Fight with the In-Laws
Dear MissL. Your reaction to them ignoring your concern is quite justified. They had your son, it was up to them to let you know their plans so this wouldn't happen. Your son is 2, you naturally have concerns as it was his first time away from the security of his home. I don't see you not trusting them, I hear what you are saying. They should've contacted you and explained what was happening. Your hubby is in a difficult situation, he has his parents on one side and his wife on the other. To him, his parents acted as they always have. If they request this again, your son staying over, I would be inclined to discuss their plans with them so they understand your concerns regarding your son. They sound a bit laid back, blasé, and rather disrespectful which means this situation could happen again if you and hubby are not open and let them know exactly what is expected. They need to respect your wishes as a parent. My heart would've been in my mouth too with having a 2 year old staying overnight with people he's not that familiar with. Yes, they're his g'parents, but he's only 2 and they need to understand he possibly may have been stressing too. They were totally out of line and need to be told. It has nothing to do with how many children they have raised, this is your son, not theirs.
Hi MissL. It always hurts me when people don't listen to how someone is feeling and the assumption is made that the person who is hurting is told to just 'get over it'. Are you implying you and hubby may separate or you and in-laws are no longer as a family? Your in-laws obviously don't care how they hurt anyone and they sound rather selfish too. This is not your fault, they overstepped the mark and if left, it will continue. You are a naturally caring mum who loves your son and they completely disrespected your wish to meet up later. I hope your son is not too traumatized and with your love and caring nature, this will soon be a distant, but bad memory. In-laws, a.k.a outlaws.
Hi MissL I'm so pleased you and hubby are together on this one. I've seen so many marriages/relationships break-up over problems with in-laws. It is most definitely not a relationship you have with these people, you actually have nothing as they are uncaring and disrespectful. Try not to be too distressed as they are not worthy. Take care of yourself and your family.