Be Yourself but who am I?

[quirkywords]

I have often been told to just be myself but then I am encouraged to be softer, think less, eat less, worry less, relax more , exercise more, be more confident, less timid, less cautious, more adventurous,less selfish, stop being a people pleaser, be happier, be kinder , ask less questions and the list goes on.

I find this confusing if I am to be myself why must I change?

The other problem is who am I, which self should I be: the introvert, the extrovert, the cautious, the risk-taker, the overthinker, the fast talker, the quiet one, the indecisive one, the spontaneous one, the carefree one, the worried one, the selfish one, the altruistic one, and much more.

Thse two words be yourself seem so easy for many people but not for me as it fills me with many questions.

I will limit myself to two questions .

Can you be yourself without changing?

Is it possible to change/improve a part of yourself and still be yourself?

Quirky

[Moonstruck]

Still trying to figure it out hey Quirky. You're all those things. Isn't that wonderful that you are not just a one-dimensional cut-out figure? You're all those things......love Moon X

[Elizabeth CP]

I agree. Robots are great at one thing but change the situation or task and they are useless. Humans are adaptable. We can be the super strict parent or grandparent or teacher when required but can be loving and sympathetic and understanding when the person we care for requires it. We can put on a brave face when needed to get through a tough situation but once we're through it we dissolve in tears. Adapting to the situation is part of being ourselves as long as we act in accordance with our own values throughout

[amberlite]

yes i think be myself means be true to myself, i can bend and twist to fit in but in the end there must be a benefit for my true self. that's so honest only here can i enjoy your posts and share my thoughts, guilty pleasure.

[quirkywords]

Moon,

thanks. I am still trying to work out who zi am

Elizabeth,

I sometimes wish I was a robot .

amberlite

yes be your true self, whatever that means for me.

[quirkywords]

Is anyone question who they are now their routines have changed, maybe now work, or work from home, can’t visit friends or family, .

How do you maintain your sense of self of identity in these uncertain times..?

[quirkywords]

I doubt myself a lot in these last few years.

[Elizabeth CP]

I find it difficult when I can't do the things which I feel are important. Family has always been really important to me but with all the restrictions over the last year and a half I haven't had chance to see my children except the one living close to us. Even my son living nearby I can't visit and we can't help each other. This leaves me feeling that I've lost my identity as a mother who actively supports my family. I feel like I've lost my purpose.

[Learn to Fly]

Hey quirkywords,

Perfect question for current times, thank you.

I am the person who likes to have the things done. Tick the boxes. Done and dusted. Move on. Progress.

I struggle now as I feel like I am constantly operating on a reverse gear. Yes, I had to put some things on hold and I feel like the time is sleeping away and wasting away.
And I also doubt myself waaay too often, undermining my own judgement.

[quirkywords]

Thanks Learn to Fly for your honest reply.

I think many of us doubt ourselves these days as life is changing and there is so much uncertainty.

I doubt myself even more when life keeps changing.

I wonder how many others start doubting themselves and feel like life is in reverse gear.

[quirkywords]

Hi everyone

I find trying to be myself is hard when loved ones want to change me in some way.

Can anyone relate ?

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