Feeling lost and in love, tell us your reasons.

geoff · ‎24-05-2021

We have many comments about being in love with someone but unable to achieve what we desire for many reasons.

Love is a beautiful word that can be expressed by just a small smile, a floating kiss or even a simple message that only has a word or two, such as I cherish you, I want you to be by my side or more adoring words, sometimes we are too afraid to show our love and causes problems that we were not expecting.

Why do we show our pets more love than we do with our partner/spouse?

All thoughts are welcome, both good and those that truly upset us.

Take care.

Geoff.

geoff · ‎25-09-2021

Hello RX, did you put your return address on the back of the letter, so if it's returned back to you, then she has moved address presumably.

Elsam, ask him who he is barracking for in the football, he might be a strong supporter hat has his mind occupied.

Good to see you both WaterFront and Jtjt.

Take care.

Geoff.

quirkywords · ‎25-09-2021

Geoff and everyone reading

This thread is so fascinating so I like to drop in from time to time but don’t often post. I learn a lot from others relationships .
We all have different ways of coping, different life experiences and different things we won’t put up with and different things we will learn to live with.

Thanks Geoff for starting this thread and your ongoing input.

Guest_1584 · ‎25-09-2021

Hi Geoff.

Well that's a point l've forgotten all about that but nope it hasn't popped up in my mail box. lt's been well long enough now if it was gonna be returned it'd be back by now.

rx

jsm1974 · ‎01-10-2021

This time has been such hell on relationships. My wife and I are likely to separate soon, not because of problems with our relationship, but because of the impacts that working from home has had on her mental health. She now hates being in our place, and her distaste for the place has extended somewhat to me. She says that she feels like her love for me may have changed, which i've gathered is in the sense that I've been downgraded to friend. I have no doubt that all of this can be attributed directly to stress, having felt the same way in the past, but in this case I think it may be difficult for her to get those feelings back.

I'm 47 years old, so I've been through my share of breakups, but this one not only makes no sense, but is a horrible tragedy. I love being married to her and we've always given each other so much love, affection, and support. Just seems so wrong for this to be what breaks us.

geoff · ‎01-10-2021

Hello Jsm, I am so deeply sorry that because of us being forced into this situation that it has come to the point where you and your wife have to separate, not necessarily because you don't love one another, but a position that seems to force you into having to deal with all these restrictions, that change every day.

Being locked up in your house that was once your dream home, can make somebody completely change their mind as it's four walls you can not escape from and could quite easily make you hate the place and can certainly alter the whole scenario.

Her love for you may have changed only because the two of you are kept inside, but this may only be temporary and when the rules are relaxed, then by getting some help may change her attitude because she needs to be able to do other hobbies or meet up with other girls that may be feeling exactly the same.

Perhaps you could encourage her to do this as well as you doing the same, and please remember the love you have for someone does change when you are locked up together but can reestablish itself when you are given back the freedom.

Love does change when someone is stressed because it may then create other problems that were not expected to happen.

I really hope she can get the help she needs to refocus back to you and if you want to get back to us that would be great, but my apologies.

Geoff.

Guest_1584 · ‎07-10-2021

l'm wondering lately , are there reasons for things ? like leading to this or that in the future but if things and life didn't happen in the way that it did, that future couldn't happen, and so they have.

Personally l believe that if we are and have followed our true core path, then yes , life and things that happen all lead to another and another that were meant to be.

But how often and this is the problem, can or do we follow our true path. It's not an easy thing to do and actually much harder than it sounds. Often to when two people are involved life takes a totally different turn than you would've chosen had of it all been up to your choice instead earlier , and so it hasn't been you true path. lt was instead a forced path , and they're the ones that cause life going of into all it's wrong directions and other things happening so the chips can not fall where and in the ways they may have been meant to for you on your true path.

l know for me at times through life when it has been my true path there is a calm and a peace , especially within. But unfortunately it's been a long time now since anything has been following my true paths

rx

WaterFront · ‎08-10-2021

Hi randomx,

Thank you for the really interesting question. That may be so though how do you know which path is forced and which is true? Can you stray so far that you can't find the true path again? I've always thought that people will eventually end up where they are supposed to be, only some people take a quick straight line and other's take the long and windy way.

WaterFront

Guest_1584 · ‎08-10-2021

Hi WF .

l know for me , l know myself and l've always known whether l'm on my true path and when l haven't been. l mean it's not easy don't get me wrong , life can force different paths, being married can force different paths and def' having kids will also.

But then again , l suppose we could also say well these are the turns life has taken for whatever reasons , true or not. And life does do that , we don't always have a choice right , it's full of twists and turns and corners we get back into.

l can say nothing of the last 15yrs for me , has been my true path. Buttttt, what can ya do l suppose, there were big factors involved.

Point is , l know l'm not where l am suppose to be now and this isn't the way things were meant to pan out. Maybe some good does still come of this path though, l don't know.

rx

geoff · ‎09-10-2021

Hello RX, WaterFront and everyone else, how do we know whether or not it's the right path you have chosen, even if problems arise and because of this, is it still the right path because that's what you and your partner are striving for, knowing that you might lose many friends along the way.

So is losing your friends and achieving your desire worth it, because what happens if for some reason the plan goes haywire, suddenly unexpectedly, your friends have gone and you have no one to console you but you believed you were making the correct decision.

So can I ask you, what is the right decision and how are we sure, presumptions we make may end up fine, but we aren't sure what will happen if the weather changes.

I suppose getting older will teach us how to cope in a positive way and if it all goes wrong, then we can cope to overcome these problems to direct us back on track.

Good question RX.

Geoff.

Guest_1584 · ‎09-10-2021

Hi Geoff and thanks for the thoughts as always.

You mention friends , did some venture cost you friends as a result ? How did you feel going into the pub l also wondered btw , did you know deep down it might be the wrong move ?

Unfortunately as l said for me there were huge T intersections in marriage and also in my relationship since . Sometimes l've known we need to turn right but they've wanted to go left and yeah , it's costed me hugely, completely changed my life and is why l am where l'm at.

But what can you do, damage has been done. like you say in the last few lines though l suppose , we learn to except and overcome , try to get back on track.

rx