Hi Elizabeth Louise,
I understand your fear very much. Literally every person who has ever separated has thought they can’t go on and they’ll never find someone who loves them. But the reality is that the world is full of people who separated, and in many case (most I would say), they actually end up happier than they were previously. Because there is honestly very little that makes you feel worse than an unhappy marriage. And if you are honest with yourself, I think that your marriage isn’t working for you either. But you are afraid, and that is perfectly fine to be afraid. But I think you’ll realise the reality is far less scary than you fear of the unknown. I was absolutely terrified of separating from my ex-partner, I thought I couldn’t cope on my own, that I’d never find a place, etc etc. But I found all of those and so much more. And now I’m with someone, I look back on that time as one of the best of my life. You may love your husband, I loved my abusive ex partner, and it’s a terrible thing to have to grieve someone who is still alive. But it’s worse to stay in the situation you are in now for the rest of your life.
