Hi Juliet_84,
I am sorry you are going through on top of having COVID, it is unfortunate that your partner is unsupportive at this time.
I might be wrong, but I feel like this is common in a lot of households because ahh...the sweet, sweet patriarchal society we live in. A lot of men, especially older, were brought up in households where the female is the primary housekeeper/cleaner/cook etc. etc. and so they have an ingrained view that the female is responsible for these tasks and not them (either an unconscious or conscious view). Considering that the majority of women have only been having their own careers since the 60s, this way of living was not that long ago. Because of the systemic misogyny in our society that is deep-rooted, some men truly unconsciously, or consciously, are under the impression that cleaning is not their responsibility. Heck - the 40 hour work week was created under the presumption that all the husband would do was work and come home, and the stay at home wife would cook, child-rear and clean. Hence it is definitely hard nowadays for both parties to work and clean - sometimes time does not exist. So it has to be a shared effort, essentially. Society still has a long way to go with gender equality, but certainly, it is deep-rooted.
A calm conversation with your partner is essential to tell him how you feel, that you are sick, and you would appreciate some support from him. My partner would not let me lift a finger if i was sick, he would do most things i ask (and that is not much). Keeping a house clean is a job that should be shared between those who live there, especially if both work full time. Do not accuse him of anything, just explain your feelings and communicate with each other.
i hope things improve and i am sorry this happened,
jaz xx
