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struggling with special needs children

Matchy69
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Does anyone else have children with special needs.I am struggling with mine.My youngest cant use a toilet when their at the age they should be.I am getting tired of changing them,does that make me a bad parent?The constant hyperepisodes are taking their strain especially that i am going through other personal stuff in my life
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Hanna3
Community Member

Hi Mark, hi mmMekitty

 

Does your son know who took the laptop Mark?  He should be able to speak to someone at the school about this - did anyone witness it?  Also about the bullying, there must be someone at the school you can go to about this - they must have strategies in place to deal with things like bullying.  Are there any strategies you can give your son about dealing with any bullying - suitable replies perhaps, or advice for him to go directly to a teacher or counsellor?  The faster this can be nipped in the bud the better, so it doesn't continue or escalate.

 

Sorry this has happened, I think the faster you can get onto it and get something done the better for your son.  The kids at the school need to understand this sort of behaviour won't be tolerated.

 

Let me know how you get on tomorrow.  Maybe your son can have some kind of special treat tonight to help cheer him up a tiny bit?  Again, I'm sorry he had this happen, let's hope it can be stopped fast.'

Hanna3
Community Member

Not sure if you are coming back Mark but I hope everything got sorted out.  Best wishes.

Matchy69
Blue Voices Member
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I am still on here been busy last few days and had flood rains in the area.

Hanna3
Community Member

Did you manage to sort out the stolen laptop and the bullying problem Mark? 

Matchy69
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Bullying is always going to be a problem.He had all through primary school.Kids are just so cruel when you are different.They are going to keep an eye out on him at lunchtime.I just was hoping he would have a better school life then me but the world will never change.

Hanna3
Community Member

Unfortunately until they (hopefully) learn better, kids do this Mark.  Maybe if you can give your son some tactics to use when it happens - and he has your support at home which is great.  Kids will pick on anyone a bit "different" - even if it's their clothes, their hair, whatever.

 

I hope you got the laptop sorted and that otherwise things are going OK.  It's terribly hot here, everyone is saying it's the worst summer for humidity they have ever known.  I've been doing some decluttering of the house - i like to do that regularly - and am having lunch with a friend tomorrow.  

 

I wonder if you are getting any rain up your way, it's so dry here everything is parched.

Matchy69
Blue Voices Member
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Just had a busy last few days.

Hanna3
Community Member

Hi Mark, I've hardly been here lately - the heatwave here has been horrendous and with no airconditioning I've been spending the days in the library and the RSL club to try to get cool.  More heat today...

 

Here's an interesting thing - my neighbours next door are giving me the silent treatment.  I know both have some kind of MH issue and are rather unusual - I only chat to them very occasionally, mostly because they smoke non-stop and the smoke comes all through my unit - and i  get severe asthma, so I can't sit talking with them anyway as they're always smoking.  However we are always cordial with each other.

 

Well now they don't sit outside, don't speak when I am near, have moved their chairs to face away from my place.  It's a relief as I don't get the smoke pouring in any more, but it's clearly unfriendly and meant to be.  Oh well, I prefer it quiet and I go out for part of every day so I'm not here a lot of the time.  I guess they are just strange.

 

I'm going to have to get into some aircon again today Mark, it's another shocker.  I wonder how you are coping up your way?

 

I minded someone's little dog the other day while they went into Woolworths - the little Cavalier/King Charles snuggled up next to me while I petted her  - I really miss having a dog!  Sam was very friendly with the neighbours and I notice their behaviour has happened since I lost him - he was always saying hello to them.

 

I hope you are managing to keep cool in the heat Mark.  

Hanna3
Community Member

Another really hot day around 38 degrees - nice cool change now thank goodness.  I think the neighbours have got themselves into trouble, they are too involved in all the neighbours and their lives and they gossip about them, another reason I keep distant from them - I think someone has given them a bad time over it.  I'm glad I talk to them very little and then only about things like the weather!

Cheers.

Matchy69
Blue Voices Member
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Hi Hanna aren't neighbours strange at times.I have one here complaining about dogs barking in the middle of the night but I don't here any.He says he is going sort the problem but will annoy all the neighbours with his plan.I try and stay away from him from now on.It has been terribly hot here as well and have been sick from the heat.I went and saw my daughter and grandkids today.They are growing up so fast.I will have to find a course or something for my daughter to do.I wish NDIS was more helpful.My son now has a teachers aid with him most of the time to hopefully stop the bullying.It has been so hot that I haven't felt like writing much here of late.