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Alone..Depressed..Sad..

Ggrand
Community Champion
Community Champion
Hi..I'm new here..just need to put my feeling down..no one to talk to makes depression and anxiety so hard...the last 4 days I have either been in bed crying or on the lounge crying..I can't seem to get out of this...I am becoming a prisioner in my own home as its getting progressively difficult to go out.. I have to go out Tuesdays so I do everthing on that day but it's like I'm holding my breathe all day until I get back to the safety of my home then I can let go and that starts the cycle again of spending the next 6 days at home either in bed or on the lounge sad and depressed...I really feel like just giving up.. My husband passed away 4 years on This coming Thursday. My children live 6 hours drive away and have small children so I don't see them that much.Bad mum and grandmum I am on there last visit i was pleased to see them but I just wanted them to go home. I feel so aweful and numb atm..
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Hi paws and everyone

I think they will have to do something, so many people are struggling with it. It certainly does feel as if everyone is now separated from everyone else and hard to find. I don't like the new format at all, it's more difficult not less.

I also can't see how many new people are coming onto the forums. Some threads are still oldest first, I find I am reading something thinking it's now, then I check the date on it and discover it was written years ago...

Maybe we all need to let BB know we are not happy with the new forums?

Hang in there Grandy, at least we can still reach one another! 👍🐺🐾🐩🐶

monkey_magic
Valued Contributor
Valued Contributor

I agree Hanna, I'm definitely not happy with the change at all

demonblaster
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Ahh darlin 🤗 We're SO good at real hugs eh lovey. Bonus them being good for us mentally.

You truly dont have to apologise for saying how you feel poor soul.
Thats why we're here on the forums lovey & it helps us to know so we can give you the support you need precious one ☺

Many here including me understand what you're feeling. It's hard and being so sudden and full on.
Change for many is a difficult transition without being able to communicate properly on top.
Fortunately we are adaptable so when it's sorted and running smoothly with a few tweaks hopefully we'll not take too long to get into the groove again.

It'd be a priority to get this sorted. What a nightmare for all concerned.
I hold high faith they'll get it happening in the near future, then it'll be easier to get used to.

Yes knowing if someones new to welcome and supports a biggy.
I'm sporadically doing a fairly big list of issues. Might have a viable suggest to work around that one.

Darlin I know you can do this

When beasty bites tell [ITx) ....

• This isn't in my control
• I didn't choose this • It's not my fault • It's a temporary situation • It'll improve hopefully soon • I can't for now but for yrs I've helped SO many people • I feel so good doing that • I'll be doing it more • I've made heaps of friends • I'm part of a community

• being proactive which in itselfs a major. Also it's sticking up for yourself which in a ways sticking it to the mutts that hurt you so badly. Boomer!
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It helps open our minds making room for problem solving like rational thought ideas positives happies

Trust me Grandy you are an intelligent lady I mean that.
Stress blocks learning & other causes too.

I don't believe anyone's stupid. We all have intelligence which is what's needed to learn.
People have different abilities capabilities & knowledge.
We need different strengths to build a world.

If you/ve subscribed to email notifications. To do that tap/click your profile pic above /settings.
In your emails you can see responses from your post to someone. (Assuming following them does as well)
If you tap the Discussion (thread) topic you can go directly to the thread from the email which is great.

Deep love my/our precious Grandy 👩‍❤️‍👩💜4evs sss 😚💗
Hey...🤝...we'll get this 💫 we got the goods peeps ⚘

demonblaster
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi sweety 👩‍❤️‍👩 and every lovely here and reading ☺

 

Just passing through to check on you of course hun I really hope you're ok Grandz 🤗

 

Apart from that, your threads disappeared from my emails so if you're able to see this plz could you post even just an emoji would be great esp if it's a 🍫 of course from our Peppys alias Pepstar 🤗 emporium or a word just so I can get your discussion back. It's awful not seeing you but this will be a thing of the past soon enough. 

