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Feeling lost and in love, tell us your reasons.
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We have many comments about being in love with someone but unable to achieve what we desire for many reasons.
Love is a beautiful word that can be expressed by just a small smile, a floating kiss or even a simple message that only has a word or two, such as I cherish you, I want you to be by my side or more adoring words, sometimes we are too afraid to show our love and causes problems that we were not expecting.
Why do we show our pets more love than we do with our partner/spouse?
All thoughts are welcome, both good and those that truly upset us.
Take care.
Geoff.
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@Randomx
I really hope you hear from her, it is painful if you still love her and she is not responding.
How long since you have sent the letter if you don’t mind me asking? Are you certain she has received your letter??
Regarding your comment about women being game. I am prepared to jump in the deep end with this guy but am scared as hell about getting hurt, now that I have told him I am so attracted to him.
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Hi Geoff , and thanks very much for the thoughts as always.
But man your not wrong , who knows where anything will be tomorrow or near future and what they'll do next. Mind blowingly surreal times aren't they eh , l hope you've been coping ok.
But hope ahh , as l said earlier, l don't know about hope , for awhile back there l actually hoped she wouldn't reply at those times bc l just wasn't in a good place. lately , things have changed a bit and atm , it would be nice , especially to hear how she is and has been , but l wouldn't be holding my breath.
Hiya Elsam and thanks for that . But ahh , the letter was actually to an ex from a long time ago that l've felt guilty for yrs about with the way things ended , so l finally decided to write. l just wanted her to finally know the truth. l've actually been with someone else quite awhile now since so it wasn't about getting back together or along those lines. lt would be nice to hear from her though , she's over seas, to just know that she's been alright with everything that's been happening and that she received and my apology. l sent it l don't know , over a mth ago , but even if l did hear back from her l wouldn't expect it to be this soon, maybe mths yet. Nah , no idea if she'd receive it or is still at the same address.
ps , wouldn't worry too much, he'd have to be from another planet not to know your attracted to him. We don't usually be intimate or persist for mths and mths with someone we aren't attracted to right. Ask him what he's thinking .
l know how scared and nervous you've been yeah, but yet your still in there trying you see, that's very common. The two women l've been involved with since divorce have both just wanted to go for it, so game, where as a lot of us guys me included become very gun shy and cautious.
rx
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@Randomx
I think I will just ask him what he is thinking in a casual way and say I would like to get to know him more.
Surely that won’t scare him off, he has been pursuing me for 5 mths now!
I don’t get why he has become so distant since we were intimate 2 weekends ago, although the did send me photos on Sunday!
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Hello Elsam, it must have been a beautiful time together, so you can't stop now, ask him to go and do something together, whatever you're able to during this period we're in.
When you love someone, you don't stop communicating, you go 'hammer and tong', it doesn't matter who initiates it, either one person leads the way or both of you think the same, but don't sit back waiting to contact him, organise something, a romantic dinner wherever you like, but you love him, then contact him.
Love doesn't exist if you stay.
Best wishes.
Geoff.
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Hello RX, if you can go to the post office they will have books for every state, there you can find out if she has moved, believing she hasn't changed her name, then if you want you can write her another letter, then if or you don't receive a reply, you know where you stand.
If her name doesn't appear, then perhaps she has married, I hope this isn't the case for your sake, but still worried she may have moved address even while being single.
This will give you different options to decide on.
Best wishes.
Geoff.
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Thanks for that Geoff.
She's living in San Francisco last 3yrs on work you see. But with everything that's happened there , and her parents being in ltaly and with everything that's happened there too , God knows. She might've even gone back to ltaly to look after her parents .
She doesn't use social media , same as me , so l couldn't check her on FB or somewhere , but she's a pretty officiant person so l daresay she would've left a forwarding address even if she did leave where she was.
l'll just let it go from here. lf she did get it she won't reply straight away l knew that could be awhile yet. But she's known where l am all through anyway so even if she didn't get it but wanted to talk she knows where l am. Ha , she might've even got it read it but thrown it in the bin in disgust too. Who knows .
Thanks my friend , hope your ok.
rx
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@Geoff
I am crazy about him, I have this amazing attraction to him that I never even felt this attraction/chemistry with my husband.
i am so scared of scaring him off!
I don’t understand why he has become more distant since our last rendezvous when he came on so strong and gave me the impression he was so into me!
Maybe he is just getting his thoughts together, I don’t know but I am so stressed
I am going to send him a message this morning:
Happy Friday!
Have a great day!
Just testing to see what sort of reaction I get.
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Hi rx,
The not knowing part would be so difficult to deal with - did she get it, did she read it, will she reply - I suppose you can take comfort in the fact that you have tried as best you can to contact her and provide some closure for the both of you. I expect you have already considered this but I wonder do you have any mutual friends from that time that might be able to put you in contact or give you a current address. I am hoping she has received your letter, reads it in the caring spirit in which it was sent, and replies to you.
WaterFront
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Heya RX,
You did great sending out the letter, and hopefully it reaches to her hands and she has read it and accepted what you've written. If it doesn't reach to her for whatever reason, then perhaps that's how things were meant to be eh. It is something that is beyond your control, and you've done your part. Letting her go would be the best thing you can do for someone who you still have feelings for, but cannot be with anymore. If she wants to reply to you, she will, and by letting her go, it makes for a pleasant surprise if she does reply.
Jt
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Hi waterfront and thanks very much for the thoughts and words.
There's only one person but it would be disrespectful to ex so l' haven;t contacted her. But yeah , l've finally done what l can and what l've thought l should've done for yrs now, so it's done and l've tried. Tbh , l'm pretty sure l can feel she has actually received it and if so she'd def' read it even if it's flushed down the toilet later. So yeah , at least it's finally done.
Hi jt and thanks also too for the thoughts , always appreciated. But yep , it's done , and l can know l've tried and if she did receive it then she now knows what l've wanted to say sooooo, reply or not it is a closure of sorts.
l def' don't wanna disturb her if she doesn't want to be and as l said to her , l don't expect you to reply and that's ok if you'd rather not. But hey , not so sure about a pleasant surprise if she did, as l was saying awhile back l was actually pretty stressed about the possibility , but from here what will be will be. l've said my piece and hopefully she knows that now.
Hi Elsam.
He's certainly a patchy one and he certainly doesn;t seem to be in any hurry to actually nut this thing between you out once and for all or to make something real of it. Maybe he's just quite happy with some very casual thing. Tbh , l wouldn't be too worried about scaring him off it's been mths and mths if he truly wants to be with you then he's not gonna be scared off that easily. l'd be far more concerned about just what he actually does want , if anything , with you two.
rx