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MikaelaB · ‎23-10-2013

Is it normal to have suicidal thoughts everyday?

vip · ‎28-10-2013

No worries Mikaela the way you mustered up the courage to talk to us all on this forum is the way you approach mum you probably dont realise this but you are much stronger than you think to admit how you are feeling takes courage and maturity so well done for doing this. Take care and please look after yourself xx

geoff · ‎29-10-2013

dear Jo and some of the other ladies who are having trouble with your mum's, PLEASE don't read this next comment, because it's going to upset you. L Geoff. x

dear Mikaela, sometimes we don't want to involve our closest friend, companion and this is what your mum is to you, and the longer we hold back on confiding with them, the longer the questions will continue.

When you tell your mum, well she knows already, the greater chance of her being able to help you.

Can I give you an example, well it's almost xmas so the parties will begin and you may not feel like going to them, and if your mum knows of your depression she will come in and support you by saying 'sorry Mikaela would love to come but she's not feeling too good today', this will then stop you from telling them, because the other people will ask 'why not', and true to form as all mothers do will end the conversation.

She will be your greatest ally. L Geoff. x

MikaelaB · ‎29-10-2013

I'm not to sure. Although she knows that I don't want to work much any more and would rather sleep everyday because I have nothing to look forward to in life..

Helen04 · ‎29-10-2013

Hi Mikaela,

I have a bit of a different twist to the depression issue for you to think about. If you had fallen over and broken your leg, Would you see a doctor? Yes of course, so because it's the brain why are you thinking twice. I've had depression for many years, my daughter which is 29 also suffers bouts of depression where she needs medication. We live in different countries but she'll send an email like, why can't i be happy, have i ever been happy? We talk a lot. She hates medication because i think she sees it as a weakness, Eventually I convince her to go to the doctor and a week later, she's "I don't scream at my kids any more and i love my partner". She can see the light at the end of the tunnel (bad pun) she can feel happy again. It's nothing to be embarrassed about, think of the broken arm or leg. It sounds as though your mum has a good attitude to your wellbeing with no prejudices. Bring her on board with you, tell her, she probably only wants you to be happy. Doctors see it as a medical issue not an emotional one. You don't have to feel this way,

take care

geoff · ‎30-10-2013

dear MikaelaB, point taken, and it's a difficult situation for you, bl------y depression it's such a cruel illness.

When I had to put my little 18 year dog down, I said to the vet 'please take my right arm off just to make her better', that's how upset I was, but although I had to leave her there, she didn't stop licking my hands, god I loved her so much, and still today I find it so hard to get over her not being with me.

I know that this has nothing much that relates to your post, but it's just the love we can have someone or somebody.

I think what I am trying to say at this early hour of 1.25am, is that your mum cares for you, and it's wrong to try and force someone with depression out of bed, as this only makes the situation worse, however there are occasions when this may have to be done. L Geoff. x

MikaelaB · ‎31-10-2013

Hi Helen, I honestly don't like seeking help so I would prefer to suffer with the pain. I hate people caring for me or worrying about me..

geoff · ‎01-11-2013

dear MikaelaB, by saying ' I hate people caring for me or worrying about me', to me this means that you are deep in depression, because that's exactly how I felt at the beginning of my depression. Take care and please keep talking to us. L Geoff. x

vip · ‎02-11-2013

Mi Mikaela we have a lot in common there I am exactly the same i really hate asking for help and yes go really funny when people do try and help because i think what do they really want. But after my traumatic experience with depression if i never let the professionals in to help and family i would of never got better . Unfortunately with depression you cant do it on your own i would say mum is the best person to get you through this and get you the professional help . Hope you are aiming to get this help soon let us know if you do and how it goes. take care

MikaelaB · ‎02-11-2013

I don't know if I can, I'm so afraid of telling her..

Jo3 · ‎02-11-2013

Hey Mikaela

I'm sure your mum would understand that you are afraid. But pls just let her know, don't be scared. Don''t worry about asking for help because right now you need the help, love and support and I am sure your mum would do just that.

Just let her know that you aren't feeling too great and you need some help. I am sure that once you tell her she will be very supportive.

You know I have 3 children and one is about your age and if one of them was going through depression I would hope that they could come up to me and ask for help or even just say that they aren't well and need help. I would hate to think that they would be going through this on their own and struggle to decide or afraid to tell me (their mum).

I hope you can speak to her soon. Hope you keep in touch, take care

Jo xx