Feeling worse due to trauma

[G12345]

After being sexually harassed it’s just as painful as being sexually assaulted and I’ve been through both my trauma won’t let me go it’s holding my mind and I’m fighting it I’m tired of fighting I need a community to help me feel less uncomfortable and less pain can some help me thank you

[Sophie_M]

Hi G12345,

We're so sorry to hear that you are feeling worse today. We understand that these experiences you're speaking about are really serious and we can hear that you're in a lot of pain. Can we ask if there is anything that has helped you in the past when you have been feeling held by the trauma like this? What kinds of things do you like to do?

We would recommend getting in contact with the lovely ladies at 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732 if you're feeling quite overwhelmed tonight.

Hopefully a few of our welcoming community members will pop by to welcome you and offer some words of support and advice. If you would like to post further, please tell us more about what's on your mind and how we can best support you.

[G12345]

Everything is on my mind the only thing that I can do to distract myself is go to online tafe and learn and watch lifetime movies on you tube and enjoy it I’m may try and get some work done tomorrow on my 2 new assessment but the stress hurts I did ring the police today and they told me that if I wanna press charges I have to call the nearest police station not ready yet my will to fight alone is a 5/10 the community here can help me continue to fight the trauma I can also call call the beyond blue helpline 24/7

[Croix]

Dear G12345~

I've had some trouble finding you other posts. This means I may talk abut matters that have already been covered. If so my apologies, it is not due to lack of care. I'll look for your old posts later this evening I hope.

I'm glad Sophie_M was here to advise you and supply 1800RESPECT's number, they are very capable and practical.

Although my trauma has not come about in the same way as yours I do know that that is it an actual injury to you -and the fact it is mental and not physical simply makes it that much worse. Without the correct skilled support and treatment it can gradually grow in the mind, as mine did.

If you add to that the constant reminders of the event plus the beastly nature of some people who sexually harass then it tends to open up the wound -no chance to heal at all.

I improved out of sight (in time) when properly treated with meds and therapy, and I'm sure that is something you can look forward to too.

It must have taken a great deal of courage to ring the police and be prepared to say all that has happened to you, and to be given a simple put-off is not good enough. You are entitled to expect better. If it takes officers close by to handle the matter you need to have the police put the matter though, not leave it up to you.

If I read right you are at TAFE, and if harassment is happening there then a personal or written complaint saying what has been happening should be given to their Student Wellbeing office or equivalent. They have the best opportunity to sort the matter out. If it is outside of TAFE then yes, the police would be appropriate

In most places sexual harassment is in fact an offense.

Do you have anyone, a parent, freind perhaps, or a particular teacher at TAFE who you can get to help you make out a complaint? Having someone to help makes a big difference.

While you are talking to TAFE I would smuggest that you also ask for an extension on your work, as at present it is likely to be late or not do you full justice with your mind elsewhere.

I he you come back some more, at least here you are supported

Croix

[G12345]

Yes I do feel supported on here and I can use the forums long term only class helps me stay distracted but with out proper trauma counselling I’m having trauma fighting it

[Croix]

Dear G12345~

I'm glad you have found this place and are stating to know we are genuine, care and gentle.

As you have said, without proper trauma treatment you are only going to get temporary relief from thngs like TAFE work. You face an injury in your past, and more today. It needs to stop so you can have the ordinary and (mostly) enjoyable life you deserve. wiht motivation and accomplishment

You have read Sophie_M has given you a stating point and me suggest within TAFE, and see them.

You may think these thngs are impossible, or will have results you can't face or ...

The trouble is I do not know why you would not consider these things. I know you will have reasons.Perhaps if I gave another , if you are under 25 the Kids Help Line (1800 55 1800) for phone, or web-chat . Go more than once, explain once only.

https://kidshelpline.com.au/get-help/webchat-counselling/

Would you like to say more, what it is that is the main worry? We are here for you

Croix

[G12345]

The worry is trauma it’s driving my anxiety up the wall and I struggle with my anxiety battle and the trauma fights back and It makes it impossible to learn or live I’ve been through complex trauma I’m a complex mental health case and I have NDIS there to support me and I need a mental health care team I had one when I was 25 and under now I’m 26 and moved into adult mental health system and I have nothing expect for NDIS and my support workers I’m getting a mentor as I’m leaving my catchment area health system I’m gaining nothing from but here in beyond I can call anytime I like to talk I’m a real chatter box

[Croix]

Dear G12345~

Yes I can see your problem, the age barrier makes a huge difference to start with. It is a pity your previous team did not organize matters properly.

So you need an expert in these matters to sort out a plan that gives you the support you need. Sadly I do not know enough to advise except the obvious ones.

Incidentally as you are no longer eligible for the Kid's Help Line the adult equivalent, which I wholeheartedly recommend is the Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467) or

https://www.suicidecallbackservice.org.au

which offers exactly the same facilities. Takes a while on hold, but, unless you are very unlucky, excellent. You do not have to talk about suicide despite the name.

Wanting to be a chatterbox here is just fine, you realize you do not have to stick to your own thread exclusively, we do have some general areas such as the BB Café at

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/bb-social-zone/the-bb-cafe/page/545

Why not drop in and see? We are all friendly and that is the place for lighthearted stuff

Croix

[G12345]

I called headspace they argree to take me on as voulenter and they remember me and when I spoke to someone she remembers me and she said I were a client her for 3 years how can I forget about she’s the youth engagement officer and she would be the one supervising me engaging with young people

[ecomama]

Hi G12345

It's a really lovely thing reaching out to help other through Headspace since you felt they helped you so much...

please know I mean the kindest of things when I say "Oxygen mask on self first".

Please seek treatment for the overwhelming feelings you're having. It's not surprising since you've been through so much. YOU need help and support now. Over time you will feel stronger, more prepared and empowered to support others.

You can phone crimestoppers and get an incident number. If you contact your local police station, you can ask to speak with the police Social Worker first, who is usually female IME.
This person can support you through any processes. But I really think you need more atm.

After you have an incident number or maybe before, you can phone Victim's Services and they may be able to direct you to a specific counsellor. They did with us. Be aware that this counsellor may be focussing on evidence collection, so cannot feel the familiar 'counselling vibe' you may be used to. It could be triggering, it was for us.

A counsellor for YOU is whom you need.
Plus any of the above when you feel ready enough for it, if you ever do. Totally up to you but I do echo Croix's words with reporting to the institution this person works.

I installed a phone recorder after police advice. It has been invaluable with reporting.

Keep being a chatterbox here. The support is amazing. I'm so glad you reached out to BB and joined the forums.

EM