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struggling with special needs children

Matchy69
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Does anyone else have children with special needs.I am struggling with mine.My youngest cant use a toilet when their at the age they should be.I am getting tired of changing them,does that make me a bad parent?The constant hyperepisodes are taking their strain especially that i am going through other personal stuff in my life
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Guest_1643
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Hi Mark, it's ok, I think getting rejected and being OK with it is a great life skill

I'm really scared of applying for properties and getting g eejected so I don't apply unless I'm 100 percent certain I'll get it,...I also take rejection really badly

I think the ability to handle rejection can show self esteem.

Sometimes we get rejected for jobs even when we are a great candidate.,.

Hi Mark,

Sorry to read your daughter missed out on the job. It sounds as though she is handling it okay. I agree with Hanna and Sleepy and there could be so many reasons they picked who they did. It's great to keep trying and to remember the majority do miss out. Eventually she will find something- it is all practice and getting used to interviews too. So it is not really a loss. You sound so caring of your kids. Especially feeling her pain. She is lucky to have a Dad like you. Take it easy on yourself Mark; you are doing a great job with your kids 🙂

Matchy69
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Thanks golden I think it will be awhile before she can find something.Very few jobs come up that she could do.I will get her to try the RSPCA for volunteering again as she's 18 next Saturday.They wanted their volunteers to be 18 y.o.Not much else around.

Matchy69
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I just feel so disappointed for her as this was just her dream job.She looked on the internet before and their was nothing for her apply for.Earning your own money can make you feel so good about yourself and give you independence.I think I am feeling the pain more then she is as I know their isn't many jobs out there at the moment.

Hi Mark,

The rspca volunteering sounds a good place to start. I looked into it 5 yrs ago and again more recently and where i am they only had cleaning roles and not being with the animals. Still it is a start; but the animal jobs were so popular that they weren't available. I hope where u are your daughter can get a mix and not just the washing etc. Still it is a foot in the door for a young person. You'll have a big weekend coming up then for her 18th. Special birthday that's for sure. To be young again hey?

Matchy69
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Hi golden the RSPCA is popular and hard to get into.The cleaning rolls are vital but not the most glamorous and not the ones you automatically think of.A volunteering job like that would help her get into a paid job.

Mark

Just catching up on your thread. It is sad and disappointing for you and your daughter not get the job but I agree volunteering in the area she likes will help her get experience and show how keen she is. Often in volunteering you can start with work that is not what you want to do but after a while you can be doing the work you like.

Your daughter has a wonderful supportive dad and that will help her cope with disappointments.

Take care

Thanks quirky for your kind words and support.It would be so nice to see her to do something she really enjoys.

Matchy69
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My son didn't really have a good first week of school and had a melt down and hurt himself.The specialist said to increase one of his medications but that has seemed to to not improved anything more the oppiste.Just going to email the specialist and see what she advises us to do.

Hanna3
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Mark, you are such a great Dad! You have to deal with so much on your own. I think you're amazing to manage all this, and I hope you remember to look after yourself as much as you can as well. You are dealing with so much at the moment.

I honestly admire you.