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Just Sara A Bouquet for Pearls - share your appreciation for other members
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Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful word... View more

Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful words. I hope this thread stays active through members giving out praise regularly to people they feel deserving, and therefore keep generosity of spirit alive within the pages of BeyondBlue Forum. My bunch of Red Roses (my choice) goes to Wishful for the following sentence; 'Personally, I see no reason to be praised in me, but I'm learning that seeing through the eyes of others can be more accurate!!' I so hear you Wishful. Just beautiful... Try to keep your leading comments short to focus on 'their' words. Choose specific flowers (or a gift if you like) to present to them. Sign off respectfully and sincerely. I hope this takes off... Spreading the love...Sara

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AGrace Finding motivation
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Hey, One of the things that struck me when I fell ill was how to motivate myself, and how to stay motivated? So I thought I'd share some of my tips, and I wondered whether you have some to share as well? "Start where you are, use what you have, do wh... View more

Hey, One of the things that struck me when I fell ill was how to motivate myself, and how to stay motivated? So I thought I'd share some of my tips, and I wondered whether you have some to share as well? "Start where you are, use what you have, do what you can" Arthur Ashe Set Goals (make them specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and timely) Share your goals with others (they may be able to monitor your progress) Get out of bed each morning and start with a shower and breakfast Prepare and use a schedule Reward yourself for achievements Allow others to help you when you need it Do what you can (if that means getting out of bed, then do that) Get to know your discomfort zone, this is what holds you back Be willing to step out of your comfort zone Sometimes action needs to precede motivation Put on some upbeat energising music "If you can't fly, then run, if you can't run then walk, if you can't walk then crawl, but whatever you do, you have to keep moving forward." Martin Luther King Jr.

Bard A pocket full of hope
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WHAT is the most inspiring/encouraging/empowering/motivating thing that anyone has said to you which has made a difference in your life, especially if it's a touchstone you come back to in hard times??

WHAT is the most inspiring/encouraging/empowering/motivating thing that anyone has said to you which has made a difference in your life, especially if it's a touchstone you come back to in hard times??

joey Practicing DBT skills
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I think there are a few of us here with BPD at the moment and some have done DBT. I thought maybe we can start a thread where we share the skills that we use. Explain the skill and what you did. E.G at the moment I am trying to practice distress tole... View more

I think there are a few of us here with BPD at the moment and some have done DBT. I thought maybe we can start a thread where we share the skills that we use. Explain the skill and what you did. E.G at the moment I am trying to practice distress tolerance - self soothe. Last night I bought nice ingredients for my dinner (I didn't not get certain things because they are expensive like usually). Tonight I am going to have a hot shower and wash my hair and smell the products I use. Joey

jimgoose I'm glad I got help
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hi im jimgoose age 47 i am the youngest brother in my family.My Nanna Molly was a part of the stolen gen along with her siblings.She was from the yorta yorta people up near the nsw /vic border and was turned into a house maid.Nanna passed away when i... View more

hi im jimgoose age 47 i am the youngest brother in my family.My Nanna Molly was a part of the stolen gen along with her siblings.She was from the yorta yorta people up near the nsw /vic border and was turned into a house maid.Nanna passed away when i was very young but my sister of 3 years older knew her very well. My cousin Jenny is an Aboriginal artist , has had a fair success with her paintings and knows my Nanna's story better than I.The rest of my ancestory comes from england wales Ireland etc.I have been thinking about ending my life for a long time and hid it from everybody well.I used self ending as an outlet for pressure as in if i went through with it id have no more worries.This gave me comfort until about a year ago i started to plan the act of suicide down to the last detail.Finally i decided to tell my partner of 23 years about my thoughts because i realised that i would be hurting others if i did it.My partner understood and told me i should get some help ,so i did and I feel a lot better. I still use ending it all as a cure for not coping with the pressures of life , but its like the doctor and cat team have wound the clock back a bit thus giving me time.I also got medication which i don't like.Everything i did just seemed pointless and i felt like the entire world hated me and i was also a bit more delusional than normal.Im so glad i got help because i believe i may see my kids become responsible adults one day. This is my second post and i know im not alone here and i somehow feel like i belong again. beyondblue’s clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636. Normal 0 false false false EN-AU X-NONE X-NONE /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-priority:99; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0cm 5.4pt 0cm 5.4pt; mso-para-margin-top:0cm; mso-para-margin-right:0cm; mso-para-margin-bottom:10.0pt; mso-para-margin-left:0cm; line-height:115%; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:11.0pt; font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-theme-font:minor-bidi; mso-fareast-language:EN-US;}

