My daughter is angry at the world and me

[blondguy]

Hey Everybody. I ma really stuck and need advice with my daughter. I love her to bits but she is angry at the world and me. I have been on the forums since January and being an old guy I just thought I ask for some help. Here is some background...if you can help me

• She gone all gothic and weird...post natal depression...wont talk about it or accept any help...
• Dyed her long blond hair jet black and wears a lot of black and umm...self injured last year when she couldnt see her married BF..
• She sent me a MMS of her 'injuries'...that really hurt to see
• Has just had a baby to her boss...he is married with 3 kids..and he has warned her not to say anything
• she asked me to borrow my 2007 XR8 when she had her car impounded and I said no...Now I am evil for saying no
• i did mention that under 25's cant drive the XR8...she didnt care...she just wanted to use it..I still said no...
• Christmas day 2015 I turned up with presents at her place and she said.."I have had a late night...can you come back tomorrow"?

I use bullet points so it would be easier to read and respond to. (I cant stand mega paragraphs) Do I just give her space...or just a phase?

She lives 10 minutes away and has 2 great kids to 2 different dads. I daughter who is 3 and her new baby son who is about 3 months..She doesnt do drugs. She wants everything now ....Platinum Foxtel...Leather lounge....VE SV6 Commodore.....and the single mums pension of course.

I spend a lot of my time on the Depression/Anxiety threads....but I am lost here....should I just let her find her own way? Any thought/opinion would be gold to me right now.....also...whats an emo?....and yes Im serious..is it a dark and depressed person?

Thankyou for reading and please do respond if you can help...Have a great weekend too!

My kind thoughts and respect

Paul 🙂

[blondguy]

I was a relieving senior manager for the W people years ago...I could outshop anyone 🙂

I still have this steep block of land with this beautiful home on it so there is the general maintenance that comes with it...I think there is about 30 meters of retaining walls that need replacing lol....but I was 35 when I built them so being a 'bit' older will take some serious time even though I am still fit. I went to cash converters today and bought a handful of BluRay movies for $5-00 each...and even though starwolf is a super legend by saying that "the right partner will come along when I dont expect it............" I am keeping my eye open for my soul mate.

Life is Short...

Thankyou for being there....woof!

[Petra]

I hope you find someone who 'gets you' Paul, and vice versa.

xx

[blondguy]

That would be nice and you are a gem Pet...says me expiring listening to Africa by Toto 😉

Message for Puddles in the Cafe

Nightmare FM (the biggest collection of the '70s and '80's in Oz)....Paul xx

[Petra]

xx

[Guest_5218]

Morning there Paul, nice to see you back again after some time off.

Hey, I see that you must have missed my hug from the 17th August. You thanked everyone else for their hugs which were sent after mine, but not me! Are you ignoring me?

Not a problem, hope you're feeling okay and I will catch up with you another time.

Sherie xx

[Emmy.]

How are you getting on hun like really getting on?

Must be so hard to see your father regressing - sorry I cannot remember, do you live with him? I know that he's seperated from your mother but was unsure if you were his full time carer. Have you considered nursing homes at all for him? It's a very hard thought but I remember when my grandfather had dementia it was the best thing for him (and for my grandmother too). Someone to watch over him and they did lovely activities for people with dementia. I think that specialised in that field. All activities were things they were able to do, and he'd go on outings (while able) .

Any improvements with your daughter? Have you suggested that picnic for Father's Day? It's coming up soon.

Youre in my thoughts Paul. Big hugs. Emmy. Xx

[Wednesday]

Hi Paul,

Good to see you posting again. I don't envy your task!

Lots of hugs, xx

[Guest_5218]

Hey Paul, I havent seen you around in several days. I am concerned about you ...... come back and let me know you are okay! Please?

I will leave another hug here for you, and hopefully you'll get it this time. I guess you just missed my last one because you had an abundance of them. You deserve every one of them though. Hugs .... {{Paul}}

Take care of yourself.

Sherie xx

[blondguy]

Hi Sherie, I think your hugs are wonderful and thankyou 🙂 People have been mega kind to me xx (cute pic too)

Hey Emmy, Dad lives on his own, mum and dad had the brains to separate after 49 years of marriage. I live with Prince my huge woofer. Nursing homes are a great idea but when a person values their independence highly there is little that can be done. I have been okay...and sleeping like a baby. My daughter is still really angry at the world and just giving her some space for a while. Thankyou for caring and the big hugs too Emmy xx

Hey Wednesday, great to see you...and thanks for being there too xx. Life can throw rocks at us sometimes, Im just ducking 🙂 Always a bonus to see you on the forums Wednesday..Paulxx

[Lost_Girl]

Pope-mobile waiting for you Paul. Great protection from rocks....I parked it outside of the cafe for you exclusive use.

Hang in there my friend.

Carol xx