Do You Like Yourself? Your Thoughts are Welcome!

[blondguy]

Hello Everybody and new posters especially:-)

I have had anxiety since 1983 and depression from 1997. There is always someone that says 'You have to Love Yourself' before recovery. When people are suffering from anxiety/depression this may be the last 'advice' they really need. This is only my experience when I am 'advised to love myself' to rebuild my life. I have heard the following from people that cant 'love themselves' which is fair enough as I am a person that cant either. Your thoughts will help me and others learn from your point of view. I can only be 'gentle' to myself to heal...not love.

• Why should I love myself if I dont in the first place?
• I am in a dark place, how can I love myself?
• I dont deserve to love myself
• I am depressed...How can I love myself?
• I have mega anxiety attacks..what is there to love about myself?
• I hate myself and what I stand for...why should I?
• I love my partner more...I will care about myself 'later'

When people have depression/anxiety/denial they dont need to be counseled with ' love yourself'. Thats a huge ask.

I dont need to climb Mt Everest by trying to love myself when I cant. It can be an unrealistic and even silly target to achieve having depression

I just prefer to be 'gentle' to myself. Same results and way less stress 🙂 Your thoughts/opinions are more than welcome

Thankyou so much

Paul

[white knight]

Hi everyone

I just wanted to congratulate Paul (blondeguy) for exceeding 100 posts on this thread.

And what about the readers that haven't posted and the benefit they receive?.

Huge effort Paul.

Tony WK

[Just Sara]

I reiterate Tony's sentiments;

Well done Paul, 100 and counting..a worthy subject indeed and quality posts from all concerned.

Sara xo

[Guest_322]

Hi QldMouse,

Any time 😊

Your Lady of the Couch (counsellor) sure likes to ask difficult (but maybe important) questions. That does sound like a tough challenge that she gave you. But, hey, you're trying and that's all any of us can ever do when it comes down to it.

You're doing the best you can. Effort must count for something, right? Hurray for effort, I say!

Dottie x

[Guest_322]

Congratulations Paul!

A solid effort!

Dottie x

[blondguy]

Hey Qld Mouse, thanks so much for understanding that the 'L' word doesnt exist for some of us (me included)

Dottie123.....what can i say?.....you are a tower of strength on the forums especially with your limited access and studies.....xxoo

TonyWK/Sara Connor....you guys are my rock and much love for your solid support and wisdom xo

Paul 🙂

[Guest_322]

Thanks Paul 😊

I do have a laptop but reply from my phone for convenience- I'm now very fast at texting ha, ha.

Dottie x

[blondguy]

Hey Dottie 🙂

Let me guess....texting with two thumbs at 100mph???

I have a Sony Xperia Z5 which has a heap of horsepower and am a tech head but texting at the speed of sound just doesnt happen unfortunately

Paulxo

[Guest_322]

Hi Paul,

Your post gave me a chuckle. Yes, it's a, uh, skill. Practice makes perfect 😉

Dottie x

[blondguy]

Hey Dottie,

you also help others and post between classes too! Love your energy

If you wish to say hello or let us know what a young Champion is doing at Christmas you (and everybody) are more than welcome to say hello at the Christmas2016 & New Years Chillout Lounge..Your thoughts or plans for Christmas would be appreciated...If you have the time of course 🙂

my kindest

Paulx

[rufio]

i have anxiety but i dont have depression

i do love myself, i think i am super awesome but i dont think everyone thinks that about me, but thats ok, everyone is different.

my issue is i worry about things but im learning to not, i am always working on myself. recent work; things are cool and try to put myself into situations to push myself so i know things are cool.

i also believe this is easy to do which relaxes me, gives me more self confidence and makes it so i dont worry about my own condition