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Mindfulness: What Is It? (Even if you dont know please post so we can help grow the forums accordingly)

blondguy
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Hi Everybody

This is only the basic dictionary definition...

"Mindfulness is a state of active, open attention on the present. When you're mindful, you observe your thoughts and feelings from a distance without judging them good or bad. Instead of letting your life pass you by, mindfulness means living in the moment without judgement"

  • Please be as blunt you wish....If you dont have an idea about mindfulness it would be great if you could let us know
  • If mindfulness hasnt worked/or is too broad a concept for you it would great if you can let us know your thoughts too
  • If mindfulness has helped you, please help others to help themselves by posting how you have embraced this mindset

It goes without saying that the forums are a judgement free zone and I really hope that everyone can jump in and have their say

Your input is highly valued no matter how you respond to this topic. There are no experts here...New Posters are Most Welcome!!

My Kindest Thoughts

Paul

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quirkywords
Community Champion
Community Champion

Grandy and everyone

I thought the hope box was a real thing and not an app.
I don’t do apps. It I like idea of a real box.

I used to have a real memory box so now I need to make new memories for another box.

Ggrand
Community Champion
Community Champion

Heel Quirky and everyone..

Your right Quirky...We can make up our very own hope box..to use when we need to...I have a few..I call grounding boxes around my house, and one in my car...

The hope box app...makes me feel more comfortable to use in a busy waiting room...looks like I’m playing games ect on my phone to anyone who looks in my direction..

I always used a stress ball or fiddle toy while I was waiting....Then other people would stare at me..so now the hope box app is for “my waiting room mindfulness”..

A memory box sounds beautiful Quirky...

My kindest and most caring thoughts.

Grandy..

hi quirky and grandy - the virtual hope box is based on a physical hope box. It could be a shoe box or folder, filled with photos, dreams, music, achievements etc. Many of those things I cannot take with me so are on my phone.

"What day is it?" asked Pooh. "It's today," squeaked Piglet. "My favourite day," said Pooh.

Tom R
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi everyone,

I noticed this thread and thought "Oh, good one!" Obviously it's a long thread, and I apologise, I've not read all of the comments (yet), but gee there's some good here. I apologise too if what I say now has been said already.

Mindfulness became a bit of a 'buzz' word a couple of years ago and a bit of a craze developed around it leading to colouring books for adults, apps and all sorts. And there are some good ones. For me though, the basis is about become more deeply aware and conscious of 'what is,' those uncontrollable, outside of my influence realities and experiencings of the day-to-day that I can become more attuned to noticing rather than unconsciously ignoring or pushing aside. That might sound simple, and therefore unjust, because it isn't simple, it's hard work. But like anything requiring effort or significant practice, it requires discipline. There are days or even instances where it works well for and others where, try as I might, I fail to reach that zone or sweet spot. But it doesn't mean that I cease trying.

Sometimes for me, it is sitting in my garden observing a snail or caterpillar, or watching something else through the lens of my camera, or the symmetry of a dragonfly's wings, the movement of clouds, the noticing of a sensation within my body, a scent I can smell or a prayer-like recognition of the everyday as I wash the dishes or make the bed. And sometimes it is poetry or building Lego. I bring my focus and attention, my noticing to my currency, my experiencing without having to buy in to whatever it is. I might notice the tension in my stomach or shoulders whilst at the same time not buying into the story of why I am experiencing the sensation. There might be a story, and it might tell me something, perhaps even the truth, in full or part, but if I'm buying in I've ceased noticing and made judgements which now impact my decision making or mood, etc. It seems silly in some ways to call it mindfulness, I see it more of a matter of mind emptying rather than filling, an act of intentionally letting go....

Just my two bob's worth. T.

smallwolf
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hiya Tom R and welcome to this thread. 🙂

Thanks for your thoughts on the topic.

Though will add that mindfulness does not have to be just about emptying or letting go. If you have done an ACT exercise like "leaves on a stream" which can also been considered as a mindful exercise...in this case you put your thoughts onto leaves passing in the stream. The same thing can be done with a bus or train at a bus or train station and putting your thoughts onto the side of the bus/train. In this scenario, it is more about looking at thoughts non-judgmentally and with acceptance.

Can perhaps look at "some-exercise is mindfulness" is like "a car is a vehicle" - there are different types of cars, boats, planes, bikes etc. All have a different function and purpose. So mindfulness is more of an umbrella term that includes many forms of exercises, practices etc.

Tom R
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member
Thanks, I'm training in ACT at present actually and hoping to do some face to face training with Russ Harris next year.

Moonstruck
Community Member

Hello...I am.not sure what ACT is...can you explain it to.me?...I've noticed a few folk mentioning "hope box or app" or "memory box".on this thread.

I can't see their connection or relevance at all to mindfulness. Am I missing something.

I have no hassle practising mindfulness at all though haven't felt the urge lately.

I find it much more delightful when it descends upon me unexpectedly e.g. when something captures my attention so completely I devote 100% to noticing every small detail....I can't understand why mindfulness seems so confusing to some.

You can access it any time...any place...easy.

Moon

I agree when something captures ones attention so one devotes 100% to noticing each detail, it is wonderful to be in the moment.

I am not so much confused as I have a mind that is always churning like a washing machine where my thoughts are tangled. When this happens I find it had to focus then I need to quieten my mind as it does not happen naturally.

I am trying to be able to access mindfulness anytime like you can.

I think some people have trouble accessing mindfulness while others find it harder.
I enjoy the honesty of your posts.

hi Moonstruck, *waves to everyone else*

just to throw out my 2c worth...

on the apps... I had mentioned using an/that app as it included mindfulness related tools and that for me mindfulness can be difficult when riding the waves of low feelings.

now, in relation to mindfulness, some might thing it will help remove their negative feelings. And for some people that might also work. For others who think this it does not work and discard it.

In the world of ACT (acceptance commitment therapy) instead of thinking of/trying to remove the negative feelings, look at acceptance and making space for negative thoughts/feelings. For example, I have a lump in the throat feeling, so that I could use my mind to examine that thing and the breath and imagine the space around that lump growing and that feeling of the lump in my throat is lessened. And it has a lot of other exercises one can use.

hope some of that made sense.

Tim

PS. Me... I am more in the ACT group after I found that mindfulness did not work (for me) as a way or removing the negative feelings.

Jstar49
Community Member

Hi, hello, giinagay,

I have enjoyed mediation and mindfulness for a lot of years now. My favourite memory, tho it was hell at the time- I think becos I was judging myself for not 'doing it right'- was a retreat and every morning we would do a walking meditation. Just walking, in a line, slowly, feeling every part of our feet as they connected with the floor. I practice it now, started again when I had hip trouble. Such a lovely thing to do, to be here now.

One thing I remember was out teacher telling us it was like our mind was a muddy churned up stream. We just had to wait til it settled, and all the silt and dirt settled to the bottom and then the stream ran clear. I think it's taken me many years to fully practice that teaching, and not much of it has been sitting in lotus position!

I used to always think there was something else more important to do. I'm getting better.

Cheers,

J*