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Welcome to the Suicide and Self-Harm Section

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Hi there, Welcome to the Suicide and Self-Harm section of the Beyond Blue Forums. Life gets pretty hard sometimes, and many people here on the Forums have had times where they have thought about harming themselves or ending their life. This can be a deeply distressing experience, and this section is here to support members who have had these experiences. This section is not a crisis support service. If you are in crisis or need immediate help, assistance is not available via these Forums. Please call: Suicide Call Back Service on 1300 659 467 (24/7) Lifeline on 13 11 14 (24/7) If it is an emergency, contact emergency services on 000. This is a place to share where you are at, seek ideas for support and know that you are not alone. We are here to create a safe environment for everyone. Please do not provide any details about any plans/ideas that you may have had to hurt yourself, and importantly, help us to understand if you are safe by letting us know in the post. For some people this section might be difficult to read – if it is not helping how you feel, then please consider moving to another section. This section, like the rest of the Forums, is closely monitored and all posts are reviewed by moderators before publication. Moderators will also ensure that anyone needing follow up will be provided with information about how to access further support. If after a period of time you no longer wish others to engage in the discussion you have started, please use the 'Report Post' button and request the discussion be locked to prevent any further replies. Thank you for being here, we're glad you're here. Treat yourself gently as you read through this section. Beyond Blue

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Do you have a safety plan?

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Safety planning involves creating a structured plan – ideally with support from your health professional or someone you trust – that you work through when you’re experiencing suicidal thoughts, feelings, distress or crisis. Your safety plan starts with things you can do by yourself, such as thinking about your reasons to live and distracting yourself with enjoyable activities. It then moves on to coping strategies and people you can contact for support – your friends, family and health professionals. The safety planning model was developed in the US by suicide prevention experts Barbara Stanley and Gregory Brown. It has been used extensively by US veterans’ health organisations, hospital emergency departments and high schools, and there is strong evidence that it works. Many health professionals in Australia also use some form of safety planning to support clients experiencing suicidal thoughts or feelings, or after a suicide attempt. beyondblue has an app you can use to create a safety plan, called BeyondNow. The BeyondNow app takes the principles of safety planning and makes it even easier to use – so rather than carrying around a piece of paper, you’ve got it on your phone at all times. It’s free to download from the Apple Store or Google Play. If you don’t have a smartphone or would prefer to use your desktop or laptop, BeyondNow is also available to use on our website. Do you have a safety plan? Do you have questions around how you might create one, or fill out some of the sections? This thread is for discussing ideas around creating a safety plan, and sharing tips about what has been most useful about this process for you. Below are two videos featuring Peter and Nic, who have both used safety plans successfully. Peter Nic

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Fish bowl

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Struggling very lost and confused. Been to hospital earlier this year but I didn’t continue with the medication I was put on while in there. I had a psychologist but I just wouldn’t show up to the appointments I was either in bed depressed or thinking I was fine and don’t need to go. I don’t see the point in anything what so ever. happy people make me angry, people reaching out to me make me angry and think they’re talking about me. I have been trying to sleep my life away it’s just painful. Been wanting to self harm and thoughts of suicide come especially when I’m trying to go to sleep at night. I can’t get myself to phone or go to the psychologist even if it would be helpful

Self harm

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Hey umm I feel like self harming but I really don't want to since I'm 2 weeks clean.

If I can so can you

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Well I'm new here and well I don't really know how to do this, like speak my mind, you know what I mean? I want the pain to go away, I really do, I hate my life, I know I do, I don't like who I am. I have recently, in fact just yesterday, cancelled my psychiatrist appointments, of which yes again P have only managed to complete one of. I have tried over and over again, to find the trust to confide in someone else, but it really isn't me. I don't know if its the fact that I don't know the person, not having trust in them, or not having the trust in myself, because yes I want to get better, and feel happy, but I feel like I don't deserve that, I don't deserve to be happy. Or is it just that I don't know how to put my feelings and thoughts into words, I mean how can I when I don't even understand any of these thoughts and feelings myself. sometimes, well actually a lot of the times I want to die, I know the world would be better off without me, and that no one would care, let alone realize that I'm gone. But at the same time I guess I don't want to die, sometimes I self harm, not with the intentions to die, but with the purpose of it feeling like a way, a thing that I have control over, a way to defeat this depression, a way to simply let go of some of it. However I am now 3 months sober of self harm, yes it still crosses my mind, but you must know that the worse of these thoughts provenly only last 90 seconds, as my therapists told me, so just think of something that will distract you for those 90 seconds. I know you've got it in you

Desperate

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Hi. I have suffered from depression for decades. I have noticed in the last few months that I’ve slowly gotten worse . Not much gives me joy anymore . I train in the gym which I have always loved and now it’s a chore . I have 3 grand kids . They gave me such joy but now I feel overwhelmed as I have them at my house daily . I am just miserable . I have a great husband but I am just lost. I just wish I wouldn’t wake up. Feel like my life is wasting away but I don’t have the energy or anything to looo forward too. im 43. I used to work as a personal trainer but I gave up a few years ago as I cannot hold down a job with my mental health as I know I am not reliable. Please help. I feel like I am going mad .my whole mental health revolves around losing weight all the time . If I look thin, I’m happier . Stupid

All too much

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life is just too much right now.Ive had suicidal thoughts for over 30 years and I just really don't know how to ignore them anymore Life was ment to get easier not harder.I feel like I can't talk to anyone I've no friends no family besides my husband and our 4 children 3 of which have special needs and I'm their main carer.When does it get better when can I not feel this way People really don't understand when I say I have NO SUPPORT NETWORK I can't even afford to go to a doctor.Ive tei d talking to doctors in the past they just want to Medicare me I've never even had a proper mental health plan doneOne doctor even told me I'm old enough to know how to cope

Feeling down

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Just feeling down emotionally physically and mentally I’m drained exhausted tired can’t sleep I’m at lowest point feeling helpless worthless not enough not good enough feeling weak having no energy no strength feeling sad hurt and broken I hate mysel... View more

hi im new to this please talk to me i need someone x

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just want to chat about some thoughts i have had recently and i can talk to someone as well xx

Relapsed

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As for my last post I was on my 167 days SH free, but the day after I relapsed. And after the relapse happened, I keep craving for more but I’m trying my best to resist my urges. If you have some advices or things i could do besides talking to someon... View more

breaking sobriety

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I am 167 days sober from self-harm, but each day that pass by I feel like doing it again. I don't want to do it and I want to do it again at the same time. I need help but I dont want help yk? and i feel like im getting closer and closer everyday in ... View more

So very sad again and can’t tell anyone I’m having suicidal thoughts

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I was really sick in 2018 and was hospitalised for 3 months after significant trauma and an attempt to take my own life. I pulled together but seem to have relapsed again. I’m travelling for work and away from my husband every week. I’m a professional in an executive role and everybody thinks I’m okay. I don’t know how to tell people who think I’m ok that I’m not. I can’t get over this overwhelming sense of sadness and the feeling that I don’t want to be here anymore.

Welcome to the Suicide and Self-Harm Section replies: 0

Do you have a safety plan? replies: 97

Fish bowl replies: 5

Self harm replies: 6

If I can so can you replies: 1

Desperate replies: 2

All too much replies: 3

Feeling down replies: 1

hi im new to this please talk to me i need someone x replies: 2

Relapsed replies: 1

breaking sobriety replies: 4

So very sad again and can’t tell anyone I’m having suicidal thoughts replies: 6