Bard Thoughts on a budget recipe: for those with BPD
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First, let me say I'm not a dietitian, so seek the best advice for you. Second, I'm not God's gift to cooking, so I hope some replies to this thread comes up with even better suggestions! Here's an impromptu dish I cooked tonight. First, peeled and d... View more

First, let me say I'm not a dietitian, so seek the best advice for you. Second, I'm not God's gift to cooking, so I hope some replies to this thread comes up with even better suggestions! Here's an impromptu dish I cooked tonight. First, peeled and diced 2/3 of a Spanish [purple] onion, they taste better and don't make cry [crying while dicing onion with a sharp knife should be avoided]. Thinly slice some fresh ginger, then lightly braise both in olive oil laced with mixed herbs. As this is starting, set rice to cook in a rice cooker [which can act as a timer for the main dish]. Back to the frypan [mine is a highsided frypan/wok with also doubles as a casserole dish]. Dice a carrot or two, then a zucchini or marrow, into the pan. Add a tin of champignons and a tin of peeled/diced tomatoes then a 200g tin of tuna. I also add a goodly slurp [technical term] of medium cooking sherry. If you prefer your zucchini al dente, add it later not sooner. Dinner for four, or four nights sorted out. What does this have to do with BPD you ask? Lots. When travelling in Europe years ago, before my BPD diagnosis, I judged my overall mood by the effort I put into cooking for one. Food also has some traps that not everyone knows. Serving myself some of my appetising Tuna Mush, I added a little Soy for flavour. Soy sauce has a high salt content and I make a practice of using it sparingly. Salt in our diet can leach Lithium from our system. This is why I avoid highly processed foods such as commercial pizza bases [salt content]. Sadly, this means moderating tomato sauce, which is also high in salt. Likewise, high fluid intake can also affect the sodium/lithium balance in our system -- well, it does for me. If I've made a glaring error, please correct me. Otherwise, I'm interested to know your recipe and lifestyle suggestions!

coco123 How do you get over bad memories?
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Once in a while I have flashback of bad memories. Then, I'm down again. I don't like times like this. It's awful. I try to keep myself busy, but it keeps on coming back briefly, here and there. How do you cope or get over things like these? View more

Once in a while I have flashback of bad memories. Then, I'm down again. I don't like times like this. It's awful. I try to keep myself busy, but it keeps on coming back briefly, here and there. How do you cope or get over things like these?

DaneSaysYay Feeling a Little Better, Achieved a Goal, hard work and focus.
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Hi there,just wanted to fill people in on what has been happening in my life, i have posted on here and replied to comments etc..but i had mad a decision that i wanted to change my life and i have past a waypoint in my journey, whilst not being where... View more

Hi there,just wanted to fill people in on what has been happening in my life, i have posted on here and replied to comments etc..but i had mad a decision that i wanted to change my life and i have past a waypoint in my journey, whilst not being where i want to be in my journey i am feeling good at the moment and really focused and have a good clarity about things.on sunday i rode my bike 100klms in the moretonbay100 cycle ride on brisbanes northside after focusing on getting back on my bike after disabiltiy and injury, simply put i am visualy impared have health issues and am going through some majour life changes at this time, with a long journey with depression and anxiety along for the ride.at the beginning of the year i joined the gym, started working towards goals and fundraised for charity and towards the two ride i wanted to do, on i have just done and on on 19th of october.i wrote to beyond blue earlier in the year and was talking about my goals and challenges, and asked if there where any stickers or tshirts available i could buy to wear on my training rides, hopeing to strike up conversations with people, two things happened, a lady at beyond blue sent me a tshirt and people started talking to me about why i was wearing the shirt and my story and experiences with depression and anxiety.. hopefully i have gotten through to some people and made a positive impact if only small..i would just like to say i am proud to be part of theese forums if sometimes it has been a little negative and one sided i apologie, but through changing my focus on things and with the help of people here and things i have read here, i am starting to see life diferently and feeling good about myself and the world at this moment in my life. take care peoples

