Hi wonderful DB and a wave to all,
I wanted to wish you a belated happy new year, and hope 2020 is a good start for you 🙂
I’m glad things are going so well with Mr Deebi. You clearly absolutely adore him. What a blessing that you found each other.
As for anger, yes, it’s a tricky emotion. I think it’s an understandable and valid feeling , but I suppose it’s how we manage or express it is what many of us struggle with...
I don’t know if you can relate to this or not, but I can tell you how I personally deal with anger these days (or so I try at least...laughs):
- I remind myself that I don’t have to participate in every argument that I’m invited to. I have the power to opt in or opt out in most cases; the real issue is whether I think the argument is worth my time or not. Is it a meaningful or important argument, or will it get me nowhere? Do the people that I’m arguing with have the capacity to understand a different perspective? More importantly, do I have that capacity?
- There’s a famous Victor Frankl quote that I really like:
Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is out power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and freedom.
So, with that quote in mind, when I feel the emotion of anger, I try my best to pause before responding. I don’t always do it successfully, but I’m trying. There’s a lot of power in that pause as I’m learning 😉
I understand that you may deal with anger differently, and perhaps what I’ve written doesn’t work for you, but I wanted to share how I try to cope with anger.
Supersoul hugs and love,
Peppystar xoxo