 

I know which is a great thing theres no pressure for replies...just a besty need for us both atm 😚

 

You are a major brilliant part of my life dear friend, that'll never change 💜

🦋🌹👩‍❤️‍👩💫

ecomama
Valued Contributor
Valued Contributor

Hi Grandy! long time! Hi everyone, it's been so long. Sorry for being MIA, I had to deal with "stuff". 

 

Grandy it's so nice being back at your place lol. 
Yep the new forums are tricky to learn about. You're doing SO WELL! 

 

You know we need you here, so we know you will persist with the features. 

 

Please don't worry about the new members for now. "Oxygen mask on self first". 

 

One thing I've noticed is that when someone clicks on "Support" at the bottom of our posts, then it comes up as red bubble in the 'notifications' bell icon at the top of our pages. If you click in here then the thread is there where you posted. 

 

You are as resilient as they get Grandy, I know you can do it. 

 

How did your house cleaning go? 

 

Love to you and all your visitors lol
EM

Ggrand
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hello Dear Deebi👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩, waves and hugs to everyone 🤗...

 

Thank you everyone for your caring posts...

 

I am doing okay bbff, trying to learn these new forums has been very hard, but I think I’m getting their...Just hasn’t got that warm feeling it used to have before...but I’m sure when we know it as well as the older version it will feel that way again....

 

I will pop back in and reply properly to your posts...Just right now..brain fog is making it so hard to connect words to make sense...

 

Thank you Deebi....I feel the same way about you...major brilliant friendship as well..🦄👼..💙🦋🤗...Just wish it r/l as well😢..

 

Hugs, My care and love to everyone..🤗🦋💜..

 

👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩Grandy🕊🌱🌿🌳..

 

 

 

 

 

demonblaster
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Thanks Grandz for your reply dear bestest bbff 👩‍❤️‍👩 hi everyone ☺

 

I feel relief when you say ok, but awful knowing you're doing the hard yards 🤗 and boyo aren't they.

 

Awe darlin Grandy my dream is for us to be rl geez you wouldnt believe how often I imagine it 😢

 

I know how hard it is to post and how long it can take in this headspace (hrs for me at times just for one). 

 

Stoked hearing you're getting there with the forums. How's that I thought the same as you said just before I read the next sentence that the warmth might return when it's all sorted. I think so because theres several things I like and feel will make it easier.

 

Ok lovey try and get a good warm sleep dear lady. Hopefully you'll wake feeling a bit better mentally. Nigh nite precious one ☺👩‍❤️‍👩💜

 

Nigh nite everyone sleep well too 🕊

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

demonblaster
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi darlin ?‍❤️‍? as always you're high in my 🗯 thoughts. Hi all ☺

 

Sweety was thinking today which in 'normal' times the memories a tad better but phooey not so good in ? times. Guessing most of us can relate.

 

I know there's many bad memories with keeping the house clean. Was wondering if when you're cleaning it like you mentioned recently is that also a distraction when you're doing the hard yards? Not a worry if you don't want to say ? (this hugger gives you a zilch calorie...maximum taste of choccy ? hug. So she's called a chugger.

Hasn't virtual pleasures come a long way these days. 

 

Darl I'm attempting a link thanks to Romantic_thi3f ? Spello saying how to. I was going to tackle that sometime but my first attempt looks like a fail so I'll fiddle around and re read their post. 

 

Then I'll pop links up on peoples discussions that are struggling till its all sorted to link to threads. 

And you'll have mine which should be easier let's hope. 

Ok off to the drawing board 🤔

Major love dear Grandy 👩‍❤️‍👩💜 💫🌹

We'll get there good people

 

 

 

 

 

 

Hi Grandy, DB, Hanna, Paws, & everyone,

I'm presuming DB's link worked for DB as it did for me, when I tested it last night.😺

Thinking of you, Grandy, & all.  As always, hoping you are well & feeling the same consideration, care & generosity of spirit, which you give to others.

💖💖💖💖

mmMekitty