Hello Dear Dools, Grandy, Quirky and All,
I have that invisible drifting feeling sometimes too Dools. I feel like I’m kind of outside the rest of the world. I think it is a coping mechanism the mind-body does. I try to remember the times I do feel connected and that those times will cycle round again.
A couple of days ago I was like you and didn’t feel able to do much. I did eventually go to the ocean late afternoon and sat on the rocks and watched crabs scurrying about. By the end of it I had grounded a bit and did feel somewhat better. But I know just how hard it can be sometimes just to get out and do things, even when you know it’s likely to be good for you. I keep trying to remember the feeling of being more grounded when I’m in nature.
Good on you for managing the routines. I feel like we need to be kind and supportive of ourselves for what we do manage. I often see what I haven’t done while failing to see what I have done. I’m trying to build an inner supportive voice that takes care of myself and learning to use that voice a bit to be kinder to myself.
Thank you Grandy, I think early life experiences can certainly affect how our brains evolved. I was a child of parents who themselves lacked parental support, so it was hard for them to know how to do that for me. I think, at least in my case, that intergenerational patterns passed down have a lot to do with why I’m so hard on myself and especially so at the times I most need support. I feel like it is a gradual process of reparenting myself, like giving myself a second go at life with a new set of conditions that this time actually build a foundation for supporting and caring for myself.
And Quirky, those little things like saying hello to a stranger can be grounding and bring us back into a feeling of connectedness. This morning I bumped into my neighbour in town and we had a chat. Then a fellow came along on his gopher and chatted with us. So I find those spontaneous interactions can break through the separate bubble I’m in sometimes. I find patting dogs often helps too! 🐶💗
Thank you everyone for your thoughts and kindness 🤗
