Suicidal thoughts and self-harm

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Do you have a safety plan?

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Safety planning involves creating a structured plan – ideally with support from your health professional or someone you trust – that you work through when you’re experiencing suicidal thoughts, feelings, distress or crisis. Your safety plan starts with things you can do by yourself, such as thinking about your reasons to live and distracting yourself with enjoyable activities. It then moves on to coping strategies and people you can contact for support – your friends, family and health professionals. The safety planning model was developed in the US by suicide prevention experts Barbara Stanley and Gregory Brown. It has been used extensively by US veterans’ health organisations, hospital emergency departments and high schools, and there is strong evidence that it works. Many health professionals in Australia also use some form of safety planning to support clients experiencing suicidal thoughts or feelings, or after a suicide attempt. beyondblue has an app you can use to create a safety plan, called BeyondNow. The BeyondNow app takes the principles of safety planning and makes it even easier to use – so rather than carrying around a piece of paper, you’ve got it on your phone at all times. It’s free to download from the Apple Store or Google Play. If you don’t have a smartphone or would prefer to use your desktop or laptop, BeyondNow is also available to use on our website. Do you have a safety plan? Do you have questions around how you might create one, or fill out some of the sections? This thread is for discussing ideas around creating a safety plan, and sharing tips about what has been most useful about this process for you. Below are two videos featuring Peter and Nic, who have both used safety plans successfully. Peter Nic

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Life gets pretty hard sometimes and many people in this online community have had times where they have thought about hurting themselves or ending their life. This can be a stressful and at times overwhelming experience, and this section is here to help members who have had these experiences. This is a place to share where you are at, seek ideas for help and know that you are not alone. We are here to create a safe environment for everyone. Please do not provide any details about any plans/ideas that you may have had to hurt yourself, and importantly, help us to understand if you are safe by letting us know in the post. Making comments that let us know that you are having thoughts, but are safe, helps us to know that your conversation can continue without interruption, and that we do not need to put any further follow up for you in place. This section will not be for everyone.It shows posts from people who are distressed, offers public replies to these posts, and encourages people to come back and share how they got past that difficult point in time - what worked, what didn’t and how they now approach these difficult thoughts. It is important to think about what you want from the forums, what information you need and what threads will be helpful to your situation, rather than reading everything that is posted. For some people this section might be difficult to read – if it is not helping how you feel, then please consider moving to another section. This section, like the rest of our forums, is closely monitored and all posts are reviewed by moderators before publication. Moderators will also ensure that anyone needing follow up will be provided with information about how to access further support. This section remains a discussion forum focused on helping each other through the dark times, it is not a crisis support service. Any posts that do not abide by the community rules will not be published. Unlike other areas of the forum, threads in this section will be closed after a period of one month of inactivity. If you are in crisis or need immediate help, assistance is not available via these forums. Please call Suicide Call Back 1300 659 467, Lifeline 13 11 14 or contact emergency services on 000.

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Don’t know how to keep going

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So I’m 23 and I feel like my entire life has fallen apart around me over the last year, I’ve gone from living out of home with a full time job, were I have now lost my job of almost 3 years and have had to move back in with my parents who I have not the best relationship with, these last few weeks at home have been hell, my mums threatened to kick me out multiple times and has spent majority of the time comparing me to my brothers who are pretty much drop kicks what I’m trying to say is that I’m scared that I don’t know how long I can keep this up, I’m not close enough to any family or friends to talk about this, everyone expects me to keep on smiling because I’m that friend but every day it’s getting harder, I don’t know if I feel like ending it but there are these dark thoughts circling in my mind and I really need help in how I can even start to bring these subjects up to people

I think I need help

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I think I need help. All I can think about is how to hurt myself. I lay awake at night thinking of new ways to make myself hurt. I know it is not normal. I know I should not even be thinking about this, but I dont know how to stop. When I hurt myself, the thoughts stop for a while, but then they come back until I do something else. I dont know how to ask for help. When I try, I cant get the words out. I am terrified of what my husband would think. I have everything to lose if anyone found out.

Don't know what to do anymore

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My depression has worsened, the days are bleak and getting so much hard to fight. It just doesn't seem to end, the exhaustion and the desperation for a break seems to worsen each day. My head is going crazy with negative thoughts, I can't seem to get... View more

I feel worthless and that nothing will ever chane

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Two years ago I nearly took my life and spent two months in hospital and had a year off work. This occurred after a dreadful time in two horrific workplaces which just demolished my self confidence. I thought I was over it but today I have been triggered and just don’t know I can continue and whether I’ll ever be the person I was. I feel so worthless and useless. I’ve tried to call LL and BB but both are staffed to midnight. I can’t sleep and the pain feels like it is in poles in my chest and is dragging me down. I can’t tell my husband as I don’t want him to think I’m going backward but I just don’t know how I will continue. I feel guilty because I know there are people much worse than me.

