Newbie - Coping with chronic pain ,depression and grief

[Lumlo]

Hi I am new to the forum. I suffer with chronic pain ,depression and grief and currently have worring problems with my adult children.

One has had major surgery and the other has been on drugs and has ongoing legal issues and mental health problems.

With xmas close I am not coping well and need some support. I am hoping talking on the forum will help me.

[Lumlo]

Hi Rabbit33

Yes therapy went well and I will go back next week so hope to move forward.

Hard day with my son. I just worry so much that he will be ok. There is only so much I can do to help.

Lumlo

[Rabbit33]

Glad to hear therapy went well. That is a big bonus!

Stay focused. Sending you strength!

[Lumlo]

Hi Rabbit33

Thanks, I sure need some strength atm. I feel my life has fallen apart and I am a mess. Crying all the time. There is only so much a person can take and its just all too much.

I am thankful I have found a therapist and can see her weekly for a while. I hope she can help me prevent panic attacks and reduce my anxiety somehow.

Feeling very anxious and shaky

[Rabbit33]

Hi Lumlo,

Have faith and be open and honest and i'm sure they'll be able to provide you with the support and suggest other methods of assistance along your journey.
It's awful feeling the way you are, but things will get better. You need to try and concentrate on the good news that you have received over the past couple of days and to take a break away from it all from time to time. I hope you're okay.

[Lumlo]

Hi Rabbit33

Yesterday I saw a friend . I find it so hard lately to socialise its just so exhausting. While she was talking I started to feel over heated and far away unable to focus on the conversation. My anxiety stated to increase and I was scared I would have another panic attack in her house..I did slow breathing it seemed to help then went home to sleep. So tired. Hope things improve soon. Been doing guided meditation.

Lumlo

[Rabbit33]

Hi Lumlo,

I feel you with the anxiety and socialising. I also find it very difficult at times and end up cancelling or not attending social events due to my anxiety. If they are a close friend, may just explain you're suffering from anxiety and going through a really tough time so that they are aware and know that it doesn't have anything to do with them. People usually respond in a positive, supportive way. Also eases the situation a bit for you.

Hope you're doing okay today. Hold in there. 🙂

[Lumlo]

Hi Rabbit33

Yes doing a bit better today. It did scared me feeling that way and trying not to loose confidence in going out. Yes she is a close friend but some people can be quite judgemental about mental health issues so although she does know I have been going through a really tough time I have not given out much info .

I have found friends who have had similar issues ok to tell but others reaction is often not good. This friend holds very different ideas on mh issues and treatment but is still a good friend .

I now have had a physchologist appointment with a new lady and have to decide if I should keep seeing her or go back to the one I have seen for some years. Im not in a good frame of mind to make decisions now so its difficult. Will have one more visit then must decide.

Also had a skin cancer taken off today so taking it easy.

Lumlo

[Rabbit33]

Hi Lumlo,

I understand. Sometimes we just have to push ourselves, just a little bit to go out and see people. Even if you just take baby steps. The more we stay indoors and avoid these situations, i think the hard it becomes. but I think it also works the opposite too. The more we go out and push ourselves just a little, the easier it becomes.

I get what you're saying with people having different view points with mental health, i have also come across that. You don't need to tell anyone anything that you're not comfortable in doing so. Somethings are best left at minimum.
With your new psychologist.. Maybe you could check and see if she is willing to provide a report and send on to your old Psychologist once they return. Or vise verser. See how you feeling a few weeks and make a decision then. There's no rush at this point.

Hope everything went well with the skin cancer being removed. Take it easy!!!!!!

🙂

[Lumlo]

Hi Rabbit33

Yes baby steps. I push myself to go out and see people at least sometimes. There are some friends that are just easier to be with too.

Some days life is just too much so I stay home and try to eat healthy and rest in the hope I will gain some strength and energy back. Lately baking is my way to wind down. Coconut loaf and banana and blueberry muffins this week.

I am now seeing a different Physcologist as my Gp said I needed a sooner appointment. I physc I have seen before has a long wait for an appointment. You,re right I dont have to decide now which one to see .

My anxiety is very bad now and my problems are not improving so my health is getting worse. Every days a struggle but hopefully it will get easier soon.

Lumlo

[Lumlo]

Hi. Feeling very low this morning. Finding it hard to stop crying. So alone and things are just not improving .

It is a long day for me today and I dont think I can manage it. Three appointments and a lot of driving. Trying to deal with family issues so difficult.

My Gp has taken me off one medication and my anxiety is very bad now and not being able to sleep exhausting.

These panic attacks are just awful. Im not sure what to do next.