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Newbie - Coping with chronic pain ,depression and grief 

Lumlo
Community Member

Hi I am new to the forum. I suffer with chronic pain ,depression and grief and currently have worring problems with my adult children.

One has had major surgery and the other has been on drugs and has ongoing legal issues and mental health problems.

With xmas close I am not coping well and need some support. I am hoping talking on the forum will help me.

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Rabbit33
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi Lumlo,

How did today go?

Have been thinking about you and hoping for the best. Hope you're okay!!?

Lumlo
Community Member

Hi Rabbit33

Really awful day but court adjurned he did an ok job of self representation. That really surprised me. My anxiety was really extreme but no panic attack so thats good. I was shaky and felt sick in the stomach all day. Feeling very low now after such a stressful day. It seems to never end now it will be on another day months of worry again.

Hes so angry and difficult its a real strain then on top lots of driving.

Its kind of you to ask .

Rabbit33
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi Lumlo,

I'm glad to hear that he did a good job representing himself. Shows that he has a grip of what is going on.
Maybe this means, you can a break? if the dates been adjourned for a month or so. I think you owe it to yourself to take a few steps back and relax. Go away for a weekend with your partner?

It must be very overwhelming to go through today and to know that it's still on going so i think it's important that you do something positive to help yourself feel a bit better.

Lumlo
Community Member

Hi Rabbit33

You are right there have been some positive steps for him recently. I txt today I was proud of him how he spoke up for himself a hard thing for anyone. I do think hes trying to get into a better lifesyle just recently. I am helping when asked with organising appointments and sending msg as reminders. Just to be asked to help is new. Its so hard not to loose hope of any improvement.

I like your idea of something positive . Not sure if a trip away but will be possible I will give it some thought.

Lumlo

Rabbit33
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

So glad to hear circumstances are slightly on the improvement. You've done so well!

Definitely put some thought into doing something for yourself. I think it is well deserved!

Feel free to reach out if you need to chat or needing some support.

🙂

Lumlo
Community Member

So tired today. Just feeling exhausted. Decided to take it easy watching netflix . Did some meditation and went for a walk. I think all the anxiety and stress has worn me out. Not sure how to regain my motivation or some energy but probly start with getting plenty of rest and a multivitamin.

Lumlo
Community Member

Feeling so low 7.30pm and going to bed . Think I just got nothing left. Both myself and partner now going to get skin cancers off soon. Seems like constant pressure. You are right Rabbit33 I need something positive to make me feel a bit better. At the moment I dont have enough energy to think about it but will tomorrow will book a massage. Start to try relaxing and rest up .

Appreciate all your support

Rabbit33
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi Lumlo,

No need to thank me, i'm just glad that i'm able to offer some sort of support to you.
Try not to worry about the skin cancers being removed. That's out of your control and you're doing what needs to be done there. Definitely go and get that massage! You deserve it! 🙂

Lumlo
Community Member

Hi Rabbit33

The massage was really good and helped relax me. Then I took my partner out for lunch. Neither of us felt like it but I am striving to keep from doing nothing because I feel so bad. It was ok. Its a real struggle for me to get at all motivated recently.

Will see my Gp again next week to discuss medications and try and get a physcologist appointment some time soon.

Just hope things improve soon or I can accept the way it is and get some peace again.

Rabbit33
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

I'm so happy to hear this! Good work! You needed a day for you.

Things will get easier, especially over time. Some things we need to just accept and make peace with anyway but hopefully it won't come to that yet so keep your chin up and keep doing what you're doing. You're doing great!

🙂