Hello dear Grandy, Paws and Everyone,
I’m really glad there are some options for you to call on if you need some support at home. I have to admit I feel the same about other people coming into my home. I have people probably coming tomorrow in relation to matters to do with the strata property and I feel self-conscious as I struggle to keep my home as tidy and spotless as some others do. But I’m gradually learning to not care so much about such things and I think people like those who come to support in the home really understand you are managing on your own and they are there to help. I know what you mean about the doggies too. I have lived with doggies and, yes, so much bits of grass, dirt and fur everywhere 😂 But they are so worth it 🐶💗
I had the sense from previous posts that Betty tends to want you to do certain things like be at the shop because it’s like a security for her, like she’s a bit dependent on you to be there for her sake. But it is so important that you do what’s right for you as first priority. If you are not at the shop it doesn’t mean that you and Betty cannot still catch up for coffee and spend time together. I have had friends too who have wanted me to meet their needs/wishes, but then when I might have needs they can’t really see me or provide support back. I think you have done the right thing by gently letting Betty know that you aren’t going back to work but that she doesn’t have to follow what you do. Hopefully she will learn to adjust and manage herself as to what is right for her. It’s actually good for her to know you have boundaries around your needs and it helps her to take responsibility for her own needs.
I’m glad you have been able to opt out of the shoulder surgery. Surgery is a fairly major thing to have, so if there is a way to continue without too much pain and your range of movement has much improved, that really sounds like a good way to go. I really feel for you with the back pain. With ligaments it seems it takes rest and time, but I know it is so frustrating. I wish I could be there to help you out. Go gently and I hope you can find some peaceful distractions from the pain and discomfort. I’m remembering your lovely description of being on your porch watching and hearing the thunderstorm. I hope you can find some peaceful absorption in nature like that.
Yes, toasties can be a good, easy meal. I know what you mean about the frozen supermarket meals. Don’t hesitate to ask for some more help with shopping if you need it. Ham can be another good thing to have on hand as a protein for toasties or sandwiches. I’ve also found there are some good quality packaged soups out there now such as chicken and vegetables which can be a good, easy, nutritious meal you can heat in the microwave.
Rest well Grandy, take care and gentle hugs 🤗💖🌼🌸💫
ER