I'm so very very tired and empty

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I have a long history of depression, Bipolar II, my BP wasn't diagnosed until I was about 50, I made a suicide attempt at 20. I think I've done pretty good to make it this far, I am now 63. But I feel like I have now copped jsut one hit too many, and I find myself constantly thinking of suicide, I have support from a good psychiatrist, a fantastic GP, and a good psycholgist. But in the end there is only so much they can do, they can't change the underlying facts which are currently playing havoc with my moods. My BP was reasonably well managed until about 18 months ago. Then my younger brother died, that shook and upset me, a week later I had a serious car accident, which in nothing short of a miracle I survived. I fell asleep at the wheel on a long stretch of straight country road, on cruise control, at 100 kph. My physical injuries were pretty minor, but I did suffer head injuries and concussion. I suffered PTSD for months and my pyschiatrist said it through all my medication out of balance. My boss didn't understand. He picked me up from a regional hospital, 4 hour drive from Melbourne, and on the drive back at about 6 pm he said "you've had a rough time, take tomorrow (Thursday) off and I will see you at work Friday. I made a lot of mistakes at work over the following weeks/months and covered some of them up. The boss didn't really believe I had concussion because my head did not look like it had been beaten around enough. Then a few months later, my wife demanded a divorce, we are fighting custody, and then I lost my job with the coronavirus. We've sold our matrimonial home, my wife, funded by her mum, has a new home, I am still looking. I don't think I can afford to buy, and if I rent I figure I will be bankrupt in under 10 years. My financial advisor agrees. I have lost all motivation. I've worked damned hard, very hard, very long hours since I was 20, now I am 63 and I feel like I have lost it all. Despite all of the anti-depressent and mood stabilising medication I am on, I find myself crying frequently. Mainly when I think of shared custody of my 14 year old twins. They want to spend most of their time with mum, why spend time with dad when he is so depressed so often, that's not much fun. Come night the depression gets worse being alone, and still don't get to sleep until 2 am. I am lost, and have constant negative thoughts. I'm tired and with Covid restrictions I am so lonely. It's so hard to keep going. I'll stop now, the drink is depressing me but it is also putting me to sleep. I feel so empty, a completefailure, 63 years and I end up here. With nothing, and shared custody of my kids, but without a financial capacity to in any way match the gifts my wife and her family will shower on them. at 18 she buys her grandchildren a car each, and then she takes them overseas for extended trips, months. I feel irrelevant to their lives.

Why would my psychologist ask me if I am depressed?

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I have been seeing her for about 2 years now... but I mean, why would she ask me? I don’t know. It feels like a trick question. I want to disappear. She asked me two weeks in a row, and I just looked down and shrugged my shoulders. I don’t know what ... View more

I can't see any future anymore

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The world has gone completely to hell. I haven't seen anyone in months. I'm in Melbourne and there's no future here. There can't be when 90% of people who have symptoms of coronavirus just go out anyway. What on earth is the point, I'm never going to be able to see anyone again. Why even try? This is just going to go on forever and it's pretty obvious there are wars coming after this, then climate change. I'm so angry and sad and lonely and I just want it to stop. I don't have the means to kill myself so I'm not going to do it, but it still seems like the only option to escape this nightmare.

Enough is enough

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Recently been caught up in strong feelings in regards to not feeling like there is any future. Suicide has been on my mind as it has been in the past but I have always seemed to pull myself back from those thoughts. I was wondering however when you simply think enough is enough and it scared me to think that one day I might not be able to step back from those thoughts. I think that the fact I acknowledge the struggles I have and that in the past I’ve overcome these negative feelings is positive, however there must be a time when enough is enough. I’m the most anxious I can remember ever being, and flit from anywhere from deep despair to turnings my emotions off altogether.

I need your advice

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Hello! So I need some advice. I have been struggling with suicidal thoughts for a long long time and the past couple months have been no different. It's been a really rough couple months, and judging by the news I got today, it's about to get a heck of a lot harder. What I need advice with is, I basically live a double life. I have me, i'mbadwithnames, and then I have "online me", let's call them... idk i'mbadwithnames2 (there is a reason why I chose that name...) I am a massive follower of sports, and ibwn2 is my way of interacting with those communities. From watching streams of the players on Twitch when they stream, to interacting with the teams and players on Twitter. A lot of people in the community know my name and I have developed a little following with a lot of people that interact with me. The thing is, ibwn2 is a very positive force on the community. A lot of the people I follow... aren't well liked. I basically exist to tell them that they are talented and welcomed members of the community and to provide a juxtaposition to all the hatred they get every day from being online all the time. (They aren't hated for being bad people, most of them are very nice and a lot of fun to be around, they are just on teams maybe someone doesn't like or that isn't doing well or someone doesn't like the organisation their team exists and plays under ectect.). As you can see, this is a pretty big juxtaposition to actual ibwn who can barely make it through the day without curling up in a ball and crying off to sleep. The question I have, should I introduce i'mbadwithnames2's community to actual i'mbadwithnames? It kind of feels like I am playing them and betraying them by not being authentic, but at the same time I enjoy seperating the two because it means I can be on social media and forget about how awful my life and mental health is and just be someone completely different, arguably better, person. But at the same time, maybe online community wants to know so they can help me? I don't really have an in person support system so I get most of my "support" from online friends, a couple of which know how much I am struggling. But a lot of my little community (god it feels egotistical to call them "my community") don't actually know. They never get to peek behind the curtain of positivity. As mentioned, I got some bad news today so being that positive person is likely about to become harder. What do you guys think? Any thoughts and opinions would be appreciated.

Mental hospital help

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I've really been felling so horrible lately, I cant stand it. Nobody believes i suffer from mental illnesses (I have diagnosed anxiety and depression) and I hate having to research reasons to not kill myself every night. i want to get better, and i think i just need some time away from my social life and family. but i dont have a clue on how to get admitted to a mental ward. help is appreciated

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I think I need help replies: 11

Don't know what to do anymore replies: 3

I feel worthless and that nothing will ever chane replies: 5

I'm so very very tired and empty replies: 2

Why would my psychologist ask me if I am depressed? replies: 17

I can't see any future anymore replies: 2

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