21 year old mum who's lost and feeling lifeless
Lalalovessunshine welcome to beyond blue forums. Because of your situation I would suggest you contact a social worker . Try to get emergency accommodation to get your child into a safe loving place. If what you are telling us is correct I believe it is. You have to think of the child's safety first, it has to be housed and fed properly if you are being abused you are an extension of that child because you are it's primary carer you have to be protected.
Hi lala, welcome
Thankyou for being honest and open.
I do think u our life with you bf will flourish after his release. I spent 3 years as a warder (40years ago) and met many ex prisoners on the outside. Most never wrnt back although sadly the statistics say 70% do.
I suggest to you that it isnt beyond you to set up in your own unit/flat and make a life for yourself. Your patents deserve their own home and you deserve one without the effects of alcohol.
At 4 days after my 17th birthday I joined the Air Force and it was daunting but getting out makes you stronger.
Also attend centrelink and ask what you are entitled to..Rental allowance etc.
Work it all out and set up a little home ready for your man to kick start his life
thank you so much for responding to me tonight with such a supportive message. I just hope I find the hope in me to believe him when he says he will give me a new happy life.
I feel bad for him because life hasn't been on his side either and he's never had a chance to prove anything to me but I'm hoping we are strong enough to fight through this as people and as a couple. And I hope I'm strong enough to fight this darkness that is lingering over me.
As for housing I am willing to look for housing options other than home but money is tight as is and he is begging me to just give him 6 More months and wait for him to give me my home and stable life.
There were times I ran away and stayed at friends houses but it wasn't sustainable And I thought since my home is still a safe roof to sleep under I need to think of my daughter and stay put just until a little longer.
Hi there friend,
thanks for replying to my post tonight I really appreciate it. I agree with you when you say that some people just can't give you love. It's so hard.
Me and my mum were such close friends as I grew up (yes she was harsh and now that I look back I also didn't realise then she was very emotionally unstable). She sort of raised me to be her only best friend and to deeply depend and rely on her to the point that suddenly when I turned 18/19 (also when I got pregnant and needed her the most) she suddenly halted our relationship and cut me off and became a very cold and angry mum. So this sudden cut made it very hard for me to cope because I became very attached to her. I constantly seek her love but always get let down. I never understood what I did wrong I never brought any issues to the family home, no drugs, no crime nothing. Sometimes she'll say my pregnancy wasn't an issue to her but when she's drunk the opposite comes out.
I wish and pray every day that she'll heal and stop drinking but now that my dad's joined her and he's just become an angry person I feel like it'll never happen.
I just really dream of moving out and starting my own life soon that way I can hopefully heal too.