Feeling lost and in love, tell us your reasons.

[geoff]

We have many comments about being in love with someone but unable to achieve what we desire for many reasons.

Love is a beautiful word that can be expressed by just a small smile, a floating kiss or even a simple message that only has a word or two, such as I cherish you, I want you to be by my side or more adoring words, sometimes we are too afraid to show our love and causes problems that we were not expecting.

Why do we show our pets more love than we do with our partner/spouse?

All thoughts are welcome, both good and those that truly upset us.

Take care.

Geoff.

[Guest_1584]

No worries em

Yeppa , that's their world . l've got another acquaintance not close, over there she says to me one day , l shyt you not - it's not that bad l've only known 20 people or so personally that have died from all this. Only 20, it's water of a ducks back. ps , weird thing on that front actually, no ones heard from her 5mths.

But yeah LD eh , fun fun fun , not. GF's smack in the middle of Sydney through everything up there right now, all locked up like a criminal , heart cries for her but she's trying to stay positive .

Take care eh.

rx

[geoff]

Hello WaterFront, thanks for getting back and it's always disappointing when 2 people have great plans to start a business, then for some specific reason the two of you have a falling out between the two of you, then not only yourselves suffer but also the business, unless other arrangements are made with or without consent.

I know how you have felt for the last 15 months and it wouldn't have been easy for you, WaterFront, I'm sorry.

Are you interested in selling your share or will this just prolong or reactivate your sorry because that's what we don't want to happen?

Can I mention and it's not prude for me to mention this, but as soon as I became depressed I had 6 months worth of work in front of me, being self employed, I could have tried to sell the business, but at that stage, I didn't care what happened, so I let it all slide away, so I understand what you may or may not want to do.

There can't be any discredit to what you decide to do, it's all about looking after yourself.

My thoughts.

Geoff.

[geoff]

Hello RX, I hope under all these circumstances that we do hope there is some light at the end of the tunnel, funny that, I remember saying that years ago.

With this virus who knows what the politicians are going to force us to do, and what happens if Wuhan produces another crazy virus, are we going to be closed again for so long, the country is going broke.

Geoff.

[WaterFront]

Hi Geoff,

Thank you for acknowledging how I have felt. I don't know why but it somehow makes me feel a bit better. Being heard I guess. I've moved on heaps in that time. Still sad about it but not any where near what it was like when it first happened. It took me 9 months to slowly emerge from it and that was prompted by something she did at that time. I have emerged though and am finding ways each day to continue getting over it.

WaterFront

[ecomama]

Hey rx and hi everyone (thanks for the reply Geoff, expand away!)

Much to the Premier's indignation we're no longer considered a part of Sydney lol!
Never were before but all of sudden we were bundled in there.

So we've been under same LD conditions as Sydney all this time, 3 months and counting.

Yes the attitude towards the virus is varied from country to country indeed.
OZ is making the news in America far more than any C19 news about their own country - media hey.
But when BF tells me stuff he can't believe he's reading, I say yep, saw that happen or yep that's true.

Anyway back to the lost in love topic.

Hugs Waterfront, this time is hard.
I hope the bandaid can be ripped off quickly now.

Some times it takes a looooong darned time to see someone's true colours. As I read once a long time ago "When someone SHOWS you who they are, believe them the FIRST time". I wish I'd gone with that when I first met son's GF, she was the rudest young person I'd EVER met (and I've know hundreds!).

One son had his whole life put through the wringer because he loved his GF. Moved way down South, began Year 12 at a costly school. She broke up with him a few weeks later and he didn't tell us. He was hoping she'd change her mind. But her and the whole family became more abusive towards him.

He moved into a tiny attic room the day of LD.

Thank God for LD for him and us. He's been home this whole time. He was down to 50kg and he's almost 6ft tall. That was a 13kg loss as I'd asked him to weigh himself before he left, he was 63kg then - mama just KNEW this was a very bad idea.

He's NOT good, but still, he continued his studies. Last week he trumped his Maths exam scoring almost 100% - his teacher can't find an error so passed it to another Maths teacher in another school to mark lol.

Yesterday ex GF said she wanted to catch up with him (yeah she's moved back up here too ugh!)... and he said "Nahhh I don't want to do that thanks". He's only responding bec they'll all end up back down there for the HSC exams come November. After that he never wants to speak to her again.

And good for that too.

I saw a funny convo in the Mindhunter series on Netlfix, about what a father said to his son about Love.
I can't phrase it here, it'd be moderated out but it was SO funny!
SPOT ON TOO.

It can really tug at the deepest parts of our soul.

Tbh I'm really grateful I have the capacity to love and experience this emotion. Shame it can cause so much suffering.

Love EMxxxx

[geoff]

Hello EM, I'm really sorry that your son has lost so much weight, but if he can get almost 100% for maths then he's a genius and hopefully, now his mind is on studying, then he can get over his previous girlfriend and slowly build himself up once again with his own agenda.

To love and experience this love, unfortunately, when something temporarily disturbs how we feel, can certainly severe how we feel, but then making up is the best part.

Love is a trust we naturally want, when we have someone next to us, not only physically but from a distance because we can rely on them, but as soon as this is broken, the relationship is at risk and questions develop and it could be difficult for your mate to know that you no longer trust them.

Take care.

Geoff.

[Guest_1584]

Yeah trust is such a huge thing. lt basically costed me one relationship since divorce, hence the letter l was wanting to write, and boarder line the second too possibly.

ln both situations l just needed time , and a bit more time , and everything would've been fine. But unfortunately women are strange when it comes to time, and trust too really. They seem quite prepared to just jump straight on back in they're very very game like that.

rx

[Guest_1584]

Just an update on the letter l sent to ex umm, there is no update.

But of late l've been feeling again l will hear from her though, l always knew it might be awhile if l did, even mths.

l wouldn't say things are necessarily better right now but they have changed a bit so if she does happen to appear from here , atm l could handle it , so at least that's something .

rx

[geoff]

Hello RX, I think with being in lockdown everything could change on a daily basis, like who in Vic could ever predict an earthquake, the same with our government, who knows what they will decide on today and then maybe backtrack once again, so your hopes RX may turn out to what you are hoping for, I really hope this happens for you.

Keep this thought going, my friend.

Geoff.

[Elsam]

I am feeling totally lost, having an anxiety attack and so in love I don’t know what to do....

The weekend before last we were together and very intimate, he initiated the kisses and was all over me, I could feel he was so attracted to me as he kept complimenting me.

He kept asking what I was thinking and I answered him but not directly because I didn’t want to scare him.

Anyway, on Tuesday night I said to him Re: your question “what am I thinking”

I asked him if he really wanted to know and he said yes!

So I came out with it and and told him I was so attracted to him! And that was all was saying for now....

It seems he thought about my comment overnight and yesterday morning replied:

Oh boy! Blushing....

So I replied: You wanted to know!

i have not had a response from him since yesterday morning when he said he was Blushing!!

I don’t know what to do, do I give him space to get his thoughts together???

I am freaking out that he is not responding!!