Hi Siena_Rose
Thankyou for writing in with your concerns. It is humbling from our perspective that people like yourself voice concern for others mental health. Your friends husband might well be struggling with a history of professional care no longer affordable.
Unfortunately this problem you speak of, that being this man being abused, is a problem that others like yourself (from the outside looking in) faces a line in the sand in regard to what you can and cant do/say. It is their marriage. However what I would advise is to monitor and be ready to be a supporter of either or both of them in a time of real need if authorities arent involved.
What is similar is Grandparents observing their child go through marriage difficulties. They run a high risk of further conflict if they get involved. But if they sit back and be there when asked, be supportive oerall, then they are assisting in the best way possible.
Bare in mind, your female friend as abusive as she is acting, might also need help and one day might ask for it. Listen, comfort, make suggestions, keep calm and treat her in a manner with the best outcome- that she does receive the help she needs.
It's a delicate balance.
I hope that helps. Thankyou for caring. You are a special individual.
TonyWK
