Dear Lilley
Hello and welcome. I have read your previous posts and I am so sad your life is hard. I understand from your posts that your partner is depressed. Is that correct? Also that his depression is showing itself as some abuse of you.
Depression is never an excuse for any kind of abuse, physical, emotional or sexual. A depressed person often feels as though they have lost control of themselves and have become very afraid. This fear can lead to someone doing or saying things they would not usually do, but just because it is unusual does not make it right.
Lilley, your posts show us something is very distressing in your life and we would like to help you. Can you come back and tell us a little more about what's happening? Sometimes writing is easier than talking which is why Beyond Blue have set up this forum. Other people would prefer to talk to someone over the phone. If you would like to do this please contact one of the organisations I have listed. Help is available on most of the phone numbers 24/7.
Beyond Blue 1300 22 4636 24/7
Lifeline 13 11 14 24/7
SANE 1800 18 7263 This is only available weekdays 9:00 am to 5:00 AEST
Suicide Call Back Service 1300 659 467 24/7. This help line has mental health counsellors who can offer counselling. It is for those with poor mental health and family members.
Emergency Services 000 24/7
All these services have web pages so you can find further information there. Beyond Blue has lots of information for you to access either by downloading or sending for hard copies. Look under the blue tabs at the top of the page.
I know suggesting you read some information may not feel like much help, but it can help to explain your partner's depression and actions. Also to tell you where you can find help for him. I also suggest you visit your GP and talk about what's happening.
We want to help but we need you to reply. Will you do that please? We are always here.
Mary
