2018 because of my concerns with the public’s safety and well-being as well of my own fears concerning the unroad... View more

Hi all I am new here and not sure if this is what I need. My 23 years employment with a local government employer was terminated in late 2018 because of my concerns with the public’s safety and well-being as well of my own fears concerning the unroadworthy Heavy Vehicle that I had driven and the employer’s lack of duty to maintain the truck to proper Heavy Vehicle National Compliance Laws. Instead the employer made allegations against me and had forced me to be evaluated by 2 doctors for mental illness, rather than addressing the workplace safety concerns that were so evident, bad steering and later brake issues. For a long time the termination of my employment consumed my life with seeking Industrial support to which in the end i was offered a small sum of money under an agreement to also keep my mouth shut about the issues, further losing contact with my family and find my relationship with my partner very difficult. I care very much about my family but according to them I have interfered in their life so much so that they don’t want to know me with my daughter not allowing my grand children to see me. I feel that because the local government employer had made allegations against me, my family believes the allegations to be true despite the evidence I have and myself losing their respect of me. I have a casual position now as a HR Truck Driver but have gone weeks without work. Feeling angry, lost and alone.

ghostcrab15 Seeking help when you don't feel important
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Hi everyone, Today is my first time on the Beyond Blue forum - and perhaps the first time I have properly acknowledged that I feel helpless and restless very often. I have a problem with asking for help from anyone because I don't feel like I will be... View more

Hi everyone, Today is my first time on the Beyond Blue forum - and perhaps the first time I have properly acknowledged that I feel helpless and restless very often. I have a problem with asking for help from anyone because I don't feel like I will be heard. I also find myself feeling embarrassed about the fact that everyone else around me seems to be coping with daily life and I'm not. Feeling alone has been hard, but looking through this forum has helped today. I probably need to seek help from a GP or a professional of some kind, but I can't help but feel like there are other people that need help more than me. I guess what I struggle with is feeling like I'm important enough to take up someone else's time to talk about my problems. I also doubt myself because I'm prone to over-thinking things. Nothing feels serious enough to seek help for, even in times when I can't function properly, because of the possibility that I'm over-reacting. Does anyone else feel this way? Thank you to all of the people that have posted in this forum - you've helped me today and I'm sure you've helped many others as well. Opening up can be really hard, and the fact that you all have is very admirable. All best