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Im new. Unsure how to start.

Sapphire_
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Hello. Im new. I dont really know where to start. My heart is pounding, Im so anxious to be on here. Im not sure if its the right thing to do. I've never spoken to anyone about how i feel or anything. Even my husband. I just cant. I dont really know what i am supposes to do. I feel so alone and lost.
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Startingnew- thats ok i know you have been unwell. You always have great advice for me ❤

Demonblaster- Thank you. I do love my name too. Its my birthstone and im obsessed with the colour.

Re my op. - Im having the gastric bypass due to severe acid reflux issues caused by bulimia when i was younger.

-Im scared of the unknown. Im scared of not being in control. Im not that great wih medical professionals due to past. Im scared of the pain afterwards. Scared of them seeing my scars.

Only a few days to go. Im not really functioning too great. Anxiety is sooo high. I feel like im in panic mode. I just cant wait for it to be over with.

Heyaz

Sapphire just checked colour, if it's that kinda Deep Blue, pic wasn't that clear, beautiful aye, there's a few different colours too

Unknown: Yeah that scares most of us I think, understandable, are they saying it's got a good ummm god the brains not firing..... success rate? (love that, not giving up then finally getting it. Word I was after)

Control. Yeah fair enough. Before you know it just as how you'll soon be looking back on it, you'll be in recovery awake and on your way to a better life

Pain: pain relief should at very least take bulk away

Scars: Sweet I used to be an enrolled nurse EN 1 yr training then we see pretty much everything often so it's not anything new.
Or/and is it how you feel mentally about them.
Self harm? You don't have to answer anything, whatever you're comfy with

I know you're very stressed, keep in mind the end goal. Such a positive.

Do you do breathing techniques for stress, I'm in start of recovery from BP stess is high throughout and tense as at times so did a few deep in and hard outs with breathing and helped, might for you with luck.

Here if we don't see you before, and certainly here after





i think the unknown is the worst! i have been in the dark and had to play the waiting game esp with the unknowns and its terriying and really sets of the constant anxiety for sure. it does that to 'normal' people too though, hoping that gives just a little bit of comfort

what can you do in the meantime to distract yourself?

walks, the beach, playing wiht your pooch, reading, journalling, deep breathing, watching funny tv shows? jsut a few ideas

Hi Sapphire Starts and all 🙂

No pressure really mean that Sapphire, just want you to know you've been in my thoughts and hoping everythings going well for you.

Certainly well deserved for good things to start happening for you

xx

Thanks Demonblaster. Its nice to know you were thinking of me xx

The op went well but i have been in agony, tired and really unwell since. Had a CT scan yesterday to find out whats wrong so just have to wait for the results. I cant wait to get better. Its messing with my head.

hi Sapphire

its good to hear from you!! im sorry to hear your unwell though. i hope the CT gives you some answers.

i hope you recover quickly!

hello I'm so depressed my anxiety is crippling me I cannot function

hello and welcome to BB

your not alone here though im really sorry to hear how your anxiety is affecting you!

i see this is your first post 🙂

one thing i reccomend to do is start your own thread (not pushing you away at all so please dont think that) and explain your situation so that others here can help and support you the best that we can. so that we as a community can give you the best helping hand through all your tough time and the good stuff too and that we can follow your story all on the one thread 🙂

never in my life have I felt so alone .not a part of nothing.so hard to even try I want to be normal

it is very hard esp doing it on your own. i get it my main supports are here too

do you have friends? family? mh support such as your gp and psychologist?