no one believes me

mel13 · ‎07-10-2013

for the past 2-3 years i have been suffering from depression and mild anxiety and selfharm .. i have done many only checklists and tests and i get very high every time i hoped it would get better or even go away for i monitored it and kept checking to see if my score went down but if anything its been worse.from the very start i tried talking to my parents about how ive been feeling and they didnt really take me serious they said its normal for teenagers to feel that way but its still been hanging round for a few years now i and i know its not normal ive asked them again if i can go see a gp or something about it and they said no you need spiritual healing ot something keep in mind my parents are highly religious and think i dont need any other help but to believe in god. and i feel like i have no one to talk to i tried talking to my bestfriend and my sister she thinks im fine ... i must hide it pretty good for no one to noticed but im feeling really not to good im doing my last year of high school next year and i honestly dont see my self making it through the year i have no where else to go so thought id come here i just want some answers i want to know what its like to enjoy life instead of feeling like im going no where..

vip · ‎07-10-2013

Mel no spritual or church healing will help with depression . Depression is a disease like diabetes high blood pressure ect. it requires medication, gp and psych visitations. Maybe get a copy of the information back from beyondblue for your parents to read so that they are more informed about it. If you are over 18 then take yourself off to a gp and get a second opinion dont leave yourself alone with this and with no support by the looks of it either . I was 17 when first diagnosed with depression and my parents came with me to the gp and to the psych also so make sure you get them better informed its a serious illness and must be taken seriously. Take care

GG57 · ‎07-10-2013

Can you see a school councillor? If not you are old enough to see a Dr who could refer you for some counselling. It's important at your age to seek help. As soon as u can @16 you don't need your parents permission to seek help. The other thing that I can suggest is join a club and get busy. Sometimes it's so hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel.If your parents have followed one path this doesn't automatically mean you have to follow the same path but it is important to have a goal on what you want. Just hang in there and try and get some help.

geoff · ‎08-10-2013

dear Mel, well I am going to cross a few lines here and I'm sorry for those who believe in religion, I apologise to you.

However, these religious thoughts are useless, no god or any main figure that controls any type of religion can not possibly cure anyone from depression, they can't even do this for people with cancer, but I won't go any further than that, by all means you can have your say.

Mel you haven't mentioned your age, so I suppose you are under age, but that should not stop you from going to see a doctor, and it will be kept quite from your parents.

You have to do this a.s.a.p and probably go to a doctor that is mentioned from the above list, and then 'mum's the word'.

Step away from your family unit because their own belief is that by praying to god will help you, it won't and you know this I believe.

Depression will not cure itself, it only gets worse, and once this happens it becomes deeper and deeper, and then more issues establish themselves, so you end up in a mess.

Next year at school will be a difficult one, so that's why you need professional help, and you do have 10 or 12 free medicare visits which are paid for you.

You can have these every year, so please take advantage of them, your parents will be non the wiser, and talk to your doctor about being able to pick up any medication if yourequire it. Take care and please let us know how you get on. Geoff. x

vip · ‎08-10-2013

Mel I made that point about the religion to you because that was the 1st thing people said to me go to church pray join a church group it will go away. Im 39 now and ive had depression for 22yrs so without the help of medication gp and my psych i would not have got through this . Leave the praying and the meditation as alternates to help but the professional help is the best. Take care

Rachael · ‎10-10-2013

Hi Mel.

My last year of high school is also next year, and I'm suffering from depression too, so surprisingly, I DO know how you feel. I think our cases are quite similar. I've also done online tests, and received the same results. But unfortunately, I don't think talking to your parents are going to help. When I went to mine, I pretty much got laughed at, and my problems were seen as unimportant and petty. So without family to go to, I went to my school counsellour. And she helped. Alot of the time talking to a complete stranger about your problems is much easier than talking to a loved one. There, you won't feel silly or feel like you're being judged.

I know how you feel, the feeling of having no one. Feeling trapped. Alot of the time it feels like I'm screaming at the top of my lungs, but no one at all can hear me, as if I'm invisible or something. Or walking into a crowded room, and feeling alone. Alone with my own thoughts... Do you feel like that to?

Anyway, despite what you think, talking to a counsellor WILL help. Get it off your chest. Take it from someone who has, and still is, going through it. I still, to this moment, have suicidal thoughts. Thinking that maybe ending it would be so much easier. Then I wouldn't have to deal with all this pain ... but then I opened my mouth and let it all out. And I feel better because of it. Not entirely better, but it's a step in the right direction. Please, just reach out. You have nothing to lose. Your parents and friends aren't offering support, but your school will. Or I can help you. There are always people here to lend a hand.

Just remember that you aren't alone. Cliche, I know, but it's true.

Rachael. x

pinkclouds · ‎11-10-2013

Mel13, i can relate to what you are going through. I was 18 when i diagnosed with mixed anxiety/depression and it was in my last year of highschool. I had been very quiet and private about my illness years before. When i finally revealed what i was feeling to my family, they suggested that my lack of religion may be an underlining factor. Coming from a deeply religious family, they often turn to faith to solve their problems. The church became their vessel of aid, unfortunately in my final year of highschool my depressive spiral headed towards a dramatic direction and i was unable to leave my bed and began having horrific nightmares, insomnia and panic attacks. My mother called a priest to pray for me, she would not accept that i was in need of psychological help until she discovered my self harm scars. We contacted our gp and she offered a referal to see what ended up being a parade of psychologists. I eventually found a wonderful one that has helped me quite a bit. It was not until my mother was educated on the illness that she was able to understand that depression is not an easy fix nor is it devilish curse but an illness in need of treatment and attention. I can suggest that the best course of action for you to take is to contact your gp and discuss everything that you are feeling then present your mother with information.

My mother till this day tells me she did not want to face reality and although she knew something was wrong, her denial to admit i was not well made her want to almost sweep the matter under the rug.