Do You Like Yourself? Your Thoughts are Welcome!

[blondguy]

Hello Everybody and new posters especially:-)

I have had anxiety since 1983 and depression from 1997. There is always someone that says 'You have to Love Yourself' before recovery. When people are suffering from anxiety/depression this may be the last 'advice' they really need. This is only my experience when I am 'advised to love myself' to rebuild my life. I have heard the following from people that cant 'love themselves' which is fair enough as I am a person that cant either. Your thoughts will help me and others learn from your point of view. I can only be 'gentle' to myself to heal...not love.

• Why should I love myself if I dont in the first place?
• I am in a dark place, how can I love myself?
• I dont deserve to love myself
• I am depressed...How can I love myself?
• I have mega anxiety attacks..what is there to love about myself?
• I hate myself and what I stand for...why should I?
• I love my partner more...I will care about myself 'later'

When people have depression/anxiety/denial they dont need to be counseled with ' love yourself'. Thats a huge ask.

I dont need to climb Mt Everest by trying to love myself when I cant. It can be an unrealistic and even silly target to achieve having depression

I just prefer to be 'gentle' to myself. Same results and way less stress 🙂 Your thoughts/opinions are more than welcome

Thankyou so much

Paul

[Guest_1584]

Good for you big blue l'd think it could really pick you up.

Eh paul , we're you yeah right , can't say as l suffer from that one l look after n out for me all the time especially when l need it but even when l don't . Glad you made some progress though anyway mate. rx

[blondguy]

Hey RX

Thanks for being so understanding...It can be difficult to like ourselves when we give too much TLC helping others before placing ourselves first...Im still learning how to do this. Have a good weekend 🙂

Paul

[Moonstruck]

Big blue...I am so pleased and proud of you...I wish I could be like you...x

[Guest_4643]

Katy - thank you, that means a lot.

randomx - thank you also, that means a lot too.

TheBigBlue - that's awesome, congrats.

[Guest_4593]

Feeling dam low, something's changed too everyone wants to get better... i dont care

[smallwolf]

what happened Guest_4593? I know that feeling of not caring. Would it help to talk?

[Guest_4643]

What's wrong Guest_4593? I'm sorry you're feeling this way.

We're here if you need to talk.

[Guest_1584]

Sorry guest, hope the mojo returns for you.

rx

[blondguy]

Hi Everyone!

Hey Guest_4593...Its always good to see you and thanks Tim.. Moon..RX and Tayla for providing your super support 🙂

Its not a good place to be in Guest_4593...If you wish to elaborate on why you dont care you are always welcome....we can only provide you with more effective support.

my kind thoughts....Paul

[Katyonthehamsterwheel]

Hi all

I'm feeling pretty good about myself today, so thought I'd mark it in. We're in lockdown here in WA, and it's ok but there's this sort of underlying angst and I've noticed people being a bit short with one another, so I'm trying extra careful to be gentle with people. I like that I'm doing that.

Hope you're all doing ok. Katy