JessF Would you forget?
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Last night i was watching an old episode of the X Files, where one of the main characters ends up having his memory erased and dumped in a small town in Mexico. His son had been killed years before, and the only flashes of memory that came back to hi... View more

Last night i was watching an old episode of the X Files, where one of the main characters ends up having his memory erased and dumped in a small town in Mexico. His son had been killed years before, and the only flashes of memory that came back to him were that he had a son. When his memories came back to him by the end of the episode, it was like reliving it again and he was devastated. But then he confronted the man who had erased his memories. The man asked him, "Do you really think your'e better now that you remember your life? Why would you want to have back all that pain?" And the character answered "Because it's MINE." This has set my wheels spinning more than I thought it would. It seems sort of obvious that it would be great to pusha button and erase horrible memories, especially those people who have suffered horrible abuse etc. But doesn't what happen to us define who we are and the path we take in life? I remember seeing another documentary about a man who compeltely lost his memory one day, and his wife ended up leaving him even though they'd been together for years, because he literally wasn't the man she'd married. His persoanlity was different, because it had been shaped by all the things that had happened to him, including all the years they spent together. So I'm torn. What do you think? Would erasing memories fix our depression? And would we lose something else in the process?

Stormgirl2012 Hungry and getting fatter 😢
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Hi all. I've been told that it's part and parcel of antidepressants to gain weight. Since I've been taking them (about 3 months) I want to eat constantly even thought I'm not hungry. I'm unmotivated and rarely go to the gym any more. I know I've gain... View more

Hi all. I've been told that it's part and parcel of antidepressants to gain weight. Since I've been taking them (about 3 months) I want to eat constantly even thought I'm not hungry. I'm unmotivated and rarely go to the gym any more. I know I've gained weight as my jeans are all really quite uncomfortable. Is anyone else going through this. Has anyone BEEN through this and beaten it?? I'd love to know how to beat it as I'm getting even more depressed about it and I'm at a stage where I wish I could get really sick so I'll lose weight. I try to eat mainly fruits and vegetables all day but the yucky stuff like chips and lollies are creeping in. It's disgusting. When I eat, I really gobble my food down - it's almost like a full on binge. I've been on antidepressants before and came off them for that reason. I'm at a point where I want to come off the meds again for the same thing. A could of friends have suggested I go back to my GP to get a prescription for weight loss drugs. I don't think he'll give it to me as to most people I don't look fat and my BMI is in the top end overweight range although some of it is muscle as I used to work out quite hard until all this. I think about my weight so much that it consumes me. What are everyone else's experiences - male or female.

Tommie How about a few uplifting and supportive threads?
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Lets hear the stories from those battling their way through recovery. What obstacles have or are you facing? How do they make you feel? Give yourself a moment, close your eyes and take a deep breath. Open your eyes and look at your surroundings and n... View more

Lets hear the stories from those battling their way through recovery. What obstacles have or are you facing? How do they make you feel? Give yourself a moment, close your eyes and take a deep breath. Open your eyes and look at your surroundings and nothing more. Slow down and live. You can get better. You are not alone. This is why we come here. Reset yourselves, and start again. Learn how we all work differently and individually. Listen to your mind and body and ask yourself what you can do to recover. To smile. To be happy. Find your strengths. Dont concentrate on HOW the issues are affecting you. Think HOW can I do this for ME? I myself struggle daily, but Im not giving up. Im standing up and I'm fighting. For my life and my happiness. I am a man trapped inside of a females body. I am a lesbian. I have a family and carried our beautiful daughter. I have been diagnosed with BPD, depression, anxiety, post-natal and a few more. I cannot remember the last 12 months of my life. Our daughter is 5 months old. I have run away and abandoned my family a few times now. Out of fear. But I am more than this, and I deserve more. I love my fiancé, and I love our daughter. I plan to have more children with my partner. I plan many things with her. I plan many things for us. I plan for myself. Im not walking out again, this is MY life. This is YOUR life. Live YOUR life.