Alone..Depressed..Sad..

[Ggrand]

Hi..I'm new here..just need to put my feeling down..no one to talk to makes depression and anxiety so hard...the last 4 days I have either been in bed crying or on the lounge crying..I can't seem to get out of this...I am becoming a prisioner in my own home as its getting progressively difficult to go out.. I have to go out Tuesdays so I do everthing on that day but it's like I'm holding my breathe all day until I get back to the safety of my home then I can let go and that starts the cycle again of spending the next 6 days at home either in bed or on the lounge sad and depressed...I really feel like just giving up.. My husband passed away 4 years on This coming Thursday. My children live 6 hours drive away and have small children so I don't see them that much.Bad mum and grandmum I am on there last visit i was pleased to see them but I just wanted them to go home. I feel so aweful and numb atm..

[Hanna3]

I hope this works Magic, whei try to reply to you I get thrown out and have to login again! It's certainly not as easy as it used to be. 😊🐕🐩

[monkey_magic]

Yeah it's crappy. It makes me sad and depressed it's been changed. I've been here 5 1/2 years and was comfortable with how it was. It didn't need to be changed and I really hope they change it back. Not many ppl r on here anymore 😮‍💨

[Hanna3]

Hi Magic, I used to be able to see easily the new people posting and if someone had replied to me but now I have to search around. I feel disorientated, does it feel strange to you too? I think people aren't coming on because they must be having difficulty getting around the forums.

I'm on another forum, completely unrelated to this, and it's clear and easy to get around. I hope BB will go back to the previous format! I haven't been able to chat normally with people here for a week now. 😕😯

[demonblaster]

Hey Grandy 👩‍❤️‍👩 and everyone ☺

Just a real quicky lovey hope you get this. To say how much I love and miss you Geez this new formats got some serious issues. Possibly some is my device but sounding like most isnt cause others having same probs. 

Basically unless its a short thread I cant get to last post. Yes I could but no kidding it taking me over half an hr here the other day and wasnt clise to the last post. 

I'm ok but not because I'm feeling disconnected with people from here esp you. Mh is fragile atm 

An out with Mr love and besty today soon. 

I'll get back to talk on new forum thread to say the few things that aren't working. Unsure when this is challenging and moods swinging a bit otherwise coping ok with the frustration here atm. I'm aware many others are thrown too. I heard you saying you're trying to navigate them as well. 

Grandy I really hope you're ok darlin. Always close in spirit and heart precious friend. 

Give your gorjy fur fam a huge hug. We'll get there eh ☺🤝👩‍❤️‍👩💜

Hannah thanks saying you saw my pist to Grandy here the other day. Think somehow I read that on Kittys thread. Seems some are easier than others to get the newest post working sigh. 

👩‍❤️‍👩💜💗

[demonblaster]

Hi sweet Grandy 👩‍❤️‍👩 and everyone ☺

Shhhh sweety that's ok no need to say anything honey ...just relax ...gently stroking your hair...good girl... slowly that nice deep gentle breath in ...hold and when you release slowly as well while you physically feel the tension leave your neck muscles darlin it really does help. That's the way now by the time you've done that 437 times you'll realise when you wake up to a gorgeous sunrise 🌅 over the Mountains and see that soft ,blue sky that you've had the most glorious stress free sleep. And look 👀 who fell asleep in the chair next to you while they were teaching you how to destress...👩‍❤️‍👩....I'm ALWAYS right there with you my dearest most beautiful bbff 💜 .... there we go sweety that nice hot cuppa tea is still from last night with the 🌈 rainbow in it's ready to drink and fill your day with happiness colour warmth and eternal love 💜

You're 1 in a million Grandy. I'm privileged to have you in my heart and thoughts 24/7.

Oh popped some smiley's in your toothpaste too 🦄

Sweet dreams precious friend 🦋 

No we won't lose eachother darlin our bonds way stronger than Beasty could ever touch. IT's jelly (jealous) of our unbreakable bond 💫

Nigh nite my gorjy ☺🕊💗 and everyone pure dreams sent ⚘

[GermanAurelia]

This is so sad.

