Alone - domestic Volience

[Jetson]

Good evening - I'm new to these forums but I find myself at home alone on this Saturday night for the first time in around 10 months after a domestic violence relationship break up. I'm struggling big time with depression, guilt and sadness. 

[white knight]

Hi Jetson, welcome

A few more detail would help us along. Anyway I can assure you there are many people including myself that have had domestic violence in our lives. Even verbal abuse is difficult to handle for some.

Keep busy!!. Divert your thoughts by doing things. Then if it gets too much have a cuppa and think about the situation for say 30 minutes then- go and do something else.

Call on friends to talk to.

Go on here and pick some threads to read. Post answers to other people in need.

Meditation. Try google "Prem Rawat Maharaji sunset" which is my fav youtube video, its relaxing. He has many more.

Good luck. It will take time to recover.

Tony WK

[Kazzl]

Hello Jetson, welcome to the forum. I can certainly understand that in the aftermath of a violent relationship your emotions must be a mess. Can you tell us a bit more about what's been happening and how you came to end the relationship. It will help us understand the things that are triggering your emotional state.

No matter what the circumstances it is for the best that the relationship has ended. No-one should be subject to violence, especially in their homes with people they should be able to trust and feel safe with.

I'd like to hear your thoughts on how you want to move forward now that you are on your own. Do you plan to take action? I hope you will at least seek some counselling to help you make sense of what you've been through and how you're feeling now.

Please come back and talk more with us.

Best wishes 

Kaz

[blondguy]

Hi Jetson and thankyou for having the courage to post

Paul here, If I may ask you, can you help us help you and let us have a little detail of your circumstances?

As you can see above White Knight and Kaz are here to support you if you wish. It would be great if you could get back to us 🙂

I feel the pain you are going through Jetson

Paul

[Guest_1055]

Hello Jetson....

My name is Shelley, and I would like to say that I am sorry you are struggling so much at the moment. And feeling alone and sad is not a nice feeling. Do you have any pets at your place to keep you company at all? A lot of people have pets on here, especially dogs. Maybe you could get a dog.

You know sometimes when I feel alone, I will just come on here to these forums and read what other members have to say. At times, I may post a reply. By actually doing this sometimes I start to feel not so alone. You have already made the first step by posting in here. And if you haven't already read other posts, maybe you could try that. It might just help you feel a sense of connection to another person or something.

Anyway I do hope you start to feel better soon.

Take care now.

Shelley xx

[blondguy]

Hi Jetson...I dont usually double post but I wanted to say that Shelley's advice is spoken from her heart...and thankyou Shelley for articulating so well what I was trying to say...

I do hope you are okay and we are here for you Jetson

Paul

[Gruffudd]

Hi Jetson,

I can hear lots going through your head just now, if you need to get some of those thoughts out there are good listeners here. There are plenty of discussions out there on the forums that might just give a little reassurance and you are welcome to start your own. I hope you have some better days. 

Rob.

[saturnzoon]

Hi Jetson and welcome to the group, not under nice condition but am glad you could post on a hard time, I have been through domestic violence myself and my depression and anxiety also skyrocketed,  and find it so hard especially as all my family live in a different state, so I have no one, and that's when I started looking on the net for sights that could help with mental health issues and this sight is a God send, they have lots of helpful information, forums and numbers you can ring or online chat which I have used and they do help, and the people on the forums are so nice and helpful, I come on here quite a lot especially last couple of months as I have no one else that is helping me, you can read lots of true stories that relate to what your going through and lots of ideas, so I wish you good luck, you have found a wonderful sight.