I feel so lonely alot of the time :(

lochness46 · ‎21-11-2020

Im feeling very disappointed that my life is very lonely living with Mental Ilnesses. I live in a small country town & have been here for now about 5-6 years as a single parent. Ive tried to make friends but seem to either get involved ( till it to late to relise)people that are the wrong people to be friends with or Ive been betrayed by them. I struggle with energy levels & Im tired & fatigued quite alot, especially lately, because Ive just been diagnosed with a physical illness. Its really made it hard for me to hold down any kind of employment, or even do volunteer work becasue of my mental health & now my physical illness. The only people currently in my life are paid professionals. There is also no mental health groups other hobby groups that im interested in my area. I wasnt born here in this area & only have a very dsyfunctional relationship with my mother, who is my only closeset relative. My son also struggles with social anxiety & only has 2 friends. He mainly socialises with his friends on line & at school, but it seems to end there. Ive tried meeting other parents at my somes school, but havent really clicked with any of them, & alot of them work, unlike me. I feel because Im a single parent, & a single parent whom doesnt work, that I dont seem to fit into any where.I try to contact people who I use to know who live in the city, but they are all so busy with their own lives these days...I hate feeling like Im a nobody that no one seems to ever contact 😞

Jstar49 · ‎01-02-2021

Hey Lochness,

I can really relate to what you're saying, about being over it, over being unwell.

Please try and remember that mental health and wellbeing is a lot like other illnesses in that it can take time, no one thing will 'fix it', and the journey to recovery and wellness can be tiring, frustrating, and difficult.

I don't want to sound dismissive of your problems, but is there one thing you can do each day which might begin to make a difference for your well being?

It could be a daily gratitude habit.

Or a walk, in a nice place, listening to the birds and the bees.

It could be arranging childcare and going to see a movie, and then treating yourself to a coffee afterwards.

What would a lovely afternoon look like to you, if you could wave a magic wand and make it happen?

Much care,

J*

Guest_4643 · ‎02-02-2021

Hi lochness46.

I'm sorry to hear you're struggling so much. I'm 21 and I also live in a small country town, and have since 2018. Like you, I don't know anyone here. I've tried to join groups to meet people and learn new things (for example, sewing) and I'm rejected, and this was before COVID, to me that's discrimination. So I relate to how lonely you are and whatnot.

You're not a nobody, but I definitely relate to that too. I can't volunteer or work either, I've never even had a job. So you're not alone.

The only people in my life are professionals too. I hope things improve for you mentally and physically somehow. I'm thinking of you.

My answer probably didn't help, but I just wanted to remind you although I'm only 21 and don't have a relationship and kids, I understand how you feel with the loneliness and so forth.

lochness46 · ‎05-02-2021

Thank you for your comments mb20lover & understanding me...its definetly not easy, my life is very simialr to yours, I to only have professionals in my life & they always suggest things, vounteering, jion groups etc but Im not always able to do these things & feel like a outsider alot of the time, even though people know my name.. but your comments have made me feel that Im not alone in the situations that we are in because of mental health issues & I really appreciate you sharing your life & how not so easy you have it also.

Guest_4643 · ‎05-02-2021

Yeah I agree, people suggest stuff for me too such as jobs, volunteering, TAFE, courses (online and in person), groups, etc. I can't do any of those, I applied for NDIS but was told they won't fund any of that so I withdrew my claim. I'm on the DSP though.

I've been told by my GP that i can't do much because of my mental health (for example getting claustrophobic & having a social phobia in big crowds, the bigger, the worse it is), etc. I don't have any skills & can't get job training. I can't volunteer & join groups. This was before COVID also.

Thanks for understanding me also, I'm glad I could help you. It's somewhat nice (although sad) for me knowing you're in the same position too.