I have no idea what to do anymore and how to be? I am a 21 year old
female i have an autistic brother and a sister with bipolar
schizophrenia. My parents have been controlling my whole life setting
goals and wanting to achieve something, a career a f...
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I have no idea what to do anymore and how to be? I am a 21 year old
female i have an autistic brother and a sister with bipolar
schizophrenia. My parents have been controlling my whole life setting
goals and wanting to achieve something, a career a family etc. They
suggested for 2013 I move in with my 18 year old sister land live in
apartment with her whilst we both study at the ssame university. We
often fight at times and have different morals in life, I was concerned
about her sleeping with her supervisor at work enforced my parents and
it all went wrong. My sister told them about my personal life i have
been seeing a bisexual 22 year old man, my parents said to me they were
disgusted by me and my choices and why I continue to hurt them. let me
clarify I am 21 years old enrolled in masters have a bachelor degree
started university at 17, whilst having a part time job and part time
classes at cit. I believe I am bisexual, I cried over the phone once
trying to tell my mother I couldn't tell her, she says open how she
feels about gay people it's not normal, disgusting, a bad lifestyle. I
never want to hurt my family with seeing a bisexual 22 year old man.
They can't believe an educated woman would make such a stupid decision
etc. I also applied for Finland for semester 2 exchange and found on a
Friday night through email I wasn't accepted due to high demand in
exchange students. I was crying and At that point in life I wanted to
kill my self, I was intoxicated from a bar event that night and if I
hadnt had my bisexual 22 year old man to talk to me I think I would of
done something incredibly stupid. I'm afraid of my sanity, I never knew
what normal is what is crazy, due to witnessing the mental break down of
my older sister and having an autistic brother. my parents are giving me
two choices 1. Seek medical help, get medicine, figure what mental
illness I have slowly be forgiven by them but they will always remember
all the trouble I caused or go with the 22 year old man never speak to
them, I would be nothing to them. I still don't understand why I am
being punished for sleeping with a bisexual man and my sister is
sleeping with her supervisor from work and nothing said to her. Below is
the email Hello Eem Mum & I want you to break off any kind of
relationship you have been having with Male. Not only is a risk to your
health, as he is a male bisexual, it is stupid and not appropriate. Not
something we would have ever expected from you. We are disappointed.
Please delete all your facebook details on him. You posting details
reflects badly on the whole family. If you don’t want to do this and
become the person that you should be. Then you are by all means you free
to leave the family and the apartment anytime. I will not be financially
or other ways supporting you from then onwards. You will be the black
sheep of the family. Over 3 years it cost us over $80,000 to support you
and this is the thanks and respect that we get. I suggest you get health
checks and tests as may be required particularly if you had any
unprotected sex with a bisexual. Don’t know what s going through your
head. As we suggested seek medical counselling as soon as you can, as
per our previous email. You may be having early stages of some sort of
psychological or other mental health problem. The early you address it
the better the outcome. Get to a doctor and get assessment and support.
The future is simple - do the right things, study and work, and you will
get somewhere in life. Concentrate on study and work for now. You said
to me that you want to find a guy to settle down when you were here. But
you also said some very inappropriate and worrying things when you were
here also. We are concerned for you but will not tolerate stupidity and
non-compliance to our advise. I want you to reply to my email (s). You
can phone if you wish. I will be coming there by next weekend to meet
and talk to you and A####. We have quite a few issues to sort out. I
want to see a email reply or phone call very soon.
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