Not in a good space

[Katyonthehamsterwheel]

It's like a feeling just bubbling up to the surface. It's panicky and disgusting and I dont' know what to do with it. There's no thoughts associated with it. It's a feeling. A really gross one. I called the Suicide Call Back service. I didn't find them helpful. What do you do? What helps you?

[calmseeker]

Morning Katy,

Thanks for such positive sentiments Andrew and Hanna, its always refreshing to see stuff from anothers point of view, it challenges my hangups.

How awesome you're going into final year Katy, all you hard work will pay off soon. Have you found the course enjoyable?

I hope I didn't hijack your thread with my last post, it wasn't my intention to make it about my uni fears so sorry about that Katy.

I hope life is being kind to you today and you are doing ok.

CS xo

[Hanna3]

Hi Katy, You'll be fine the start of the year at Uni is always stressful until you settle back in.

Don't worry about the Honours, you can probably go on and do a Grad. Dip. or similar if you want, or a Masters - but do it by research, not by coursework …

Yes I don't think the lass from Cambridge was happy... wish I could think of retorts as fast as that...

That was a sessional job, they employed postgrad qualified mature age people to assess applications for the next academic year. By the way, if the student didn't have the pre-requisite courses for entry into the postgrad course they wanted, but they had excellent grades, we had the discretion to recommend to the university to which they were applying to recommend taking them without the required subjects because they were a high passing student - and the uni's always took them. High passing students were very highly thought of.

You'll be fine girl! I'll be interested to hear about it all. xx

[Katyonthehamsterwheel]

Calmseeker

I absolutely love the course! Yes, uni is stressful, but the content has been really interesting. I'm not actually "work ready" mentally, but that's ok, at this stage I just want to graduate.

And you didn't hijack the thread at all. Various people have come in here for a chat, and I think it's fantastic. Love everyone joining the convo, so as I said, if you did want to chat more about it, go for it 🙂

The sun's shining here, I've walked my dog, and I'm in a top mood! Hope things are good your way too x

[Katyonthehamsterwheel]

Hanna

All really great info, thanks for sharing. I'm considering a Masters. It's just a shame that if I had done Honours, and done well, I could have skipped Masters. Also, I'd already chosen the topic for my thesis and been collating research for it, and was really looking forward to doing it. Never mind. Such is life and we have to learn to accept what is, not what we want things to be.

Again lamenting that I don't know you in real life. I can be pretty negative, and that little voice going "hey, you'll be right" is sometimes just what you need to pause and reframe. Not that you want to be someone's personal cheering squad I'm sure, but you just seem pretty great 🙂 Thanks and hugs!

[monkey_magic]

Hi Katyonthehamsterwheel,

I think it's excellent that you're at uni. It's a little dream of mine to graduate as something but I have taken the plunge...yet.

I have been to Tafe and college though. Have a certificate 3 & 4.

It's inspiring to me reading that you're at it at uni.

Maybe one day I'll go. But will that day ever come, lol....

It's really good to hear that you're in a top mood, excellent news!!!

MM

[Katyonthehamsterwheel]

Well the good thing is MM that it's never too late!

What do you think you'd be interesting in studying if you did go to uni? Any idea?

Katy (and yes, yay to good moods!!!)

[Hanna3]

Hi again Katy, (and waves to Monkey and calmseeker and everyone here!)

I'm back for lunch - can't find anything to do in this town - the only nice place to go is the park but then there's nothing to do there - and I don't have much cash left until next week so can't afford a coffee out etc...

My brother is an academic - a professor at a university in another state. When I was first doing my Uni degree he told me I approached each essay as if it were a Ph.D thesis. His advice to me was, if an assignment is worth 10%, that is how much effort you put into it. If it's worth 40%, you put a huge amount of effort into it. He said you have to learn where to save your energy, and where to use it most effectively. Don't know if this helps - I got almost straight HDs in my degree because I was so determined to do well, but was getting exhausted as I was also working full time. That was his sage advice.

His other advice was, "if you can't hand something in in time, please don't tell me it's because your best friend's puppy died and you had to console her, or your friend broke up with her boyfriend and you had to console her, because I know it's twaddle. Just tell me you couldn't get your act together in time. I'll give you more marks for being honest"." Both lots of advice stood me in good stead.

I wish we were all closer too it's a shame... at least we can chat here. I've got to look for some phone numbers you gave me here ages ago, I do need to do something about getting out of this town... and now I'm going to apply for a Centrelink advance so I can afford to buy an electric blanket etc next week...

You could try watching No Country for Old Men, have a look at how they scare the audience, the camera angles etc - and the Mexican actor who played the baddie won the Oscar for best supporting actor he was superb. Great movie!!! It's not really that it's so violent - it's more the anticipation of what might be going to happen that has you on the edge of your seat!!!

Cheers girl, xx

He and other academics at my Uni told me a Masters by coursework was worthless, do a Masters by research only.

I had to do a G.Dip.Phil because I couldn't quite pull up a double major in my first degree due to timetabling problems. I wanted to go on and do a PhD after that but at the time it meant moving interstate and no guarantee of a job at the end of it... so I didn't go further, but now wish I had.

[calmseeker]

Hey there Katy and all of her lovely friends on this thread,

So glad for you that you love your course. There is nothing quite like finding purpose and enjoying what you do. So you will be busy all year with uni then I take it, until November or something?

My daughter is starting at uni this year also. She is 26 and has a really good government admin job, stable and well paid, but its just not creative enough for her and she really doesn't like doing it so she cut down to 2 shifts a week and has enrolled at uni. As her mum I was happy that she had a great job and stability but its not my life in the end and totally her choice (apart form the fact that it involves me as she has moved back home with me to fund it!)

Thanks a bunch for saying it was cool to have a chat here. In that case, here are my 109 issues and problems. Firstly... lol.. only kidding!

Made me smile to hear that you are in a top mood today, and top moods are contagious!

CS x

[monkey_magic]

Hey Katyonthehamsterwheel,

I was going to do Occupational Therapy...as it's similar to what I'm already qualified in- Personal training but I might also look into something creative.
I'd have to check out courses and go from there...
And yes, it's never too late. 🙂

[Katyonthehamsterwheel]

calmseeker - come lie on my couch and tell me all your troubles... and then we'll swap places! ha!

It can be hard to support our kids choices sometimes, when we worry about their futures for them. My son has attempted uni twice, and given up two great jobs, because none of it was quite right for him. Now he's a bit lost at sea. So it's great that your daughter still has her job, and is also pursuing what she thinks will make her happy. Really hope it works out for her, how exciting!

And yep, will be super busy, but let's not talk about that lest it sets off the panic button again. hahahaha arrrggghhhhh 🙂 🙂 🙂