I feel so inadequate to give advice and such a screw up to accept any

[Guest_3712]

Hi all,

feeling bad and feeling sad

not trying to write a poem

just don't know why or what to do

Stressless 

[Mares73]

My dear friend Stressless I'm worried about you too. And because of similarities I'm worried I've triggered a reaction. If I have please let's talk about it? You are so special & a core member. I'd miss you so much. In my heart, Mares xxx

[geoff]

dear Ess Elle, let's suppose I'm new in town and ask someone 'what's the quickest way to the main shopping centre', so they tell you, but your fill up the car with petrol and ask exactly the same question to the cashier, but they tell you a different story of how to get there, so who's right, or is it 6 of one and half a dozen of the other, probably both are, so which one do you chose, but that decision doesn't really matter, because both are right in their own way.

So I know that a post may bring up bad memories and this may bring a dark cloud over you, which we are so sorry for, but isn't this getting back to problems that are hidden within yourself, and these perhaps maybe something that your psych hasn't thought of.

I appreciate that talking face to face is ideal, but are these resolutions always solved at the session, or are you sent home to consider what has been discussed and then post what you think, and what advice we can offer, and it's pretty well instant.

Just words to contemplate. L Geoff. x

[White_Rose]

Dear Ess Elle

What a pickle.  It must feel as though you are d..ned if you do and d..ned if you don't.  I recently posted to someone that too much contact with other people's problems can be a huge drain on yourself.  I still believe this is correct.  This site contains a huge number of sad stories, people trying to cope with major illnesses such as depression etc. 

Giving hope and support to anyone can be, and often is, exhausting.  I know issues are raised in therapy sessions that cannot always be answered in the same session.  They are too big or too deeply rooted.  It takes time and work to get through them.  Trying to help others takes away your coping abilities and resilience at a time when you most need it.

If very difficult issues have raised their heads it requires more work and effort to resolve them.  I imagine that your psych is trying to get you to concentrate on your own well-being for a time and I agree with this.  Not that my opinion counts for much as I am not a psych.  This is my experience and my perception of others.

Perhaps now is the time to take a rest from BB and put all your energies into yourself.  Regaining your  own mental and physical health must be your priority.  Helping others effectively requires a fairly stable and sound base.  You have given of yourself quite freely but now may the time to give to yourself.  You can return to BB at any time.

I hope I have helped you.

Regards

White Rose

[Guest_3712]

Hi Jo,

thanks as always for your support

no it wasn't your post, not that it would matter .

this forum must be comfortable for all to use and if someone gets upset unfortunately that is how it is . I 'm sure unknowingly I have touched on a nerve with others.

at the moment I haven't be able to draw any positives just more questions, doubts and self loathing.

sorry don't know what to do.

I don't know if I want to know anymore about myself

be kind to yourselves

Ess Elle ( stressless)

[Guest_3712]

Hi Mares,

Please don't worry about me you have enough on your plate.

it was nothing you said but like I told Jo you can't worry if your post triggers others issues, you need to feel free to vent.

I am very confused and shocked at some of the memories coming back to me

don't know what to do

just take care Mares

Be kind to yourself

Ess Elle

( Stressless)

[Neil_1]

Dear Ess Elle

Hey, it's become quite catchy, don't you think??

So your Sunday hasn't presented with any better thoughts for you?  Which is no good.

You mentioned above how your psyche is dragging things up from your past - which are obviously massively traumatic for you - and his advice is they are being dragged up so then the two of you can deal with them, then and there during that session.  That's quite presumptious (is that such a word?) of your psyche and almost (excuse me for saying) and almost bs.  I mean, these things are so fragile for you and make you feel so uncomfortable, how in the hell does he think that by bringing them up in your session is going to be beneficial or helpful to you?

Almost sounds to me like he thinks, ok, I'll raise this during this session, we'll talk about it - and then when you walk out that door, please don't be stressing or thinking about it anymore, until our next session.  I may be reading this wrong, but if I'm not, then that is absolute baloney.

What to do now Ess Elle??   I guess you've got work happening on Monday, yeah?  You're there with your mask firmly in place.  When is your next session with your psyche?

Gee it all sucks massively doesn't it.  We have these traumas that have happened to us in the past and the upshot of that is that yes, they were in the past, but they continue to haunt us as we continue on with our lives.  Enter - depression.  😞

I'm sorry Stressless, this perhaps wasn't the most brightest post for you to read.

Kind regards

Neil

[Guest_3712]

Hi Geoff,

as usual your reply is logical and gets to the heart of things.

in fairness to my psych it is hard for him to think of everything I guess as it seems each session I have a new catastrophe to deal with.

you're right .not every issue is dealt with at the session and I do go home with lots to think about usually, but the ,"OMG" moments I have with him are so enlightening I take heart that maybe just maybe I am not so crazy- maybe.

The feedback I get on here is instant yes .supportive, friendly, caring. and knowledgeable, tick, tick tick and tick.

six of one , half a dozen of the other umm not sure about that.

the folks here talk from personal experience and my psych , well he talks from a zillion years of study and 30 years of one on one treatment.

both are more than qualified but somehow at the moment they are in my case at odds with each other.

thanks Geoff- needed your cool rationale

Ess Elle

Stressless

[Guest_3712]

Hi Neil,

yes thanks love the nickname, shame I can't use it in "the real world")

Ok let me try to explain. My psych never drags things up. He waits for me to bring things up then he lets me dictate the pace. if it's something we have spoke of before then he may bring it up if in context with what we are talking about.

this is a really hard journeuy of discovery for us both. when I was first admitted to the psych hospital it was for drug abuse due to my injury/ chronic pain. it was many months before it became apparent to him , not me, that there was a lot of stuff buried that was just waiting for the right trigger to surface.

I guess my complete mental and physical breakdown was the time.

I owe this doc every thing. he saved my life so many times, literally.  I have to trust his opinion and instinct, don't I ??

OMG I am so confused. I wish I could say coming on here made me feel better, but honestly most times I feel so inadequate to give advice and such a screw up to accept any.

I don't know which way is up anymore

Ess Elle

Stressless

[Neil_1]

Stressless wrote:   " ... my psych , well he talks from a zillion years of study and 30 years of one on one treatment"

Neil responds with:  "This guy sounds older than Catweazle (gee, I hope you watched that show back in the '70's) - get rid of him - he's too old!"

[Guest_3712]

Hi White Rose.

just saying your name brings me peace and serenity. You are very perceptive and you have accurately summarised what I believe are my doctor's intentions.

the trouble is I am so near panic at the thought of not being on this site.

the thought of endless days with no communication with kindred spirits scares me to death. my thoughts race and my heart thuds in my chest, I don't think I  can be alone with the ongoing turmoil in my brain.

you have giving me much to think about thanks and

Be kind to yourself

Ess Elle