I can't find the right place for me to post

[Moonstruck]

I don't know any more where to put a new thread if I make one, or which ones to join in. I always used Anxiety because that is my major condition but that has been relatively under control lately - I feel Depressed today - but I don't qualify for the topics there either. I'm depressed mainly because there doesn't seem a place for me. I love some of the threads and personal thoughts for example in Staying Well, but I can't join in there, because I don't have any tips for Staying Well.

I tend to have almost paranoid thoughts through over-thinking "problems" that I would like to talk over but don't know where to talk them over before they reach the paranoid stage...I want to avoid that. I join in the Social threads saying light hearted jokey things because thats the only place I seem to belong.

I dwell on any problems my adult sons have in various aspects of their life and want to "fix things for them" - our relationship is very loving and close though - they are wonderful to me - so there is no real "problem" with my relationship with them....so I don't seem to belong in the "relationships, family" section either do I?

I worry about them all the time - when I tried to express this on forum I think it was misconstrued that I had "empty nest syndrome" - trying to adapt to my sons' leaving home....No, that's not it...they've been gone for years and years...I am a grandmother.

I liked the Getting to Know You, or is it Me? thread very much - but have been given suggestions how to start my own thread and what section to use etc and get the feeling I'm being steered away from there too.

So I am still confused. I don't feel particularly anxious today, so this shouldn't even be in Anxiety! Do you see my dilemma?

In fact the more I write the more I feel like crying - I don't know where to go next.

[Moonstruck]

Hello Croix...thanks for being so understanding and a sweetheart too.  Sitting and watching others bowl knowing I could do much better is going to be hard...at first...like now.  ..but getting back into it at this moment when I feel things are slowly beginning to turn a corner, physically for me, it's a bit early and may undo any progress I have made thus far.........I have the decision looming in front of me as we write...and have decided to pass.   I "think" time may prove I have made the right decision.  Of course I'll always be involved...it's my tribe, it's where I belong, it's my home!       Getting old is bloody awful and no one warned me my body would not keep up with my mind and heart.....bloody unfair. ...love Moon S

[mmMekitty]

HI Moon,

Agreed, how the body changes & how much more difficult it is to recover/recuperate/rehabilitate an injured body now we're getting older feels bloody unfair.

I'm mid 60s & wondering if my efforts now to become fitter than ever I was is something I won't actually attain because I didn't begin years, maybe decades ago. Try, I must, because any improvement on basic fitness levels is better than none.

Sitting on the sidelines when you have previously been happily involved, I can only imagine feels as perhaps, a rejection or isolating to you. Like being a wallflower at a party when you want to be minggling & socialising with everyone ??? Is that how it feels?

& maybe, you are feeling your aging body is letting you down, or betraying you???

I know I've had some feelings like that as my body has taken so long to heal from the surgery I had in Jan 2022 & knowing it will never be the same again, (even though I realise I don't miss a couple bits anyway.) It's just not like I envision my body to be like, or how it should be.

Facing reality is hard; accepting reality harder.

I can't tell if your body will ever be as it was, if you can return to competition fitness again, or not. I'd say to get all the advice you can, a trainer, if you can, to help you meet your goals without causing more injury.

Did you guess Croix's quote author?

Wonder, Croix, might I chase a clockwork mouse through a maze, maybe on clockwork roller skates?

Hugzies everyone

mmMekitty

[Croix]

Now MK,You know perfectly well who the author is, after all I rarely quote anyone else to Moon.

One of the advantages of a clockwork 🐁, in or our of a maze, is the the spring winds down and the 🐁 goes slower and slower, giving you ample time to catch up and pounce (provided your clockwork ⛸⛸ don't wind down the same of course:)

-C

[mmMekitty]

Oh, of-course! How did I not guess? OMW!*

* oh my whiskers!

Hugzies

mmMekitty

[Croix]

I think the full quote (or one of them) goes

"oh my dear paws! oh my fur and whiskers! She'll have me executed, as sure as ferrets are ferrets!"

I'm not sure you are in any danger though , there are remarkable few ferrets in the Forum

-C (one of the few walruses in the forum)

[mmMekitty]

.... except for a couple I let loose on the iceberg ...

I really thought I 'd rather not say "OMG@" 

Oh My Paws, Oh My Fur, Oh My (cute) Nose, Oh My Tail  as well as Oh My Wiskers is Purrfectly fine by me.

It was all because my new support worker is 'converting' to Islam, (though not in a serious way - seems new hubby isn't so serious about his religion either), & she often says "Oh My God!" in an exclamatory way, & I asked her, "what about saying 'Oh My Alla!' instead? Or 'OMA"!"

But me, no religion to respect or disrespect, so I thought of 'Oh My Wiskers!' or 'OMW!', which had nothing to do with ferrets.

If ferrets get into my bed or clothing, I am sure I will exclaim something stronger than 'Oh My Wiskers'.

Thinking of you, Moon. Hope you are okay.

Hugzies

mmMekitty

[Croix]

Dear Moon~

I think it must have cost you a lot to say "pass" on a new opportunity, however it was probably a wise move.

Apart from the possibility of setting you back physically htere is also the possibility you might - due to your current condition - only given a so-so account of yourself, and that might be something you regret later.

I'm sure you will be back in top form and bowling with magnificence before long

"It is through art, and through art only, that we can realise our perfection."

Croix

[Moonstruck]

 Croix.....many years ago my singing teacher said to me "Your art will never hurt you"

[quirkywords]

Croix. My high school art teacher in year 7 told me I had no artistic bone in my body!

[Croix]

Dear Quirky~

I'm sure the quote means the appreciation as well as the making. You certainly appreciate the art of words -no bones necessary.

Croix