Hi, welcome
I thank you for explaining your situation so well. I have endured many similarities and can honestly reply to you that what you have gone through is the bad side of life itself, furthermore, you seem to be the type that can unfortunately, attract such injustices, let me explain.
Some personalities are sensitive, vulnerable, possess less than ideal expression, appear weak physically to other men, have the wrong coloured hair!! and many other features that for what ever reason make them a target. Then to add insult to injury, the authorities tend to see your complaints as "trouble making" when they should (in an ideal world) see them as just and unacceptable. For people like you and I that means we have to find ways to survive in the workplace and society. This is self protection and its sad that we are at the receiving end rather than praised and supported.
I had therapy for 12 months on this topic alone. I issued council fines on a local politician and upset my bosses. They ordered me not to issue any further fines. I refused the order on principle that unemployed and pensioners had to pay them. Eventually I got a panic attack and my doctor refused to allow me back at work. 12 months later I found another profession. That all was unjust. Yet I learned many things about why I didnt survive in that job. Eg
- That other people dont have the same values and I should expect them to
- That I cant save the world
- That people have shades of grey in their makeup not black and white so I had to become more tolerant and flexible
- That the world is full of fence sitters and employers prefer them
Thats just a taste of my being reprogrammed so I could survive. Your examiner at your medical might have been a poor communicator? Had a bad day? You might not have said "I honestly cant remember I'm sorry". Try not to hide the truth, its ok to be forgetful.
TonyWK
