Unhappy Relationship - Abuse (Physical, Mental, Emotional)

[feeling_lost]

I am a 21 year old female who has very recently been diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder (prescribed medication - started medication in 01/03/2016)
I have been in a relationship with my partner for 14 months. In February 2015 I fell pregnant to him, and in March 2015 I found out I had a miscarriage. After the miscarriage, my partner proposed to me; to which I said yes. 
Ever since then we have argued about anything and everything. To begin with it would just be yelling and screaming because we both have trust issues. Then it would turn into physical abuse (mainly on his behalf to begin with, but after a while of being hit around, I too would become quite violent)
For the past three months our relationship has been VERY rocky and VERY abusive. I find it mainly due to financial issues (I work full time, he doesn't work at all due to a broken wrist) so I find myself taking care of a majority of food, bills, rent etc. When I approach him for assistance with something, whether it be money, housework, someone to talk to etc. he ignores me and doesn't give me the time of day, which is why my depression has become so bad.
We call each other names, throw objects at each other, push, shove, hit and scratch, but lately I have found that I am the one who has a VERY short temper and I will tend to hit things around me instead of my partner (e.g doors, walls, windows)
I do not have a very good relationship with my family, so due to this I feel as though my partner is the only person who I can run to, and he makes this known to me by saying things like 'You have no one else but me, don't f*ck around or I will leave you' 
He makes me feel as though I have something 'mentally wrong' with me, but I don't know what to do about it or who to talk to.
I am terrified of losing the man that I love because of my temper and the fact that I feel as though I am unable to just sit and have a conversation with him without getting overly emotional or temperamental. 
I have been referred to a psychotherapist for further treatment, but I would like to know who I can speak to or what I can do in the meantime because I'm afraid if I don't do something soon; I will lose my job, my house and the man I love.
Any help or recommendations would be greatly appreciated. 

[geoff]

dear Feel_lost, well you're had a great deal of reponse to your post, all of which I can't disagree with and I can only reinforce what these wonderful people have said.
You have to understand that a person like him who dominates whatever he wants is capable of doing absolutely anything he wants, not only in front of you but certainly behind your back, in other words he does nothing, doesn't pay for anything, uses your card and you only see his friends, well I would say that this is totally an unbalanced life style.
You know he would be having a great time while you're working, talking to his mates and saying that he has got you on a string.
These people will never be any good in a long term relationship and I also don't want you to keep being sucked into what he says and what he doesn't do, because he is only diminishing your talent and stopping you from achieving what your goals are.
If the fridge, tv or washing machine broke down, well guess what, he would expect you to get it fixed and pay for the repairs or to go out and buy another one.
Please don't feel sad if he is left with nothing, that's how he was when you first met, but then all his xmas's had come at once by living with you.
He will only do the same to someone else, but you can't expand your career with him. Geoff. x