Heya- funny you should say that Katy. On the gardening thread we're having a convo about prayers/music with plants, and it reminded me of how important it is to speak kindly to yourself......
Maybe it's more helpful to apply the old 'criticism sandwich'approach- they teach it in conflict resolution. To give constructive criticism to someone, it's helpful to first give a positive comment, followed by the negative/criticism, finishing with another positive.
As in: I like the way I was brave enough to talk about what was bothering me. I may not have done it well, as I got too emotional, however, next time I'll do better, becos I've noticed that when I practice difficult things like this I do get better at it.
Kind thoughts,
J*
