Do you think the way l'm living is ok for now?

[Guest_1584]

Hi BB.

l feel like this is another dumb question from rx , but ah well.ln times of uncertainties we might ask some of those right.

We sep' and divorced 5yrs ago , threw life into a spin. Together 19yrs before. l've stayed in the area to be close to my d, 16now, and finally got another house of my own 15mths ago.

l was with someone new nearly 2yrs but it hasn't worked out unfortunately but being long distance 70% of the time, there was lots of days and nights spent at home in our little private bubble world of messaging and skyping .

So now that we've split, l still haven't built any sort of a new life really. Got this hosue because loved the spot and the house itslef and great views and it's only 20mins form my d's town. lhoped l'd like it here , maybe even make a new life. But ldon't really fit in this town and so it's beena lot more time at home, l work at home too.

Nit sure if l'll stay here , but l do love the house and spot and views and in spare time can easily just hang out around the house days on end , basically alone, bt l dunno, it's just and old renovator but just really comfy to hang out in, live.

If l'm working l always try to get out most days, pick up spares or spin over to one of the other towns for a change of scenery , or some lunch, whatever.Or locally up to the shops even , groceries whatever , anything just to get out for awhile.

lately l've sort of developed a bit of a pattern in spare time. love hanging out around the house a day , 2 or 3, but then l make myslef go see some, a drink with my brother, or another mate l know, or up to the main town , see my daughter some days, or beach , go for a hike, or something. No pubbing or night life.

Same with wkends, l try to get out somewhere one day, hang out at home the other.

But that's pretty well life has been since split with gf. Mostly alone , andl enjoy lately just hanging out around this house , maybe way way too much , not sure. music or some reno's or movies , internet. It's just big and roomy and airy , views , and comfy. l often get claustrophobic but never in this house,

Do you think what l'm doing atm is ok , l really worry l'm alone too much or taht l'll slip into hermitizing too much, l dunno.

Any thoughts welcome.

rx.

[Guest_1584]

Heya cm and paul and anyone else passing through.

Thanks cm , house stuff , yeppa, it's a touch call and still in limbo.

Problem is there's been a bit of a mini boom in this town last 6mths no idea why especially as things are sounding like they're taking a dive in melbourne . But places are selling in weeks , nearly everything goes on the market been going in weeks especially cheaper places. and the last few mths there's been not one place within 50k of what l got this place for so l could probably sell right now without doing a thing or just a few light cosmetics and make a very nice profit. and be outa here.

thing is l've become totally undecided about where to go and also been thinking l wanna stay close to my daughter for another year while she's doing yr 12.

But if l wait till this time next year to sell this market will probably have dived by then as there's a lot of media talk around about a nasty property plunge for oz.

soooo, damned if l know. but l think all l can do is stay put for now so l'll have to hope for the best maybe.

[Guest_1584]

hi one and all.

just a bit of and off a get it off my chest moment .

well, ng is still here , 3 wks or somem now,,,, l think !. lt's kinda bizarre , dunno how this happened or at the time it did. she's an incredible girl God any guy would be so lucky to have her so l know now one things for sure , l do have rocks in my head , it's fact , no arguments needed haha. not only is she gorgeous on the outside but in everything else as well, damn, kinda dropped myself in the deep end though , silly me , well maybe , dunno , l should be so lucky , yet a bit messed up.

Well she lives in sydney and l keep sayin to myself even though in ways l'd rather we could be like any other new thing and just see each other on off for awhile, that's bloody awkward so that's why we thought well why not just come down and stay for awhile. well it's been somem like a 3 wk awhile so far and somehow we just live incredibly well together and she somehow fits my world , my weird ways , my work, hours , everything , even the damn house and the spot , town , she just slotted straight in like she's been here years. we still have a few language hold ups sometimes it's mainly just accents hers is really strong and she says mines really strong so we get a bit stuck here and there but we damn near read each other like a book already mostly , so strange , this whole thing is strange.

buttttt, l'm still a little stuck and emotionally shut off , ex gf and all , l feel guilty but ng keeps saying she gets it and to just give it time and we see.

sooooo, yeah , we see l guess.

she does have to go home soon for some appointments , we could make that just a few days or weeks, or however long , so l'm hoping to be able to sort myself out a bit more with that .

About it for now.

Cheers to all. rx

[Guest_1584]

hI TO ONE anD all.

Sitting around with a wine so l thought l might say a bit here been awhile.

Ng is still here , but she's becomoming or has already long ago much much more than just ng. She does have to go back in a few weeks for appointments though . Been a few mths , not sure how long, but a few beautiful mths , she's a classic. Got a feeling we might be getting her straight back on the plane when the appointments are done.

At first l was pretty messed up with my ex stuff but she's been so understanding and patient true to form and the muddy water is cleasring thank God. We've had and have the most beautiful time, life, just yesterday she sent me a letter , we write all the time haha, even if we're just in the next room. Saying she just loves our life and time and thank god for my little business that allows us to live like this. She loves me so much and loves our life.

How cool is that. Of course l know it all we live it she tells me we both do but it's so nice to have a little letter like that on paper. from her. But how bizarre is life , different people , ex gf hated my lifestyle and my business, ng loves it . Diiferent strokes l know but it's still just mind boggling isn't it , one mans poison and all that.

Anyway , don't wanna say too much just yet.

Otherwise , she's talked me into keeping the house and atleast finishing the renoto sell off this time next year , make some money and thus mean while still being close to my daughter while she does yr 12. Women are sooooooo good and logical at all this stuff that us guys are a bit hap hazard about , aren't they. Well l am anyway.

