Hi, welcome
Thankyou for writing in, it is not an easy situation to be in.
I'd like you to consider that friendships are best treated as fluid, they come and they go. A few will remain over the long term, hopefully lifelong but it is not common. Friendships under 5 years or so are ones to be aware of in that they are in their infancy, whereby you are still getting to know each other and we go through many tests in order to survive the barriers that come along.
It was commendable for you to raise your hand and volunteer to guide him through a new school environment. Sadly, people like you with goodwill sometimes get a backfire over time and this can be without any fault on our part. I think this is one of those cases. So what can you do in order to move on from this situation?
- Dont put all your eggs in one basket, Focussing on one friend is asking to be hurt more often.
- Consider that people that ignore you without answering a question are rude and they know that doing so is a hurtful action. That is unacceptable so better you accept that and move on quickly as that person doesnt deserve your time and kindness.
- People that say things about others with no real good reason can be destructive. Again stay away.
Mature people discuss issues freely. This ex best friend might have some growing up to do and that is ok, you cant all be mature at school age. However, make sure you dont pay the price for your ex best friends problems. Some people have to learn to OWN their own actions and until they do I recommend finding better quality friends. Try not to hold a grudge, blaming isnt helpful nor empathetic. Be the bigger person and say "Hi" when you pass each other and dont expect a reply.
I hope that help.
TonyWK