[mmMekitty]

How are you, Grandy? I've been concerned that you may be feeling unwell & too unsure about these changes to the forums. I'm sure we'll get our head around it. I've been unhappy about some of the changes, as so many others are as well. I am here to help as much as I can.

being comfortable with the forum is so important, & when you are not comfortable it can be very difficult to get past that & make contact anyway. I've realised what a difference it makes just to maintain contact with people here, feeling deep down that I might not manage & have to stop. I'm glad I have persisted, & am trying to sort out which ways of achieving what I want to do here, will work best for me.

I'm hopeful bugs will be sorted out, that I will understand which setting & option for what, Things like that. It's what I did when I joined, so I can do it again.

Gentle hugs, as you may wish, to you & your furbabies.

💖💖💖💖💖💖

Remember BB's counsellors are here for you. Just phone: 1300 22 46 36

mmMekitty

[Ggrand]

Hello Deebi👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩, mmMeKitty, Hanna, Paws and all...🤗..

Thank you for your caring posts...

I feel totally lost and sad....I do come into the forums a few times a day...well a lot really, but my head cannot get around the changes...I have put follow on all your threads, but still not getting notifications when you post.....I know we didn’t before, but the threads were all just their under “my threads” and I could see you all....It was like we all were visiting each other...

It felt warm, safe and cosy....I don’t get that feeling anymore when I’m on the forums...it’s like, now everyone is scattered all over the place and I’ve got to search around to find you all.....New threads, new members, well they are so hard to find now.....One of my roles here:- is to welcome them to the forums as well as try to support them....I feel like I am failing big time here...I need to have patience with me...but that’s been hard...I have a lot of frustration within me....other members are working it out....Why can’t I?....because, I guess I have always been slow at picking up new things and changes...I am not a very bright person when it comes to change.....Will I understand these forums again....Oh I really do hope so!...I need to because this is my other safe place other then my home...

Sorry my post is so negative, but I have to get this all out of my head...because feeling useless is not good...for me or anyone...

Having a break from the forums for a few hours, while I try to clean my home...

SSS..love dear bbff....💙🌹🤗, my thoughts are 24/7...with some bear hugs 🧸🤗..

My care, love and hugs to you all..🦋💜🤗.

👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩Grandy..🕊🌱🌿🌳..

[Hanna3]

Hi Grandy and mmMekitty and everyone

You're not alone Grandy, I am finding it strange too - I can find my way around but it's not the same, I can't see where everyone is, I have to search to find one conversation at a time - and I have to check if anyone has posted, i can't see if they have any more.  I think the cafe has been pretty empty lately, but again i can't see that as well as I used to.  I agree with you it feels strange and rather empty, not friendly any more.

I hope they will improve things so it's not like this any more, but meanwhile I am not coming on here much as I find it tiring and I have to concentrate, have i found the latest post, where are the new people posting, etc.  It's much harder than it was before.

Don't be too down, I'm sure it will be improved, I wish they would change it back to how it was.  I like that i can click on my profile and follow conversations there, but otherwise i think the changes are a shame and make it harder.

You still have your friends here, don't worry, we have all found each other, it was tricky the first couple of days but here we are!!!!  

We have some weak sunshine here today but it's been so cold... and overcast - i'm sure that can't be helping you feel better...

We are here and do come by and check how you are and to chat.. big hugs!

[Paw Prints]

Hello Grandy,

You are not alone in struggling with the changes... it is very hard to find things or get from one thread to another... it seems they have thrown out the bits that did work in the old format along with the bits that needed improving... it is even the little things things like how many posts a person has made next to their name... it made spotting newbies so much easier... I'm struggling just trying to re-find the threads I used to follow...

Notifications isn't yet working as it should... I contacted mod support about it & it is something they are trying to fix. I think they have quite a few teething challenges to fix..

Wolfie started a thread that was for people to write any tips for using the new forums... I'm wondering if it might be better change it to have one where people could ask how do I do xyz... that way the answers would be available to everyone...

One thing I did work out today that might help you is at the the top of each thread when you click on the three dots you can choose to mark it as read... then when you go to your profile to view what threads you are following it will have reset the counter beside that thread to zero... so if anyone else then posts to it you can at least see that a post has been made... I might pop this on Wolfies thread

Woofa was sleeping in the winter sunshine streaming onto his bed by the window in my room & but as the sun has disappeared he has opted to join me on the couch & snooze there... I was tempted to join him in my room earlier as the air temp in the lounge is freezing... 

I hope you are getting some sunshine to bask in out your way

Hugs & pats for your furs

Paws