Hi there LMG
This situation is a tough one for you.
But I think the biggest underlying stressor that you have at the moment is how to arrange things in the very near future (ie: very near meaning hopefully as of tomorrow and beyond) for appropriate access to your daughters. This is the most paramount thing that I can see.
I think the fact that your separated wife is with another bloke, yes, that would be bloody tough to come to terms with, but this seems to be the situation and she (and he) are the only ones who are going to change anything in that regard.
With regard to the ‘out-laws’, I would be doing all in my power to cut off ties with them and the term blood is thicker than water IS true for most families – but it’s not always the case, and I’ve got living proof of a blood relative that screws that terminology over, BIG time – but that’s not overly relevant in this context. In fact he’s not overly relevant in any context - oh Neil, very catty! Sorry, I’ve digressed. Now, where were we? Oh yeah … I’m back now.
Cut them out of your contacts and your life – cause from what you’ve mentioned, they’re going to stick strong to “their” daughter and for you to continue down the path you’re going is only going to further separate whatever relationship you originally had with them. Leave them to find out on their own – and that’s IF they do, and if they don’t, then they don’t.
As I mentioned earlier, the massively important thing here is: I’d be doing everything and more to have as much contact with your girls – and finding out options that are available to you to seek this out.
Kind regards
Neil