Hope everyone's doin ok

rx

[Ggrand]

Hello Randomx,

How are you feeling?

I really just called in to say hello and wish you the very best..

Im not good at giving relationship advise or really even commenting on them.... not after mine anyway...

It sounds like your getting along well with your new gf and she with you....enjoying yourselves and having a good time...as well as good conversation.....and making plans for the future.....the little love letters sound so special... I hope things work out for you RX....You so very much deserve a special someone in your life..l

Hugs xoxo.

Grandy...

[Guest_1584]

Hi grandy , so nice of you to drop in and take the time here and with others too, with so much going on yourself , thanks so much you's a damn good women.

God yeah , know how ya feel l hate trying to give any kind of adviv=ce let alone relationship that one is just too damn tricky and subjective isn't it. And thanks so much for the kind words and wishes, and don't we all eh .

But yeah , we sure have , and if there's one good thing about finding yourself single at this age is that others you meet are probably going through similar stuff and it can be so damn nice to just be able to talk and support each other .

Been a pretty weird but in many other ways a beautiful few mths also. There's been a few talks with ex gf too , just to add to the pile, new girls been here and that's been full on too, emotions all over the place , but it's been damn nice ytoo.

l've remembered paul saying though, enjoy yourself and have some fun or something to that effect though and l've held onto that thought and to hell with the crap , made the most of it mixed up or not.

l've also realized though that l'm very very hesitant to give into new feelings for new girl even though she is much much more than just that now. l still hold no expectations though or had any when she came over in the first place but it could be everything if l let it yet if it blows to shyt tomorrow then so be it . l can't explain l know l have my guard up l've never been hesitant in that way before but even after two mths l find myself still not giving into it. Not a wonder l suppose l know , after everything else.

But we see.

Thanks again grandy , really hope your getting through ok , soldier on eh and don't forget to spoil grandy a bit too eh , very important haha.

Big hug.

rx

[blondguy]

Hello RX

always great to have you on the forums. I had a huge smile when you spoke about Ng and keeping the house..:-)

Ng is a very cool/smart person RX and good on you for having such a wise soul around you...Good 1 RX! You mentioned " thus mean while still being close to my daughter while she does yr 12"

You have worked so hard to have some peace in your life RX. I like your home and your verandah. I wish!

my kindest always....(thumbs up!)

Paul

[Guest_1584]

Gday Paul mate and thanks very much for that one brother , as always very appreciated and nice to hear from ya. How you doin ok ?

And yeah , she is mate , one of the coolest people l've ever met , and so bloody funny, just her ways, things she does, cracks me up.

And thanks to mate ya still gonna have to get yourself up here too btw. We've certainly Christend the veranda a few times but she's still standing much to my surprise so with summer comin round l still owe you a beer or few.

All the best eh

rx

[blondguy]

Yo RX!

Great to see you always (thumbs up!) my friend

You are legend for being a part of Beyond Blue when you started and you have faith in what the forums stand for

Its really great to see you smile RX...seriously....you have made my day as Clint Eastwood would say!!

Thanks heaps for the kind & heartfelt offer and being a part of the forum family...

you rock RX.....Good1 🙂

Paul

[Guest_1584]

Haaaaa , thanks mate and likewise back atcha.

Well not much to report , except ng does have to go up to sydney for a few weeks though this week and that alone is going to be big at this stage.

lt's typical of me and something l've always had but l get this weird delayed reactions type of thing with something like this and so l honestly just don't know yet how it's going to effect me.

But it's also been so full on that at the moment l tell myself l could really use the break to catch my breath get some needed work done before end of year and to get everything ng into perspective, So that's the plan right now. We see.

All the best to all

rx

[Guest_1584]

Hi to one and all.

Not much happening . Daughters just finished year 11 exams and she did so incredibly well through the year , bloody A's, that it's kinda weird not knowing what to expect from the exams now anymore of those and l'm gonna have to lay down l reckon. If you knew her 3yrs ago and the her now , crikey! Not that we pressure at all we don't believe in it actually , it's all been just her. As she's gotten keener we've just supported her and off she's gone.

Not that l care if she gets A's or d's as long as she gets through is the main thing, but very proud daddy here non the less.

Ng , well , of course she's not ng anymore she's well and truly gf these days buttt, she's back in Sydney for awhile on business and then her sons having a baby so she's gotta be there for that. Might even be Jan before she can get back so l'll probably go up for a day or two but that'll be about it until then.

But anyway things are slowly sorting out for me mentally on ex gf and all that , and now this . lt feels like another time actually , a whole nother life . lt's very different to ex and l , it's very different to anything actually, but in really , really , nice ways you couldn't have even thought of . life is so bloody strange isn't it , never know just whats around the next bend.

So , l'm feeling better and better and slipping into all this . Her going back up right now has though come just in time because l wasn't doing too well a month ago , well in an on and off sense , ex stuff and all but all this now and things that happened with us before she left, time now to get everything into it's sorta right spot as best l can , sorta that was haha, but l feel really really good about it all now and this thing with gf has just turned out surprise after surprise sooo , we see. Scared to think to far ahead actually so l'll just leave that at that for now.

Bloody Christmas coming again , l just mean what ????? it's only a damn week since the last one, yaknow. So , just working and trying to set all that up and finish off later. Having the house to myself agains helped too in all that and l've started some renos here and there. GF's planted god knows what all over the yard and l think l might be living in a forest by this time next year, good job l love forests.

That's about it. Hope everyone's well or getting there.

All the best, rx